Can I trust her?

[Anonymous]

I have a new girlfriend now, and I went after her knowing that she has an only fans account. I hate that she’s doing that, but I fell in love with her the second I saw her. I just knew I wanted to be with her. I told her that I’m not looking to get her nudes, or be just her fan. I want to get to know her and be more than that with her. Luckily enough, she ended up giving me a chance, and she’s deeply in love with me too. I don’t talk to her about her job, but it’s on the back of my mind sometimes. She said she’ll never do anything to hurt me, but I’m always hurting that random perverts get to stare at my girlfriend. I worry about if I’m the only guy sometimes, but I don’t know? I just want to trust her. She said she doesn’t care about money or looks from a guy. So am I foolish for trusting her?

[Anonymous]

You’re foolish for getting into a relationship with someone who has a profession such as hers that you can’t handle her working. It’s completely unfair to present trust issues now, having already known what her job is and what it demands. If she were a stripper when you met her you’re not going to yank her off stage because men are looking. Nope, it would’ve been better not to date her at all. Same goes for this, dude. She’s done absolutely nothing to warrant trust issues, so stop dragging them into your relationship. Either separate the woman from the job or do the hard thing and let her go.

[Asker]

I’ll never leave her because I made up my mind that I want to be with her despite this. If I’m foolish for dating her, I just say my heart never stops beating for her. I’ll trust her, but it’ll be on her. Not me because I’m giving her my heart. So it’s in her hands

[Opinion Owner]

What I’m saying is you’re foolish for dating her if you can’t trust her because she’s working a job you already knew she worked and you knew you don’t like. If you’re making the choice to let go of your issues then start doing the work today, because it’s not fair to put that on her.

[Asker]

I never even mentioned my issues because I buried them. Every day I’m with her, I love her more and more. She told she wants me, and me only. I just have it hard because I’ve been cheated on before. But with her, I trust her. I feel like she means everything she says to me, and I want to live her as long as possible

[Opinion Owner]

You should address your past trauma then, for sure. Do the work to heal from that, because not to be rude but you should’ve done that before this relationship. The worst thing you can do to a person is put your baggage on them because now she’s paying for what your ex did, and that’s not right. She deserves a clean slate, just like she gave you. So the best you can do for her and yourself now is work on your issues.

[Guy13]

She is going to take your time, money and heart.. Then she will write a story about it and post on her page. Stat away...