How can I politely and without offending a girl I’m dating ask her body count? Is that okay to ask before getting serious with her?

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

[Avicenna]

Never ask a woman her body count. It's an insulting question and, if you get a specific answer, you may not like it anyway.
I have never asked this question, nor have I ever been asked it by a woman.

[In_Trance]

Don't

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

Why not

[In_Trance]

Because you'll never truly know whether you're getting an honest answer or not and either way what do you do with that information?

[Anonymous]

All women lie about body count, so there is no point in asking. But the fact that you feel the need to ask strongly suggests she is not girlfriend material or that on some level you know she is not relationship material. Do not listen to anyone that says you should not be concerned with body count. This culture preaches lies, pedestalization of sin, and the embracing of lies and promiscuity. Seek truth, high quality and morals in all things.

Also do not listen to those who says things like 'if she doesn't have any STD's then...'

That is ignoring that we are both physical and spiritual beings. A woman with a high body count will have soul ties, emotional impact and it will strongly effect her ability to bond with any man.

But one can ascertain the body count of a woman by watching how she acts, listening to how she talks, particularly about men, sex and relationships. Also pay attention to how she sees herself, her energy, the company she keeps and do not tell her specifics of what you prefer lest she will simply become whatever that is.

[EricSummer]

Best find out her attitude to faithfulness, loyalty and long-term commitment. A number will not really tell you what you want to know, apart from the fact that it may be a lie anyway.

A good way to embark on this topic is to talk about others, for example celebrities, and exchange opinions about their behavior. You can also carefully offer some information about your dating past and thereby invite her to offer some of her own in turn.

You will usually find out of she is into hookups or genuinely looking for love.

Also consider that a woman may sometimes have been mislead by guys in her quest for love and thereby may have added some jerks to her body count. It is not fair to count them and it will not adversely impact her ability to bond with you later. Prior disappointment would rather make her want to stay with you even more.

So I would not ask for a number of sex partners.

[DextroShade]

You won't get an honest answer and if you did you probably wouldn't like it. You should look at the way she acts to figure out her body count instead of asking.

Does she have tattoos or piercings?
Does she keep in contact with her exes?
Does she post scantily-clad pics on IG?
Does she have a bunch of pics of herself on yachts, in supercars, or at exotic destinations that you know some dude paid for?
Any history of sex work including stripper, bottle girl, or OF?

These are the things you should be looking at to estimate her body count.

[liel443]

You can't, it is offending by nature. If you wanted to know how many men she had slept with out of curiosity about her because you want to get to know get better, than there were ways you could ask, but the fact that you call it a body count shows this isn't the case, so just don't ask.

[provokeesmokee]

Why do you need to ask?

If you're worried about STIs, just ask to both test and share results.

[RavVid]

I think you can only ask about her past. How many bfs etc. I'd put in a context of how she sees her life going and what she has done rather thank ask how many cocks have been in her. She'll probably only admit to boyfriend's and not to the hook ups.

[slatyb]

It's not a polite question. Why does it matter to you?

[inhua]

there's definitely a way to do this but I won't divulge this secret here

[BlackJeep]

If you can't be open and honest and talk about EVERYTHING with her, than you should not be in a serious long term relationship with her.

[exitseven]

This is not a good plan. There is no good way to do this.

[Lokiion]

There’s no point in asking the chance of you getting an honest answer if any answers is very low also you can just tell by how they act

[Anonymous]

Ofcourse its okay. If she gets offened just leave.

[Anonymous]

Just ask man. If she gets offended you know it's because it's too many and she knows it.

[Jmmmfi4]

Some questions you don't want to know the answers to

[Agape93]

You don't. It's not your business anyways.

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

It’s my business if I’m dating her

[Agape93]

No it isn't. It's HER past, HER sexual history. You are NOT entitled to HER history. You are NOT entitled to aspects of HER personal life she doesn't wish to share.

You may think you are, but you are not. That's not up for debate, kiddo. Welcome to life

[Mr-take-yo-girl]

I’m not a kid first of all in a grown ass man. I also am supposed to know her history I don’t want to catch aids

[Agape93]

If you want to be seen as an adult, act like it. Don't act like some entitles brat.

And if you want to avoid diseases, have her get tested at the doctors. THAT is how you find that out, and has fuck all to do with her sexual history.

[Truthatanycost]

Since when did asking anyone a question make them entitled to anything? she is free to choose not to answer...

[LazerBean]

Maybe start by telling her yours.

[Lokiion]

That’s so random imagine talking to her and randomly saying “my body count is such and such what’s yours”

[LazerBean]

Obviously not without any lead up to it.

[Lokiion]

Yeah I know but how are you even supposed to lead up to that I can’t think of a single way to lead up to that without it being kinda weird

[LazerBean]

There are lots of topics that are weird but necessary to find out long term compatibility, this one should be treated no differently. I get where you're coming from though.