We started hanging out as friends and I had told him I was in a relationship. He said if I was happy I wouldn’t be hanging out with him, how I should sleep with him etc. So after a few times of hanging out he pulled me on his lap and I told him I wouldn’t kiss him but I ended up giving him a peck. I left my boyfriend after this because I had been unhappy for some time. I ended up dating the guy I cheated with. Now he had other relationships that caused him to have commitment issues because in many he got cheated on. We’ve been arguing lately because he has a drinking problem and I told him to get help. So last night he got upset and held me down and pointed out all my problems and how I don’t need to talk about his. For Christmas Eve he got drunk with a friend and didn’t call me like he said, then on Christmas Day same thing, he was supposed to come over but didn’t because he drank. He called me in the morning and I texted him I’d call him back in a few minutes and when I did he didn’t answer. He messaged that he’d call me later. He called me at dinner time to say he can’t come because he’s drunk while I waited hours for a call or text. I asked him why he couldn’t just say that he won’t come through call or text. He said he didn’t tell me he wouldn’t come over Christmas Day because I don’t answer his calls (if I’m busy I text him that I’ll call him later, or if I can’t answer). I was blaming the drinking but it seems he was just being hurtful on purpose. Then said he doesn’t trust me because I cheated on my ex with him.
It’s been 5 months now, and I’m not sure how I can get him to trust me and he doesn’t know how long it’ll take for him to trust me. Any ideas what I can do?
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You cheated on a boyfriend with him, and you expect him to trust you?
If they are willing to cheat with you, they will certainly cheat on you.
You both are serial cheaters, it is incredulous his actions surprise you.
I wouldn’t cheat on him. I had told him that I didn’t want to start anything off like that and he said he didn’t care because he was single. Then he says I don’t trust him because one time a friend invited him to her house for dinner and he got drunk and I was upset because he knows she likes him but he just went for food.
Your missing the point. Id bet you told your old boyfriend at some point " I would never cheat'. YOU CAN'T BE TRUSTED. all you have done is PROVE your word means exactly -0-. The moment shit goes south you will be on someone else's lap saying the exact same shit.
It doesn't matter what he said, he can tell you he is the sheik of Chicago and it wouldn't mean shit. You can only control what you do and say and either be worth trust or not worth a a second thought.
And if you believe he went just for food you are not only sadly mistaken but naive as well which is a worse combination. Your both serial cheats and liars. Enjoy dating your perfect partner and hope you are both learn just how much damage you do to your partners with your lying and cheating. I got no respect nor sympathy for you.
I never had to tell any of my exes to trust me because I never cheated on any of them even when in some the relationship was really bad. So just because it happened once doesn’t mean I’d do it again.
OK, I would anyone trust that? Just because you said so? Thats like trusting a tiger to act like a gerbil because it said "I like lettuce".
Sorry, bullshit is bullshit.
Dump him. He won't change.