How do you recover when you already had this happen?

[Anonymous]

So I already have really low self esteem I’m 31 never thought I would get a girlfriend. Somehow I did but now due to my appearance and fact im on the autism spectrum she’s leaving me after 2 years. Is the best course of action understanding that I don’t measure up against other guys I’m ugly and on the autism spectrum so I don’t offer anything of value to a girl.

[Anonymous]

Just because she's leaving you doesn't mean that you're not a good person or that you don't offer anything of value. It just means that you guys were not meant to be together. She's definitely not the only girl you will ever have a chance with.

And being on the autism spectrum doesn't make you a worse person, or less "valuable" in any way. You're just a unique individual who brings your own unique qualities to the table.

Don't be so hard on yourself and don't give up. Keep working on improving yourself and you will find a new girlfriend in time.

[sheenagwapa]

yoy sure you are ugly? and beinh autistic in my opinion is as "date-able" as with NT

[Anonymous]

The best course of action is to work on your self esteem, self love and seek God, scripture and prayer. The majority of women have exactly the same issues you just described and are never happy. Seek your happiness from within, not without.

[Anonymous]

Resigning himself and learning to be a free man, and that a man should not be emotionally dependent on a woman. Courtship is for adolescents and young adults, in people over 25 it is pathetic.

[Anonymous]

I understand -I cancel dates because I'm very physically unattractive.