Tell your boyfriend you cheated. This lesson could help him learn a very important lesson. One that will help him for the rest of his life. Nothing about this post surprised me since I consider the idea of a girlfriend to be just a myth.
''I will tell him. I’m just not ready to lose him yet.''
Such a statement is very telling...
Well, it’s true. I really adore him and I’m very attached to him. It would be very hard to separate myself from him right now
I often advise people to disregard all words, and to focus exclusively on a persons actions... hence why you need to hide your actions from him because they reveal a truth that words can conceal.
Yeah, plus I know he would be hurt beyond repair. He is extremely emotional.
Your boyfriend will probably eventually find out. I would tell him. If you feel terrible about it, he'll take it better knowing you told him soon after it happened. If you wait or he finds out another way the likelihood of him forgiving you decreases.
Sigh. He won’t find out. He lives in a different state than I do.
Yes I am certain, my ex doesn’t know I have a boyfriend so they will never cross paths, literally never. I can’t say that I regret it. I don’t think I do. I just feel bad for him bc he’s a great guy. Yet, I’m not ready to lose him. But I also feel like he deserves to know. And with him knowing will destroy his world I know this.
He does deserve to know. I give a girl two chances to cheat, if she tells me soon after without prompting, but if she doesn't or I prompt her it's over. I can't say that he's the same, but if he won't stay with you when he finds out you have to decide how much you want to hurt him.
One day this Policeman made a traffic stop miles away from his home in a different state. In the car he found his wife was in the backseat with another man...
You need to tell him
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u You should tell your boyfriend that your pussy is for sale and he got outbid.
I don't what it exactly means.
I mean if there is a different / deeper meaning to it, I bet there is.
@EaterPeter It means that this girl is acting like a whore!
An attention whore, to be exact 😊
Ok, thanks!
This is a horrible story. This is exactly why dudes should have a zero tolerance policy for "just friends", exes and guy friends. I'm not trying to control you. Be immature, toxic, insecure. WTF other swear words you have. I just want a serious monogamous relationship. Not some high school level entitled "but but but" exes and he's just a friend BS situation. Not a one way street where she gets to act single while I am traditional and committed. Nope. Thanks for the warning. I hope your boyfriend escapes with his sanity and becomes your ex. Then you can cheat on your next boyfriend with him.
I agree with you
Well... Listen here. here are some possibilities how things will work out..
: IF YOU TELL HIM ABOUT THIS THINGS
1) He'll get mad as fuck, that you'll betray him.
2) He'll get silent and cry in the corner and then he'll get depressed
3) He'll try to understand things and try to put all trust back on you
4) He'll leave you. BREAK UP
5) He'll be with you as it is.. but never trust you in entire life.
: IF YOU DIDN'T TELL HIM ABOUT THINGS THINGS
1) You'll regret this in your life
2) He'll find it out somehow and things will be worst
HONESTLY IF YOU DIDN'T TELL HIM ABOUT THIS... THINGS WILL GET WORSE..
so according to me.. try to explain about all this situation.
and I hope he'll understand.
The fact that you cheated is harsh enough; you also said he trusts you completely and that is just heartbreaking. An individual willing to put their whole trust into you is so rare. He is not just believing you wouldn’t cheat, he is also trusting you with his heart. This level of trust means he never thought you’d hurt him.
If you lie to him and keep him in the dark about this, you are taking advantage of and mocking his pure nature. You may think this will hurt him, and yes it may end your relationship. But this won’t go away. If he has future relationships, you have ingrained this doubt in his mind in himself and other women. He will always wonder if they want him; will they hurt him like you did? Please tell him, don’t destroy him any further.
You’re deceptive and manipulative. You keep people around as long as they serve you. You lack empathy and rationalize your behavior and have convinced yourself that you’re “sweet”. Any opportunity to personally gain from a situation, you’ll take regardless of who you hurt along the way. As long as it serves you personally. I’d tell him so that he can leave and find someone who’s mentally fit to have a monogamous relationship. These selfish acts leave scars and I’d advise you to seek therapy and to not date anyone until you tackle your issues. That way you don’t hurt anyone else.
God I hope you're trolling. You sound like a horrible person all around. Your boyfriend is trusts you entirely and you cheat on him and break his trust? Just do everyone a favor and break up with him and the ex. And work on yourself more. I'm not even a cheater or have ever been bad to anyone I've ever dated and even I need to seriously work on myself.
That’s good, I’m glad you’re able to acknowledge that about yourself.
It IS a troll. Just looking for attention even if bad. ha ha Only some scum sucking maggot would do that to a boyfriend she supposedly adores. *rolls eyes*
Lol errr okay 🙄😂😂😂
Wow, this was painful to read. Your poor boyfriend. First of all, you've been lying to him for who knows who long about your ex being just a guy friend. Your boyfriend has blindly trusted you all this time, even though you were outright lying to him. Then you betray his trust even further by cheating on him, and pour salt in the wound by reading him your gag post and not telling him the truth.
As for your ex, you keep him around because he pays for your stuff? That's so sweet of you (sarcasm, for anyone who missed it).
I honestly hope this is a troll post, because if it's not, you are truly a horrible person.
Honesty is important in a relationship even if you fuck up, so I'd say tell him. If he's being cheated on he at least deserves to know so he can decide whether he wants to put up with that or not.
He’s gonna leave I know this.
Perhaps
You sound like you are a cruel person and this is just a joke to you by the way you are replying to the people here giving you advice. You think this is funny and just love the attention. I can’t actually believe you read your post out to him, that speaks volumes about you- that really is quite sick and disturbing and you were dying to see his reaction. Yuck this is just a game to you.
Sooo Im taking this as a joke bc I actually agree with what others are saying? Lmao how about I’m just not in denial 🤣
If you can't be honest with him about this, what else won't you be able to be honest with him about?
Now is not the time to worry about consequences, that was before you cheated. Now is the time to figure out your future with him.
Poor guy. He actually thought that women can have "guy friends". You should tell him everything so that he learns what a whorish, conniving woman looks like first hand.
I will tell him when the timing is right 😘
Yes tell him, he has a right to know and it's highly disrespectful. No offense but you sound like a real piece of shit
It is what it is 🤷♀️
You're a cheating whore that knows better and is considering keeping it from him. You have no respect for yourself or him and I'd dump your ass immediately if you tried to pull that shit on me
Anything else? Lol
And this is exactly why I tell simps not to put any emotion into a woman until after they earned it. And even after they earned it, they are still going to probably cheat on you. SMH some people in this world
*yawn*
If you have a soul, you'll tell him, and accept it with grace when he rightfully dumps you.
If you are a disgusting harpy, you will conceal it and continue to drain him like a vampire for your own benefit and comfort.
thats a nightmare indeed... its sad, whys the other guy your ex if you still want him... please tell your boyfriend about it. this sucks, honestly, I'm cringing
i really hope he finds someone much better and moves on easily and wish him the best
Well, looks like someone put his trust in the wrong person. Nice attempt at trolling.
Who am I trolling
Everyone who believes someone would stab her boyfriend in the back to have sex with her Ex. I mean no one can be that heartless, and then brag about it.
Don’t confuse my acceptance of the situation with bragging. Just bc I agree with what everyone is saying doesn’t mean I’m bragging lol.
No, you are either bragging or a dick. Maybe both. And like I said, also heartless.
I think people are upset because I’m accepting and I agreeable of everyone’s opinions. Lol. But I guess I’m definitely being a dick:)
If you tell him he might forgive in time but I very much doubt it as the whole friendship lie was exactly that a lie. If you don't tell him the truth will come out in time and then there will be no going back. One thing for sure is that you cheated because you're not over your ex. What ever the outcome you would never be trusted again.
I would never want to date my ex. We are cool, he is always there for me and does things for me. The sex was kinda an accident bc we were both under the influence
If this is on one time mistake, don't say a word. This kind of thing can crush the fragile male ego. Did you use protection against STD's? That might be an issue.
No we had sex unprotected and he came inside of me. But yeah it was a one time thing.
@Shamalien In you humble opinion, her boyfriend deserves the truth. And if you have to use profanity you surrender you pseudo intellectual superiority. But that is ok, I don't expect too much from Canadians.
No, not in my humble opinion, by the laws of morality which are SET IN STONE, her boyfriend deserves to know THE TRUTH as she has betrayed his trust and DECEIVING people who trust you is WRONG, IT IS UNIVERSALLY, NOW AND FOREVER, TILL THE END OF TIME WRONG
Yeah Canadians are pretty fuckin bad eh? Not gunna lie. This one has a point though. Just because you’ve had a long life full of immoral actions you’re looking to justify does not mean you should lead others to those same bad decisions
@Shamalien Your moral judgment sounds like the Spanish Inquisition. In reality, your moral views are simple and childlike, and your vulgarity is pathetic. I will say again, I don’t expect much, from an ignoramus. And it does not matter where you live. The religious police in Afghanistan could use a simpleminded child like you.
It is my sad observation to find that our digital age has damaged the human mind. Humans have had their brains reduced to a digital on/off switch. The human mind is billions of interconnected cells. Digital devices have damaged that interconnected function and retarded the true function of our human brains. It leads to a society and culture that has regressed back into tribalism and away from definition of a classical liberal arts education. Free thought is stifled. The ability to have an opinion has been criminalized and ostracized. Humanity will not overcome our differences unless we accept those differences as acceptable and not evil. I have an opinion; it does not make me evil or stupid.
@Shamalien Now go chew on a hockey puck.
Some people never grow up. If I am truly at a low level, then by god you sure have stooped to it. Hockey puck insults XD pathetic.
Lets just remember that it’s me who would tell the truth if I cheated because I respect my partner enough to do the right thing
You would cheat and say nothing, let them believe a fantasy.
We’ll let the audience choose who they’d rather date XD can’t see many women opting for you’re mode of operation
@Shamalien I was married 26 years and never cheated. That is who I am. But people are human and humans make mistakes. And I would rather be judged by The Lord, that subject myself to the ridged human morality that plagues you digitally damaged mind. I know you think you know everything at your age. But you don't, and as long as your mind is closed off you will fumble around until judgement day. Using the F words does not make you cool, just ignorant and vulgar. Turn off you computer and read a book an trying to be humble.
Oh buzz off. You actually think my use of the f word is worse than concealing the fact that you cheated from your partner. PEOPLE HAVE A RIGHT TO KNOW TRUTH AND IF YOU CARE ABOUT SOMEONE YOU WOULDN’T DECEIVE THEM LIKE THAT
Tell me to read a book... the internet is the biggest book in the world, get with it.
Sounds like you need to end the relationship. If you don’t tell him at least break up with him. That is probably what he will want if you told him about it.
Since you cheated , it may not be the relationship for you so go ahead and tell him. No one wants to be “a great guy” as you say. We don’t like being abused either
Another day another slut. His problem for not picking up on your physiognomy from the beginning.
He really believes it is not in my character.
He'd laugh at me for pointing your slutty dresses and tattoos and loose mouth out.
Sounds kinda personal 😂
Why even ask unless u are just looking for validation so u betrayed the trust of your boyfriend if u cared about him ot wouldn't have happened so nit sure really why u even care to ask
I ask to see others opinions on the situation. It’s only betrayal if he knows.
No its betrayal regardless just would be u continuing to lie for you're selfishness from your responses you are showing u was not looking for opinions u wanted people to tell u its fine and to just keep it a secret which again u will do what u want but u clearly dont care for this guy
I care about him in some aspect. I guess I’m just more selfish than anything.
Yeah I guess I could agree with that. But I Don’t know if I’m ready to lose him just yet because he makes me feel good emotionally. I feel like I just need constant attention that he isn’t always able to give and that’s where I mess up
Yeah I guess you could say that. At least I’m able to be aware of the problem and acknowledge that there’s an issue. I also want to be able to fix it too. I just know deep down inside that I’m not ready to let my boyfriend go because I am attached to him.
Lol you may be aware but don't lie u don't want to fix the issue that's a complete lie if u did u would be making steps to fix it instead u are pushing it under the rug and hiding the problem let's not pretend u care about your boyfriend u don't your actions show u don't care about him u are just not willing to lose what he gives u
Hey maybe you’re right. I want to be able to tell him though. It’s easier said then done. And being that he’s an emotional guy, I know this will hurt him beyond repair so I’m kinda uneasy on how he will react
U keep trying to claim u wish u could tell him or u wanted to when the truth is u don't again I'm not sure why so many like to be a shit person then act like they don't mean to or they have no other choice if u cared for him being emotional u simply would have never cheated don't act like telling him is what would hurt him its not what hurt him is your actions u are simply now hiding it from him if u want to be a cheater be 1 don't claim u don't mean to or wish things where didfernt as thats just u trying to justify your actions for your conscious
@shamalien I plan to tell him. I have to figure the right words because it’s a delicate situation
I do not disagree with you @boggboss
I do plan to tel him. It might now be today or tomorrow but in due time
We shall see :) I will come to update when it happens 💜
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You boy friend is poor ignorant b****** like my self. You're keeping him around for wrong reasons. If you want to f around please let him go.
Your boy friend is poor ignorant b****** somewhat the way I was with my ex. I liked that woman so much and she always would make me feel so insecure. I am pretty sure she kept me around to pay her bills and get ocassional sex. There is a precise label for that friends with benefits.
Thanks for like!
How did she make you feel insecure?
Thanks for likes!
Lol np
She implied most of the time that she is seeing other people. Fed my insecurities. I may have made her feel same not knowingly. I think she was saying all those things knowingly. Why can't woman just simply say babe I need hug.
a woman *
Can you please hold me for little longer little tighter or just the way you do. I feel real good in your arms. You give me exact dose of tlc I prefer when you hold me that way.
What's wrong with any of the above?
If your decision impacts someone's life they deserve to know and get to decide whether to stay or go
And girls wonder why plenty of men are turning into red pill nowadays. Posts like this. You keep your ex around to PAY YOUR BILLS? What the actual fuck? 🚩🚩🚩🚩
No my ex wants to do these things. I never asked him lol
As you get older guys get better at spotting whores. Your whoring will catch up with you one day... you will be like super fat people hooked on junk food who want to get a fit person interested in them. It's not going to work.
So far it’s working 😘
Ladies and gentlemen, I give you exhibit A.
You really need to tell him. That poor guy trusts and loves you and you cheated. I've had this happen to me and its horrible.
I know I feel bad , he’s genuinely a great guy. Super loving and passionate.
14 inch what? Lmao
That’s way too much lmfao 👎
Well good luck with that.
Yeah totally not interested hahaha.
I’m cool with 6-7 in. That’s perfect for me
🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
It's your choice to tell him or not. Just realize that if he finds out from another source, how that's going to affect your relationship.
Just goes to say, women cheat too
So, why are they always blaming us for it
I think most women blame men for cheating because most women have a guilty conscious and begin to project. Most insecure women will think that others also capable of such behavior and begin to project, hence the blaming.
I do think women are more strategic when it comes to cheating and WAY more sneaky
EXACTLY
You won't believe me now cuz you're enjoying this but you’re gonna get karma. And it will hurt so bad. Enjoy it while it lasts.
Ante you’re going to get karma for every wrong you’ve committed in life. So enjoy your karma as well 😘
*yawn*
well. time to own up to your fuck ups and tell him. you won't be able to continue this relationship with this lie long term anyway. just get it over with. he may leave you but that's what you have to accept as a possible consequence of your actions.
also: why would you keep staying financially dependend on an ex? does your boyfriend know this?
Nope he doesn’t know. I’m not financially dependent on my ex, he just likes to go above and beyond and do these things for me and a kind gesture.
well how'd you feel if the ex of your partner does that thing for them?
I would obviously not be happy. But that’s why I don’t tell my boyfriend bc I don’t want him to feel any unhappiness.
so would you be ok if your boyfriend did that but just didn't tell you about it as to not make you unhappy?
That was worded super weird, but sure, what I don’t know, won’t kill me lmao.
really. would you care if your boyfriend cheated on you, if he just never told you?
i'm just checking your own morals and your own standards. because to me it feels like you're somehow expecting your boyfriend not to hold you up to the standard that you'd hold him op to.
I said what I said lol what I don’t know, won’t kill me 😊
Relationships that are based on lies and dishonesty aren't long term stable. So if a long term stable relationship is what you want, you can't keep lying to partners.
Lol thanks for the advice. Lmao.
You slept with another man? You are obligated to tell him. If you tell him, you aren’t that bad a person. If you don’t... then you are truly human trash and fuck you
What he doesn’t know won’t kill him.
Just try to not to cheat again
I was kinda of thinking this. I know if I tell him he would 100% leave me no doubt.
That sounds like something a guy overheard at an STD clinic...
your boyfriend deserves nothing but the best... so give him my number cause you ain’t shit
What’s your number?
Yikes. Sounds like dude deserves better. Karmas a bitch.
🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
I think you should be honest and tell him what happened.
You just stabbed your boyfriend in the back and now he's stuck with a cheater who would do something like that to him.
You're a narcissist looking for more attention.
Deep down you probably believe that even negative attention is good attention.
Nah I don’t.
Actually….. now that you mention it. I do feel some type of fulfillment whether good or bad attention. So I think you could be on to something 🤔🤔🤔
Tell him and then get back together with your ex, since you will be dumped.
You literally said you would "never" betray him and then did exactly that.
Leave him. Go back to your ex so he can remind you why you left
Hi. Original poster here. I think you lacked a little reading comprehension. I said HE believes I would never betray him. I never once started that I personally wouldn’t.
You are right , how stupid of me. Since we are on the subject of reading/writing :
"I never one started that i personally wouldn't"
Your going to destroy that man , just hurry up and tell him.
You better tell him before he finds out. And, if he breaks up with you, it will serve you right for being unfaithful
People like you make me sick. Your boyfriend deserves way better.
I’m sorry I make you sick lol
ohh well you got your answer, well you failed that is that probably try to get over it and not do it again? Through I really see you the cheating type and probably will.
Why don’t you go back to your ex. Since you keep him around for the benefits.
Don’t be hurting your boyfriend. If that is what he is.
My ex chooses to do these things, I don’t ask him
No, I think you are misunderstanding. My ex doesn’t know I have a boyfriend. My ex buys me things and pays for my bills because he likes doing those types of things. I do not ask him to do that. And when I try to create distance between my ex and I, he insists on doing those things for me.
Sure, if you want to put it that way. Hahah 😊
tell him... he should know what kind of person you really are...
Tell him, you obviously are not happy being with him if you cheated. He hS a right to know you are unhappy.
You really need therapy and to not be in a relationship...
But I’m so attached to my boyfriend 🥺🥺🥺
So you choose to continue to be a human tornado and wreck other good people for no reason. You seem to have a void inside of you that you fill with external attention rather than from the inside. This will continue to be problem in every worthwhile romantic relationship you have.
I’m 100% aware of that.
As long as you're aware. I'm sorry for you, and I hope you'll eventually take the steps necessary to heal from whatever trauma made you this way.
Thank you 💜
Tell your boyfriend so he can break up with you., You sound like a nightmare.
No I’m actually quite sweet & he is blind sided by it, because he is so loving and compassionate towards me.
I will tell him. I’m just not ready to lose him yet.
But I am though :) that’s how he fell for me
If we meet in person you would never know that I am capable of committing such an act.
If that’s your perception and opinion, then I accept that.
It will come around and bite you. Be careful.
Maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship with him.
its better if he hears it from you
Wow... so glad to be single
Not every girl is like me :)
Same here. Best thing I ever did. Commitment is a myth in this culture.
Perhaps it could be perceived as a myth. Not every woman has a dark side like myself.
I guess one could say that:)
How you know that, maybe he is using you only for sex ☺️?
No, he is deeply invested in our relationship.
Tell him. You owe him that much.
Tell him he deserves better
Damn. Why you do that?
Was horny and mad bc my boyfriend wasn’t giving me attention or texting me back
You should tell your boyfriend
Leave him. He deserves better than a dumpster.
To the street you shall disappear
decent trolling effort B+
i can buy you some laundry too😉
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