How to ask a girl her body count without being rude?

[Anonymous]

I'm struggling with how to ask a girl about her past partners without sounding rude. I'm concerned about dating someone with a high number of body count, and it’s just a personal preference. Any advice?

[ohsheeT]

The moment you ask her that's going to be rude it's nobody's business

If she wants to bring it up and talk about it then fine but the moment you say body count she's going to shut down and say it's none of your business and it's nobody's business there's different ways to say if you had sex or have you had a lot of boyfriends or something but when you say body count that just turns the whole nice time into something bad I wouldn't ask her if I was you I would never asked a girl that to be honest it would come up someplace and she would bring it up
And if you're serious about her and she's serious about you just say would it be responsible if we didn't or if we did go get tested I want to do that for you and you know hello LOL but you don't need to ask her how many guys she's been with that's just ridiculous and rude to a point

[lightbulb27]

have to do that in the moment not some planned question. something indirect...

"So buffy [vampire slayer ]... you know her? took out 300 vampires... how many vampires would you finish off"? ask on Halloween if you can...

it doesn't matter what the answer is, you have to assume the answer and go from there... just like all other answers... and move on.

now if she's wearing a shirt that says "1 billion served"... probably should run... you are out done.

my point is... if you cannot laugh and joke and play indirect with her, you are too logical... forget it...

[mandyfire98]

You don't because it doesn't matter anyway. If she tells you she's only been with 1 or 2 guys but lies about it and you never know the true number, does it really matter? 20 years later and you're married to her and you have kids and life is going great but she didn't tell you her true number still, did it truly matter? You'll never truly know and you'll still have a happy life even with a false answer. Teuly showing that it doesn't matter in the end.

[JSkye]

Does it really even matter?

As far as I am concerned, a high body count doesn't matter in the slightest. For the sake of talking, let's say that she says 1 and it's true. It could be thousand instances with that 1 person... Would you rather she have had experience 1000 times with 1 or only 20 different times with 20 different people?

Body count doesn't matter lol

[AviatorTom]

Most women would consider such a question rude and intrusive. You can try telling her your body count and see if she reciprocates. Otherwise, just ask her.

[laraWM]

Don't ask 😂

You will probably make her uncomfortable

[jahaims]

Only whores are uncomfortable talking about body count

[laraWM]

@jahaims I'd have thought the exact opposite 😅

[demonics]

@jahaims Imagine having to wait some arbitrary amount of time to learn of one of the most significant contributing factors to the potential success or failure of this potential relationship because its "rude."

Hey, I need you to do a job for me. The job might be illegal, might not be, but i'll tell you more of the details after you've already started oh, and its rude to ask how much i'm going to pay you. Just trust me.

[SuckOnThisOpinion]

@demonics dude body count is not comparable to payment in the slightest in this metaphore. Payment is the entire benefit you get out of the job, in a relationship that would be all benefits you get from the connection. Body count is not one of them, it has nothing to say about the gains the relationship brings you. It's comparable to which color the house is that you're supposed to renovate. It doesn't have anything to do with the task at hand.

[HawkPerception]

I've had no issue asking girls that. It's part of asking about sexual history. If they're not willing to share that, then they aren't the one man.

[OlderAndWiser]

What is your limit for an acceptable body count?

[Tarifa]

You don't ask. It's none of your business anyway. A relationship starts the moment you get together and start seeing each other. Everything that happened before that is in the private sphere.

Where would you draw the line? Is a girl who had sex once someone you would date, but a girl who had sex with 10 guys not? That is judging someone on her previous behaviour. Maybe she's had several relationships or dates that didn't work out for her. Maybe she has a very high sex drive.

The underlying thought here, I would say, is that many think that a guy who has a high body count is a real man, whereas a woman who sleeps around is a... (you can fill in the words).

[Anonymous]

wait for her to ask you a personal question and use your body count question as an exchange

observe her friends and family and the way they act. if they act like hoes, she's very likely a hoe too

the simps and feminists crying "the past is just the past" are the same snowflakes holding Leonardo DiCaprio's sexual past against him, holding Andrew Tate's sexual past against him, holding Donald Trump's sexual past against him, holding Russell Brand's sexual past against him. bunch of hypocrites

[Lliam]

What's your body count? Are you an old virgin?

None of my girlfriends nor my wife were virgins when we met. And I certainly wasn't.
I never asked a woman's body count and none ever asked mine.

Maybe you should do women a favor and stop trying to date them. Die lonely.

[RavVid]

Well you might not get the truth. A lot of girls might not count one night stands etc and only admit to boyfriends.

Probably it is better to lead and give your number of relationships and total body count which mandates a reciprocal response. If you don't get it then you can ask. if she won't then run.

[demonics]

"Whats your body count?"

Easy. If she considers that rude she's not the one. Virgins don't find this question rude. Feminists, and -hores do. Next time you encounter a woman who was raped, just tell her to get over it, the past is the past.

[PeachyPie93]

Not sure how to ask... I always ask regardless and even men sometimes get offended lol. I don't care because I want to know before I waste my time getting to know you for dating. If they get offended over that, they are snowflakes anyways LOL.

[Anonymous]

There is no point asking because they will always lie. But it is safe to assume that about 99% of modern day women have a relatively high body count. If you want a decent woman, be a true man of God and meet a true woman of God. If you ask her, she will not lie. You can also ascertain body count by observing behavior and how they talk.

[Abbycado]

I would tell you to f*%k right off if you asked me. That is none of your business.

[jahaims]

Don't do things you are ashamed of then

[Abbycado]

You can fuck off too. I have a body count of one. Three weeks ago, it was zero. What should I be ashamed of?

[marish01]

Liar. A woman with a 1 body count doesn't overreact like that.
You realize having only one partner is good that is why you lied

[Abbycado]

I literally lost my virginity not even three weeks ago with the guy I started dating a month and a half ago. You act as if you know me.

[marish01]

I know your type. Acting a virgin or a woman with a low body count to defend women with high body count

[Abbycado]

I would call one a low body count. Good job. You are really smart.

How am I acting a virgin when I just said I wasn't. God I hate dumb people.

[Agape93]

She literally was a virgin just a few weeks ago, marish. Shut the fuck up. You've always been like this, always judging people for shit you know nothing about. Wanna talk shit about someone with a body count? Try me. 29. Fucking try me.

[Anonymous]

It's just like pulling off a band-aid man. There is no nice way of asking. The woman that gets offended by this question has a lot to hide. So just ask away and don't worry about whether she gets offended or not. Because getting offended is just an admission of guilt.

[Agape93]

Uh you don't. Mind your own business. It's rude, not shameful, so don't even try that bullshit with me like you did with @Abbycado

[LazerBean]

You can start off by telling her yours and telling her that you want someone with a similar experience as you

[PeachyPie93]

Not a good idea because that can lead to her lying about it, it is better to act chill like it is no big deal so its more likely she would be honest.

[LazerBean]

Everyone knows that men who think it's not a big deal aren't going to even ask, so that would not really work

[LazerBean]

But TBH I was kind of saying that to be facetious anyway, since most men asking questions like this on GAG are themselves damaged goods

[PeachyPie93]

I see LOL

[Laciejordan]

@LazerBean lol

[Shamalien]

@PeachyPie93 to give you some perspective, that lazer girl believes that a man with 2 bodies is “damaged goods” lol…

[LazerBean]

@Shamalien true, but most of the posts I comment on are damaged boys who think the same way about women but not themselves. I don't recall seeing you upset about women being called damaged goods

[Anonymous]

And yet, I bet if hers was exactly the same as yours, it would be too high for you.

[Alex-Snow]

There is no easy way. But all of our pasts are just that our pasts. Focus on the now and the future. Maybe you could gently ask about her past social life and see how that goes?

[slatyb]

Yes. Get over it. The past is past. Focus on her behavior now.

[Apple1996]

There's no reason to ask this. If she wants you to know she'll tell you

[demonics]

There are numerous reason tho. Just because YOU don't think its important doesn't mean it isn't.

[Apple1996]

@demonics no reason to ask directly. Forcing any info from someone isn't good

[Apple1996]

@demonics oh I care greatly about body count. Asking here is the issue

[marish01]

So how should the man who cares about body count like you know that info?

[Apple1996]

@marish01 the other person should bring it up on their own

[demonics]

@marish01 "Whats your body count?"

Easy. If she considers that rude she's not the one. Virgins don't find this question rude. Feminists, and -hores do. Next time you encounter a woman who was raped, just tell her to get over it, the past is the past.

[Ariesman81]

I don't know if I should give the game away, but I've found a fairly sneaky way that seems to be fairly accurate. But yeah... any woman with more than 5 is gonna lie about it.

[exitseven]

Maybe steer the conversation to it by revealing your body count and maybe she will tell you hers.

[gatixek710]

Who gives a fuck if she thinks you're rude?

[Shamalien]

It’s pretty easy to find out if the woman is honest. Just mention how you’re not into hookups or casual sex and see how she reacts.

[jahaims]

You just ask. If she is ashamed or offended it's a red flag.

[msc545]

Don't do this. Even if she is not really offended (she probably will be) the answer you get will be more likely than not a lie.

[Ladsin2]

Uh... "Ay girl. You fresh or freaky?"
If she says anything other than. "what are you talking about?" Run away.

[milfordbravo]

What you wanting this information for? Chicks don't share this personal things be they know it might be used against them. I think if she feel safe to bring it up she will

[Anonymous]

Do you not know anyone in her social circle? Best way is to understand her dating/hookup history.

[SmileyLady]

so, you have an innocence fetish?

[SmileyLady]

It’s not your business as to a woman’s experience. That’s her business. In my opinion. Think less about body count; and more about the quality of the person you’re involved with is my view. If it really bothers you, I’d look in religious dating sites. It’s mostly women from patriarchal societies, who are convinced from an early age that sex is dirty, who are going to mostly still be virgins at your age.

[LiamJHayden]

Don't. Nothing good will come of it.

[Tomisworthless]

dont ask just assume she's a whore

[Anonymous]

Women are all sluts.

[In_Trance]

You don't