Wow ! yeah , that would be great , but for me , in my 20s , I was no where near smart enough to do that , all I was interested in was Surf / Golf / Women / Parties..
That was it ! Was good fun , banged myself stupid , but to give up for the ecconomic , would have been awesome now , just was not that clever , always loved money enough , but was too interested in all the rest.
Amanda doesn't have to give up anything he just needs to be disciplined and make what is a priority a priority and follow all the way through
It's a choice it doesn't mean that you have to go out and get hammered or stay out 24 hours chasing women it just means you need to have your priority set and you have to have discipline
The bible says you can gain honour by forgiving very bad people in Gods sight, and it’s given without extreme labour or high tolerance for hardship if you forgive them.
I don't think life really works like that. I feel like the main thing is just that you do SOMETHING in your 20's. As long as you get some kind of life experience and start living on your own and deal with the everyday challenges that can be difficult in the beginning etc. It'll all be helpful later. But I think these self help people promise way too much.
Most people even if they try hard and focus on their life and career they're still gonna be working some regular job and just being ordinary people that's just how life is. I've been working on myself for the lst 8 years and I still have a lot to do. For most people I don't think the vision you have for your life in your 20s will actually come through. But if you're actually living you will gain experience and be more prepared for the future no matter where it takes you.
Kids give up their 20's to become a doctor with education and residency. Most kids look at that and say fuck that but when they get to 30 they are doctors and they are slinging boxes at Amazon with two kids they didn't want.
True but that is a road map that anyone could do outside of becoming a doctor but most would balk at it... I know I did but there was no internet when I was in my 20's so I wasn't even exposed to any of these concepts
This is totally circumstantial but for men (women also) their youth experiences set them up for the life yet to come. By experiencing certain events and learning harsh lessons we are able to over come a part of us and strengthen us and condition us in a particular way to help us become this unstoppable force. Now how you define unstoppable may vary in characteristics but those skills have to come from somewhere. If men are chasing women for example. Social skills, how we negotiate, how we deal with problems, how to detect manipulation. All these can make a man be ‘unstoppable’ if they aren't naive in their journey and really learn from their weaknesses
I wouldn't say they should "give up" their 20s, no. Men need to live and treat themselves too. Now, that said, a man's 20s is a key developmental time frame. This is the time they should focus on their passion, career, fitness mental health and personal relationships with friends, family and mentors.
If a man hasn't developed his lifestyle and success by the time he hits 30, it will be insanely hard to do. Men enjoy the benefits later whereas women enjoy them earlier. Men have to build themselves up and focus on their goals in order to not only succeed, but receive acknowledgment from other men AND women.
Their lifestyle will attract the reflection of who they are.
No because you can use your 20s and still be unstoppable in your 30s. I get it where it´s coming from but the reason that not everybody can get rich. There are many factors that and a lot of guys dream of the advantages of being rich but they never dream of the responsibilities and problem that could come with. What I´d rather think guys should do is find friends and help them improve. I think guys should find a healthy work routine but still enjoy life. The question that´s rather to be asked what do you do to enjoy life. Because social media, porn, onlyfans and youtube and video games, is that really it? Or are there other ways to experience and enjoy life. Find friends that build you and that you can share life with.
That is the most probable solution to be swimming in gold diggers pussies in their 30s. Luck is much needed too.
Region is a very big factor. In Pattaya I reckon a middle class man from Europe/US can likely get sex every day if he so pleases.
So... what's the plan?
Make money. Start swing trading with real money to make even more money. Go to Pattaya. Have sex every day. Buy a condominium there. Have sex. Walk through Soi 6 and the malls or whatever. Have sex. Attend a cocktail and BBQ party. Have sex. Ride a Jet Ski. Have sex.
I love it when the ladies are ready to swarm at me.
I think a man should focus on his 30's when he is in his 20's/ younger. Men are better workers while they are young. They are hungrier and able to learn better from life so that when they get to their 30's they are closer to their goal and can raise a family and be providers. Men are the happiest when they know their family is taken care of.
Problem is, you do the trial and error thing in your 20's figuring out who you are and what you like and don't like. Those are the live and learn years of relationships, if you don't do it then, and start in your 30's you may miss the boat.
if women don't like you in your 20s, women won't like you in your 30s.
if you need to be rich to be liked by women, it means you have nothing to offer as a person.
your 20s are when everyone is single. 30s is when everyone around you is taken, where you start losing your friends because they're getting married. You will find that its harder to get dates in your 30s than 20s because its harder to meet singles.
I am talking about 30 year old unstoppable men who have put in the work. There are only a select few that will be able to get him. We aren't talking about people like you who are average.
if no woman wanted you in your 20s, it means there's something severely wrong with you. This doesn't tend to change when you hit your 30s. Men who need "money" to attract women are really just subpar guys with nothing to offer.
truth is... people meet in their partners in their 20s then they marry in their 30s. Vast majority of people tend to marry those around their own age. Few people marry 40 and onwards.
if no woman wanted you in your 20s, it means there's something severely wrong with you.
That is silly. Men can lose weight, can become successful can become a completely different person by 30 if they give up their 20's and grind. You sound like your 10 or 11 so I am going to disengage because I don't chat with minors on here.
They should use this as a plan B if they cannot get a woman in their 20s. They should then get rich and fit and attract women in the next phase of the game.
Still, if you can get a woman in your 20s, and this is possible for most men, then by all means get her! For example, get a girlfriend who is also studying at university and encourage each other. You will still build your professional success, but it will be much more enjoyable.
Don’t give up in your 20s but also don’t be desperate. Continue to work on yourself and whenever you meet your person will be different for everyone. If you meet your person in your 20s great but if you don’t it’s ok just be patient. This applies to women as well.
Im going to tell you a story. I built my first business in my early 20s hit it big and destroyed my relationship. It fell apart within a year, and it took 8 years to rebuild my relationship. And nearly 20 years to rebuild my professional career. All of it is ephemeral, empires rise and fall and rise and fall again. Don't give up what's valuable for what's not.
I've got a better answer for single people: Just enjoy your 20s with your friends, hobbies, etc.
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People should give up casual sex and drinking alcohol at any age. Its a nasty and void lifestyle. And do it for yourself, not for the validation and sexual appeal of women. Nothing more attractive than a man who doesn't need to be "unstoppable" and drowning in women and money to feel sure of himself. Do what makes u feel good about yourself.
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But it is indeed a good idea to spend your twenties working on yourself, instead of wasting it on meningless activites like aforementioned. But if love shows up in between it all, dont loose out on it. Its good to find your partner early on, espeically as a man. Best way to trust a womans commitment and love, is to see how she stands by you before you are settled and have everything under control.
Yes, generally speaking. I think we should enjoy the victories and celebrate when there is something worth celebrating, but must be goal oriented and focused on outcomes; while enjoying the journey of course.
this is good advice for any period of life tho. Always better to sow tomorrow’s seeds than to reap the reward today. Reap a little reward but always be sowing more than reaping to ensure a good future
As a woman…I would not recommend that for anyone. We must live life learn lessons. Don’t miss an opportunity to miss an opportunity. 20s are the prime age to get out and make mistakes 😊😂 or make it big!
@Pacquet we all fail in life. At times…. it feels like we are beaten down. I too was thrown into a dark ditch. Climbing back up was a slow process. I knew I won’t let life beat me down…so I fought to get better. I learned to become better. Our biggest enemy is ourselves. If you let others way of thinking/saying affect you…you will ended up being their prisoner. Sand up strong, set obtainable goals to feel success.
This is something that only the man in question can/should choose. And if he is to stand a chance, he'd better have either luck, an insane drive to work to the point where we gets pleasure from pain, or have a high IQ.
No. Everyone's journey through life is different, and I would HATE to have the reverse put on me. If men want to focus on work, great! If men want to settle down, great!
Because a lot of men in their 20's are invisible. They dont have the qualities that women are looking for. So a lot of men in their 20's will work and build their value and focus on other things besides women to accomplish becoming a high value man that women want
@Chthou95 they aren't invisible. There's a whole trend around 20 something year old men getting snatched up by divorced moms because these men are so attractive and dependable compared to older men
@Chthou95 women will leave their 15 year marriages for younger men. I'm not apart of that trend or anything but younger men like 20s are more attractive than older men
In general most younger men are invisible. As of 2023 63% of men are single (18-29). Most older men are in relationships. Most younger men are struggling in the dating world right now. They have no value and have to work on themselves. Its a process
@Chthou95 In general the women I know and see especially online prefer younger or same age men. This site seems to be the one exception that I see a few women preferring older
Those are a select few of women. In genenal women have always preferred older men. You're coping hard if you don't think a lot of women out there prefer men 30 and older. And its actually the older men who have the options. Most younger men dont. Younger men have to work on themselves. That just goes to show how invisible those men are that you believe a lot of younger men have options
@Chthou95 back in boomer days yes that's what women preferred. Some now do to but they end up in failed relationships/a lot of regret.
Many women are either choosing to be alone, guys their own age to love or to use old men for their money. So unless a guy wants to end up used then he might not want to waste his 20s
@Chthou95 I know of a few groups of women that hate on men past 30 and call them out as being "jurassic grandpas" so it's not a cope when it's common for women to talk about men like that
Women use mem for money at any age. Even if they're in their 20's. All women are hypergamous to an extent. But younge men dont have a lot of money and financial stability. Money is part of relationships and all men regardless of age need to have it
There's groups of people that hate the Godfather but the majority of people think that's one of the greatest movies ever made. There's always the common
I think men should definitely work their ass off in their 20’s to set themselves up for the future. That being said, they should still stop to have fun and enjoy their 20’s while their health is good.
Yes. a lot of men who are successful with women waited until they were older. During their 20's worked on themselves and now get to enjoy the benefits in their 30's from hard work. Men must create their value. A
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