How can I trust my boyfriend after he betrayed me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend left me for his ex while we were living together a few days later he begged for me to take him back. I did after 2 weeks I been having a hard time trusting him again even though he gave me his phone password, he goes to work and come straight home and while he's at work he calls me, he compliments me everyday multiple times throughout the day, he barely go out but when he does I think he's lying about where he's going but then he calls me to let me know where he's at I still can't trust him I took him back 2 months ago how can I trust him again?

[caring__1]

He apparently hadn't resolved his past before he connected with you. That doesn't minimize his feelings toward you; he just wasn't ready to move on. He may have gotten closure by reconnecting with his ex, and that may be what he needed to move on. Ask him what he learned from this experience. You never want to ask for details of what they did, but you do want to know what he learned. Based on his answer, you'll be able to tell if he got closure and moved on or whether he's still waiting for her to be ready for him.

[Fa1con]

This is not a question others can answer for you. You have to decide for yourself if you can move past his betrayal (and it was a whole hearted betrayal, make no mistake) and treat him like you did before. If there is any doubt in your heart about it then it would be best for you to move on.

[Anonymous]

If you use TikTok, type in #cheater and you’ll see countless stories of women who were literally in contact or with their men all day, no indication of of him doing wrong and he still cheated. I’m not suggesting this to make you have doubts for no reason but I really believe ‘once a cheater always a cheater’. Don’t ignore your intuition you have it for a reason.

[LazerBean]

You can't, and taking him back is an ignorant move.

[spartan55]

Just break up with him ffs... your relationship sounds miserable

[BarryLiverstone]

Trust takes time. But did you have trust issues before him or is this the first person to betray you?

[Passing_by]

You can't. Once the trust is gone, there's no restoration. Just break up with him.

[Anonymous]

🤣🤣🤣 in the words of Bill Engvall "Here's your sign".

[Zolly99999]

Nope. Dump him and move on