I've been told multiple times by men my own age. That I am useless for having children and that financial stability cooking, cleaning doesn't matter to them only if a woman's age and looks. Not sure I've been called a Karen by guys my own age. Can't they realized that hey she's a good wife material. No they go straight all about young age. I will be 30 and I look better then I ever did back when I was 21.
30+ year old men aren't "ageists." It's simply a biological fact that women lose their agility to produce healthy children in their mid to late 30s and the majority of straight men want to have children someday. It's also a biological fact that most women age quicker and look older sooner than men do (especially white and pale-skinned women). And it's also mostly factual that straight women tend to want men who earn more money and are more successful in life, and that doesn't usually happen until their 30s or 40s.
So women's age to produce healthy children's, women's youthful looks and beauty peaking at age 23, and men being more desirable their more successful and wealthy they are, are not "ageism," but simply facts.
And a fourth thing... Many women in their early 30s, still act immature and bratty as f*ck, when their looks are already on the decline, as well as their social market value. (Not me saying this; just society at large.) When you're a 30 year old woman still dicking around town on the C*ck Carosuel, and then whining about "not being able to find quality men," that's just pathetic. Regardless of what gender says it, that is pathetic.
As for you, I'm confused... Are you 21 or 29? Did you lie about your GAG age by nine years?
1. Your profile says you are 21, yet you claim thats not the case. First order of business, be honest.
2. 30 year olds typically look just like they did at 20.
3. Birth defects in eggs start to rise at around 30, but you can just have a doctor select the healthy ones for fertializing with your husband's sperm, so it doesn't matter.
4. Most men don't even want kids.
5. financial stability and maid work are not on the dating material checklist for most people, mental compatibility and looks are.
Not all are ageist, it’s that the ones who are are more vocal about it than the ones who aren’t, which makes it easier to believe. From a biological standpoint, fertility does decline at 30 (this is coming from someone who’s childless at 38), but you’re still young enough to have a kid now. It gets tricky when you get to my age. With that being said, you can find love at any age. One of my friends got married last year, aged 39 to a man who is 35, so there’s still hope for you. As for the men who say you’re too old, just leave them be. They’re not options anyway so it’s not a loss to you. Just keep putting yourself out there and be open to the guys who do want to date you. Hope this helps.
Not all are just some can be jerks... the whole age pressuring thing is so real tho. Ill be 24 in 2 weeks and feel it on a deep level but im just taking it day by day. I on the other hand don't date men that are 30 and up. I prefer guys 18-28. Either a little older or younger cause that's my preference.
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What the hell kind of men do you hang around with?
Also, if you're about to be 30, why does your profile say 21?
I'm personally not attracted to women who are less than 25... this is because I've associated those early 20s with how naive and immature I was at that age. I've been attracted to older women (as old as 40), women my own age, and younger. My rule is a 5-year gap, but I have made exceptions.
Still, it's worth knowing that men generally prefer younger women, and women generally prefer older men. Younger women means they're more likely to have children, older men meaning they're likely to be taller, wiser, and providers. A lot of men are turned off by single mothers, because [1] it's a red flag... and [2] we generally prefer to raise our own biological children and pass on our genes.
Multiple studies showcase that a woman's dating value peaks in her early twenties. A mans dating value drastically increases around 30. In a mans early twenties, his value is very low. Men are 'useless' around this age. This is because what a woman seeks out in a man is entirely different than what a man seeks out in a woman. A man seeks beauty, fertility, and purity. A woman seeks a provider, leader, and a man of wisdom. Women are at their prime to fulfill all of those attributes when they are younger. Men are at their prime to fulfill all of those attributes when they are older. Women don't realize how easy they have it in their early 20s. You had your time, don't get mad at men because they're now experiencing their time to shine. You're merely experiencing what it feels like to be a younger man. It's kind of shitty isn't it? That's life.
"I've been told multiple times by men my own age. That I am useless for having children and that financial stability cooking, cleaning doesn't matter to them only if a woman's age and looks"
I hope I read this correctly... Who ever told you that needs to be smacked in the face with a shovel. What you have is what many men my age want to have. You're adulting more than they are which in turn makes you more mature. Its hard to find a 30 year old who doesn't take life for granted.
If a man is looking to have children then fertility levels will be his priority, so they will look for a younger woman. At the age of 30 it's a scientific fact that a woman is less fertile. But the mans sperm has also degraded by that age too giving rise to the potential of more genetic defects. But ultimately the science is used as a way to attack, and to put down, rather than to present the best conditions for having children.
Your worth is not determined by your age, or with other shallow "preferences" people make. I know many women in their 30's who just started their dating life and were successful with it. Even women in their 40's, 50's had met a lifetime partner. Do not listen to them, because the right man will find you.
I had more male attention at age 40 than ever before in my life … it really started to ramp up when I was about 38
Age is important. Not very important. I don't mind if a woman is within 10 years of my age, but I won't go any older or younger than 10 years of my age. Minus children, I would choose you over most 21 year old girls.
Well guys have about 2 million years of evolution that point us to characteristics that indicate female fertility. That hard wiring is not over-ridden by logical analysis no matter how logical that would be.
We experience that Phoar hard wiring every day just walking down the street.
You’re fighting against biologically driven preferences. These guys might not be thoughtful about how they express their preferences, but their attraction to younger women, especially ones who do not already have children, is different from ageism. This works both ways. If, for example, you don’t want a 20 year old or 45 year old man, it doesn’t make you an ageist. You have deep-seated reasons for preferring the age range you prefer.
You need to stop listening to idiots. You could meet a man tomorrow who's right for you, have a child or two by the time you're 33, and be a perfectly situated parent in terms of life experience versus a kid who gets pregnant at 18. Stop taking advice from jerk off guys.
You'll have to forgive me for being a bit skeptical, but I have a very hard time believing that,
"I've been told multiple times by men my own age. That I am useless for having children and that financial stability cooking, cleaning doesn't matter to them only if a woman's age and looks."
We go straight about age and looks because those are the only things you literally have to offer. Literally. There is no such thing a wife material and there is nothing a man gets out of marriage today. Marriage and relationships serve only the interests of women.
Everyone is and will always be "ageist", this is because age is an important factor regarding intelligence. Your prefrontal cortex isn't fully developed until 25, so making any decisions that affect your entire life or others' life is dubious before this age.
It's because men and women acquire value differently. Women have depreciating value as they age, while men attain more value as they mature and become better established.
Same reason women have thier deal breakers height, income, attractiveness, etc. Don't want to be passed on by guys simply don't get knocked up. Don't form relationships with bad charachter guys and have thie babies and you won't run into this problem.
I don't know where the hell you find these bums
They aren't all agist, but I know what you mean. Technically, if it's true you don't have any wrinkles yet, you should still be perfect baby-making material.
Im 33 myself I feom my point of view there is nothing wrong with your age. I rather date a mature woman that is in her 30's then a inmature girl who is in her 20's
It says that you 21, women's looks and fertility tend to fall fast after 30, and men care about that.
Because it is true to a large extent. Women's relationship value peaks mid twenties and falls from 30s onwards. Sure you may find hookups after. That's it.
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