I made my boyfriend feel betrayed, how can I reassure him?

[Anonymous]

I have an ex coworker that was one of the only people I get along with at work and we text sometimes, I tell my boyfriend what we talk about most of the time. He made an inappropriate comment once and while I wanted to tell my boyfriend about it at the time I ended up forgetting about it. If you're curious we were talking about fitness and I said I was a little overweight and I was considering signing up for a gim and he complimented me in response. I felt it was weird and changed subject then. Today my boyfriend wanted to look through the convo and I let him because I don't have anything to hide. He got upset when he saw the message. He tried to play it off as nothing but I can tell he feels betrayed. I feel so bad because I never intended to do hide anything but I understand him. I don't know how to make him feel better, I feel so bad to see him hurt I could cry. But when I try to talk to him about it he just pretends he didn't actually care and was joking when he reacted. I know he wasn't. Earlier he said that me trying to reassure him so much makes him think I have something to feel guilty for. What should I do? I know it's horrible to suspect being cheated on and I don't want to make my boyfriend feel that way when I would never ever cheat on him

[DannyUk2017]

You just boiled your own Hot water and Got in It!, so its fair to your boyfriend to be hurt, seeing that you are so "open" with your work colleagues, in his mind now plays the "cheating card", and he might feel threatened of not knowing when and where it will happen.

[Asker]

I sincerly want to reassure him as I would never cheat on him, what do you think I could do?

[DannyUk2017]

You could just have a face 2 face proper conversation, not at the movies, not in bed, maybe at a table at a cup of coffee

[Asker]

I want to, but anytime I try he just brushes it off or says I look even more suspicious for wanting to try to talk about it... I don't know maybe I should give him some space and wait?

[DannyUk2017]

You could give him space but in this "space" him to not "play the same card," on you...🤔

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[DannyUk2017]

I mean him to not "start" talking to one of his ex's so in case you see his phone, you could "feel" how he feels...

[WanderingLoveWizard]

You can reassure him by not talking to other guys anymore.
It's the only way

[Asker]

That's done already. He says he doesn't care but I know he does still

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Good, that's all you can do. He'll get over it

[007kingifrit]

you really should not be texting another man, he isn't interested in friendship

[OddBeMe]

Sit on his face