How to make her trust me back again?

[Lonely2k]

So I made a mistake of coming late to her dates and lying about where I was so I wouldn't get in so much trouble I did turn up anyways maybe like 10 or 15mins late. Now she wants a break from meeting each other I know I've broken her trust and she doesn't trust me anymore. Anyone has any ideas on how I can build her trust through just texts since she doesn't want to meet me for a while? I've apologised multiple times and said I would change but she stil isn't convinced what so please help me find someway to build her trust over text.

Updates

+1 y

Sorry for the mistake guys it actually she doesn't trust me because I wrote a apology letter using Ai and I passed it off as my own

[Nawlins34]

You can't "make" her do anything.

Words can't vouch for actions you've taken.

• You showed up late (how late is irrelevant)
• You lied to cover your tracks and she probably saw through it

The aforementioned all point to the same statement you said to her which is, "I don't value your time."

She got the message and she's responding. Kudos to her for respecting her time and setting boundaries.

If you had a lead, you gave it up, which isn't attractive to women.

" I've apologised multiple times and said I would change but she stil isn't convinced" - Stop apologizing and the problem is "said" not show.

If she's this good with setting boundaries, you may have already lost her and it's better you move on.

But here's a good exercise that may serve you with women in general in the future.

1.) Stop apologizing because constantly doing so isn't attractive. You acknowledge and apologize once.

2.) If you're really sincere, simply tell her that you want to earn her trust and ask what can you do to regain it. If there's a path, she knows it. If she doesn't provide one, you're wasting your time.

2.) If it's over, no problem - she's only one person. But you don't lose the lesson here which is value people's time and that your actions/inactions speak as well and sometimes better than words.

Don't be afraid of failing with women, no one knows it all. We learn as we go, be safe and good luck.

[Lonely2k]

Im doing something to change thanks for your advice

[coachTanthony]

How about you just move on and do better next time. Deep down it's your ego that wants forgiveness not that you deep down care about her. Young people get addicted to second chances because it's their ego that runs their lives.

[Lonely2k]

She hasn't given up on me yet im actively doing something to change my behaviours. Its really not ego this time I know for sure since we forgive each other during bad days. I've really cried when she's sick not just when she told me that she wants a break

[coachTanthony]

Why are your behaviors so bad in the first place? When you meet someone you really care about your behaviors change automatically... don't need to be worked on.

[Lonely2k]

I quit most of my addictions when i met her I felt a genuine sense of love towards her so I did everything I could to be better myself just that my time management is shit

[coachTanthony]

You mean drug addiction?

[Lonely2k]

Nope i mean porn alcholol and among other things

[Lonely2k]

Although I know it bad I've genuinely quit it because of her and I won't even touch it again

[provokeesmokee]

You fucked up.

Learn your lesson, and let her go. It's too late.

Sometimes, when you learn your lesson too late and instead of learning you just make the same mistake again and again, people will just give up on you. And that's their right.

If someone kept lying to you for something so petty as "I was late to our date and made up lies to try to avoid your anger at my lateness", would you really let them convince you otherwise *via text*?

No. You'd ignore them.

So, take your L, learn your lesson, and be honest next time.

[Sasha0426]

She gave you too many chances and realized it’s not worth it anymore. I mean, why would you be late in the first to the point where you had to lie?

[Lonely2k]

Im sorry for the confusion I actually lied about writing a apology letter using ai then just passing it off as my own thats why she doesn't trust me anymore

[rm_llort]

10-15 minutes is well within acceptable lateness both ways. You're better off without someone who is going to ride you for such a minor slip. Imagine if you actually made a serious mistake, that girl gonna leave you for dead. Good riddance I say.

[Lonely2k]

I just lied to her about an apology letter that was half ai written thats why she's mad at me sorry for the earlier confusion

[rm_llort]

Hahaha an AI apology letter that's genius! How did she find out it wasn't you?

[Lonely2k]

It lacked emotions and I admitted to it afterwards

[rm_llort]

haha. Nah man it was a genius move. What tool did you use? GPT?

[Lonely2k]

Yep why is it a genius move?

[RavVid]

If it was being late by 10-15 minutes I would say that would be annoying but not major. I like being bang on time but others aren't like that so not big deal.

Think maybe you should rethink her.

[magiusX26]

give it time. if its fixable then in time it will start to repair. also if given any further opportunity to be around/with her, do NOT repeat these same fuck ups. if it is not fixable, move on and learn from this. you can not force trust.

[Lonely2k]

Ok I will do so thanks so much for the help

[BoopBoopBeep]

Do better next time. You waste people's time that's inexcusable if chronic. You lie about it on top, your not demonstrating the type of man anyone is going to want to date.

[BoopBoopBeep]

After the update, and what you've already disclosed... you're probably just better off moving on and learning from your mistakes. This dumpster fire will never smell like roses.

[Beautyblossom2]

10-15 mins isn't much of a reason in my opinion. You sure that's the only problem?

[Lonely2k]

I actually messed up yhe question I lied to her about using a ai bot to write me an apology letter then passing it off as my own so sorry for the confusion

[BigDog1989]

All you can do is start telling the truth, and not being a fucking retard, she may never trust you again, but, if you are a decent person, she may.

That's why I don't like trump. He NEVER tells the truth

[REX_JSWL]

Look being late 10-15 minutes couple of times is not an big issue
Your relationship wasn't strong enough

[Lonely2k]

She told me she constantly reminded me being late was a big deal its just that my apology letter was half written by a bot and i passed it off as my own so she doesn't really trust me now

[Anonymous]

I dated a girl who'd show up 1-3 hours late every time.
Your girl needs to relax

[Lonely2k]

Its ok for her to come late but not for me to do so :(((

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly. Women... 🤦‍♂️

[Opinion Owner]

Love your update by the way. Thays hilarious

[OddBeMe]

She sounds like a bitch. Dump her.

[Lonely2k]

she's not she really isn't she a sweetheart if she was a bitch I wouldn't have cried my heart out for her then

[OddBeMe]

Bitches about 10 min late? Fckin kiddin me? I guess we all got something. My wife keeps leaving the wet towels jumbled on the floor instead of hanging it to dry. I’ve told her I’ve told her I’ve told her

[Lonely2k]

I shouldve listen to my elders when they said trust is important I should've listened when they said being on time is important I should've listened when they said lying about something is bad I'm just so far down the hole I'm just lost I really am now she's asking me the question "what am I lost all the time" to be honest I don't know she's not with me that's probably why

[OddBeMe]

You shouldn’t have to care about your elders or about her freaking out over ten to fifteen minutes. I’m always late. It’s aloof. Shrug.

That ain’t love mate. She’s controlling you, maybe thinking you’re talking to other girls. Either way she immature. But again, we all make decisions when picking mates. Can’t be perfect.

Like my wife with the towels. The goddamn towels.

[Subflics]

Some people don't do 2nd chances. Just move on

[Dkc123]

Stop simping boy..

[Lonely2k]

Im not simping yk it just hurts you know when she treats you like everyone else when you have gone through a lot with her

[Dkc123]

And if u keep on acting like this.. she'll be mad forever.. justvlet her realize your fine and doing fine.. and after while few days talk again she'll talk..

[Lonely2k]

I let her be its just that she came back and rubbed salt on my already healing wound I know she's angry but im just so lost I really am

[Beautyblossom2]

Salt... Bwahaha

[Kacka]

see no problem here.