Does her body count matter?

[Anonymous]

I have been dating a girl I met in my previous job for about two months. She is beautiful and has a great personality, but I don’t think I will ever take her serious enough to be in a serious relationship with her.

The issue is, I think she might have a high body count, due to the fact that she told me that she has been in four different relationships in the last 3 years. Bare in mind that she’s 36 years old, and she also told about relationships and flings she has in her twenties, so I’m pretty sure her body count is definitely higher than the average girl. Another factor that is concerning is the fact that she is still in regular touch with some of her ex boyfriends, and she proudly told me that she likes them and cares about them. I must say that has beautiful and charming has she is, I don’t see anything else with her going forward apart from a little bit of fun.

She also told me that she break up with her last boyfriend because he was not happy with her being in touch with her previous ex.

Lately, she’s being asking me questions such has, if I can see us being together in the future, and saying that she want to be with me. I really appreciate her honesty about her past, but that was what made me realise that me and her could never be serious and that soon I will have to stop seeing her, because she’s trying to demand more that I could give to a girl like her.

[mandyfire98]

But you'll never really know will you?
Will you obsess over it that much?
If you could truly be happy with her and enjoy her personality and everything is great, but not know exactly how many guys she's been with, would that really bother you that much? At that point, if everything is going great, why would it still matter?

If the relationship is great, then isn't that all that matters?

[AnonAndrew]

Indeed.

Plus, if she has a high body count, then you know she is sexually experienced, enjoys sex, and has a healthy sexuality that she's not afraid to indulge in.

One of the most absurd societal views we have is that it is bad for a woman to have a high body count (and good to have a low one). Women with higher body counts should be _more_ desirable, not less.

Personally I love a promiscuous girl, and definitely prefer them to other girls. :)

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Break it off, if you’re this shallow about as a man in the same age bracket as her, you’re better off trying for a trophy wife.

[Lliam]

Don't string her along. She needs a real man, not one who is concerned that she has a healthy libido and, at 36 years old, has been in previous relationships.
If you can't judge her current character without judging her past, you don't deserve her.

[AviatorTom]

You can't change the past... why put so much emphasis on it? Concentrate on how you and she get along now, and maybe in the future.

[adventurous-1]

she interested in you for now, kinda like the flavor of the month. You could never trust her completely by her own admissions and views on relationships. Just enjoy her but be honest and let her know that you're not interested in anything long term or serious. She can decide on what she wants from there.

[Asker]

Thank you for great the advice.

[AnonAndrew]

Body count matters to me.

The higher, the better.

I know it's contrary to what most people say, but I'm being serious. A woman with a healthy sexuality is a great thing. A woman's virginity is very unattractive to me. I always prefer a promiscuous woman.

[Anonymous]

she's a walking red flag. don't forget that actions speak louder than words

so what, if she's beautiful and charming? so was Ted Bundy to a lot of women too

[AnonAndrew]

There's literally not a single red flag, though.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew did you read the whole thing?

she's still in contact with her ex-boyfriends and still cares for them

[AnonAndrew]

I don't see that as a red flag.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew what next? if she cheats on you, would you see that as a red flag or no?

[AnonAndrew]

No, I wouldn't.

Humans are evolved for polyandry (one woman with multiple husbands). That's not really accepted in today's society, but women are still by nature meant to be shared by multiple men. Because they usually can't find multiple men willing to commit to such a relationship, they'll be living in a way that's against their nature. So for them to desire to be with other men is just the healthiest adaptation to a society with twisted standards.

Now if a woman can actually find multiple men who can commit to her in a real polyandrous relationship, then of course it would be wrong for her to cheat on them! But when a woman is forced to have a relationship with only one man, then there is simply no way to satisfy her nature, and she is always going to have a desire to be shared with other men, as is her nature.

TL;DR No, a woman cheating is not a red flag. It's actually a positive and healthy adaptation to today's society.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew yes of course. that's why cuckoldry is so popular these days, right?

[AnonAndrew]

Uh, maybe?

The way society is set up today, we're bound to see a lot of weird sexual practices and fetishes. If we ever manage to get society back in order, and establish polyandry as the standard, then a lot of the sick sexual shit we see will fade away, as people will be living their sexuality according to how nature intended.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew this isn't nature. this is perversion. next you know, children as young as 6 will be involved if we continue this sick degradation of society which I believe is the ultimate goal

[AnonAndrew]

What I am saying is not perversion, it's the opposite of perversion. It's sexuality exactly as nature intended it, with one woman married to multiple husbands.

Pedophilia is wrong and disgusting, and of course no society should tolerate such sick crap.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew this is where the sexual revolution is headed. the moment sex is no longer within the confines of marriage, anything is possible from hookup culture to cuckoldry to cheating and yes it will include pedophilia if you want humanity to regress back to fucking like animals without rules

but keep on justifying why a high body count isn't a red flag

[AnonAndrew]

Actually, as I explained to you earlier, I think that in an ideal society sex should be within the confines of marriage.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew yet you don't see a high body count or cheating to be a red flag?

[AnonAndrew]

You already asked me that question. I told you no, and I told you why.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew yeah because it's natural to do so, right?

[AnonAndrew]

I'm not gonna sit here and rewrite everything I already wrote once before. Go back and read it if you like, it's still there.

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew I already did and it's inconsistent

sex should be within the confines of marriage but cheating is ok?

[AnonAndrew]

Was I really that unclear? Then let me explain again:
In an ideal society, relationships would be polyandrous, where one woman has multiple husbands. In a society that allows that, then obviously cheating would be wrong.

But in today's society, that is not allowed, and society bombards us since childhood that we should be monogamous and everything else is bad (especially for women).

In a situation like that, where we can't live as nature intended (one woman with multiple husbands), then the most natural adaptation for a woman is to live in monogamy, but since she is also going to have a natural desire to be shared by multiple men, satisfy those urges any way she can.

So in an ideal society, there should be no cheating. But we don't live in an ideal society, and then cheating is the smallest of evils.

Do you understand now?

[Opinion Owner]

@AnonAndrew in other words, just let her cheat and don't get mad about it

[AnonAndrew]

Is that a question? If so, it's already answered in what I wrote above.

[itsannalee]

I don’t have high body count, but my boyfriend said it doesn’t matter for him. He doesn’t care about someone’s past.

[Abbycado]

Ah god, anon fuckwits.

@Agape93

[Agape93]

Oh ffs not again

[Apple1996]

What's your body count tho?

[Anonymous]

Yes. Just not for the reason she thinks.

[Solar813]

Yes her body count matters. So does mine.

[oldpigg]

It's already very old anyway.

[SpaceGalaxy]

OfCourse it does.