Why do I want to accept back a cheater guy again after he broke my heart, dumped me, blocked me earlier?

[Anonymous]

My heart is breaking when I'm forcefully stopping myself from accepting him back and I'm unable to move on but still didn't recover from his cheating as his past cheating is always coming in my mind when I want to accept him. I'm unable to accept back due to his rude attitude while in past while he was cheating on me but not accepting him is giving me more heartbreak. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

You have feelings but remember that you can get rid of them. ﾠ

[Oliverlogan263]

It's understandable that you're struggling with mixed feelings after being hurt by this person. Here are some things to consider:

1. Your desire to accept him back likely stems from attachment, history, familiarity and the hope that things could be different this time. But people rarely change fundamental traits, and cheaters often repeat their behavior.

2. Even if he claims he's changed, you'll probably still struggle with trust issues, insecurity and doubts due to his past actions. This can erode the relationship over time.

3. By taking him back after he cheated and hurt you, you're showing him that his behavior was acceptable and faced no real consequences. This makes it more likely he'll repeat it.

4. Your self-esteem and boundaries may start to deteriorate in a relationship with someone who has been cruel or dismissive. You deserve better.

5. The pain you feel from not being with him will fade over time as you heal, move on and meet people who treat you with love, respect and loyalty.

6. Breakups are often less about the other person and more about realizing you deserve more from a partner. With time and experience, you'll gain clarity on your needs and boundaries.

At the end of the day, you have to decide if you can truly move past his betrayal and deception - not just intellectually, but emotionally. If not, accepting him back will likely only result in more heartbreak down the road.

For now, focus on moving on, healing and regaining your confidence. Stay no contact and block him if needed. Your worth isn't defined by his actions - there are loyal, trustworthy partners out there who will treat you the way you deserve. Have hope and faith that you'll find the right person someday.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Because you're desperate and lack appropriate self-esteem. You're not even old enough to get into the good clubs yet. There will be other men. F this guy.