Why do 30 year old men reject women their own age?

Question

My friend she is beautiful people always think she is 18 but she is actually 30. She is a good wife she bought a house before she got married. Now she has a 3 week old. But her disgraceful husband is cheating on her with a stupid 19 year old. My friend is suffering from prostpurtum depression this disgraceful is going out drinking and clubbing with this 19 year old. There been days he never comes home my friend needs support and he neglects my friend. Why? What makes a 30 year old men chase after immature woman? I don't get it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Well w out fully knowing the whole story because I’m sure you’re only telling her side or her version of what you think is going on, we really can’t speak for their situation. First of all I’d have to see for myself how “beautiful” she is. Most women say their girlfriends are beautiful when in reality they aren’t, not according to a man’s definition of beautiful. Even if she has a great personality most times that beauty is what’s going to draw a man in so if she doesn’t have that beauty men are looking for they won’t get to know her personality. Not saying she won’t meet someone, just that her chances of meeting someone are low. Second you’re looking at it from a female’s perspective, so chances are everything she’s saying you’re agreeing w when that may not be the truth. Even if she has a great personality she may be a complete psycho w her man. I’ve had women like that. One in particular that stands out who was the nicest to people but was a bitch to me. As for men that age rejecting, I’m sure it’s not all men, a handful here and there. But even so I can think of a lot of reasons. At that age some women start getting bitter. Don’t have a man or children by that age so they start to feel like time is against them. So they rush things. They were too focused on their career or having hot girl summers they forgot to meet someone on the way. The other reason is younger girls are usually are more carefree, appreciate more things, simple things. Because a lot of women who are older picked shitty ass boyfriends who treated them like crap so now they think every man is the same. Maybe he doesn’t find her sexy anymore, maybe she’s gained weight. There’s a lot of “maybes.” Having a girlfriend or a wife is like a second full-time job. I’m open to any age. I’m actually w someone who is 7 years older than me. Have been for the last 14 years. We all reject people for certain reasons, both men and women.

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I'd suggest a visit to Dr. Phil or a psychologist. There may be something here where this guy is fixated on young women given your bestie looks so young and he's now hanging out with someone that age.

But I suspect and guess this is him avoiding some deeper emotions. Fear. Maybe it is really tough at home, stress high and your girlfriend isn't as pleasant at home given she's depressed, and there's a needy baby... so he's run out the door to find osmething to feel good. Very immature, but possible. Andall this after he walked down an isle and said all kinds of nice stuff... til death he parts. That's human emotions for ya... Anyways...

For what it's worth my relative had a baby and he's there 24x7 supporting his wife and the child. Not all guys have the defects of this guy... or the stupid 19 year old he hangs out with.

The next layer to the problem is why they were attracted in the first place. Will be a fun project for a therapist/counselor to fix. I hope they do, or another child loses their parents.

p. s. I've seen this scenario before somewhat, where the guy is knocking up girls and running to the next girl. He wasn't even much of a catch, didn't have good job... these types can draw certain girls. The guy was a child. So please don't use the term "men" to label what is emotionally... very young and immature.

Be fun to go to the bar and bait him to find out what he's really about...

RomanticRealist · Accepted Answer

As others have said, this has far more to do with him being a cheater.

For what it's worth, large age gaps like that have an incredibly high, overwhelming divorce rate. And they rarely get to the marriage point in the first place (speaking for USA in liberal cities). It definitely happens, ofc.

I'd say that stamens is only partly true. Some 30 yo men reject women their own age. I'd say there's a large number of 30s men dating 30s women where I live. I've dated 30s men while being in my 30s and my boyfriend now is only one year older.

BlackBeauty90 · Accepted Answer

ROFL. Why do women blame men when their low anyone will do standards is why they end up getting involved with douchebags?

I mean lets say your friend & her husband met at a bar or a club. 9 out of 10 people at bars & clubs are looking for cheap easy one-night stands. If that is how they met, your friend was actually dumb enough to believe her boyfriend / husband would change.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Deep question... a man is always going to desire youth and beauty in a woman. I'm not condoning what he's doing, but I'm sure there have been 2 people causing the situation even if it looks one-sided in the current time... relationships are sort of like that with their issues.

I'm not going to lie though... I'm married, 14 years now I think and my wife is the same age as me. I'd love to be banging a hot 18-year-old right now. If my wife gave me the green light on that, you think I wouldn't be holding a few netflix and chill sessions tonight... you're off your rocker if you think I wouldn't. Men and women just think differently in a lot of ways. LIke...

Notice how you mentioned she bought a house... while that sort of shit means nothing to a man. If the divorce was tomorrow who would get the house? Let's say he bought the house though, and divorce was tomorrow... good chance she takes it huh? ... Just saying. So you gotta ask yourself what he's getting out of doing this. Is it awesome knockers? A vagina that doesn't stink? Maybe she's not fat for once? ... I mean it could be as simple as feeling like he's having more fun with the younger chick... you know... maybe, just maybe. Sometimes chicks get so serious and naggy that it feels like a chore to even be around them. Hope I'm making some sense and not just pissing you off.

Anonymous · Answer

There are good reasons as to why men who are 30 or older reject women their age, and it has nothing to do with fertility. It obviously has to do with looks, but a lot of people forget that it has to do with personality as well.

In the looks department, younger women (18-23) are infinitely hotter than their older counterparts. They have slender, hourglass figures, gorgeous faces, and beautiful hairstyles, unlike their older counterparts who are overweight/obese, have man faces, and have ugly hairstyles that are far better suited for men. Unlike older women, younger women want to actually take care of their appearances and do not resort to feminist nonsense (fat acceptance, body positivity) just to feel better about themselves by shifting the blame to those "evil straight men".

In the personality department, younger women are far more fun to be with and everything is infinitely more fun with younger women (including vacations, movie nights, parties, romance, etc). Younger women have plenty of interesting stuff to talk about such as fitness, music, art, gaming, anime, movies, celebrities, etc and leave work and studies out of conversations during spare time, while older women have nothing worth talking about as they only talk about work or studies all the time, making everything boring when older women are around.

William7489 · Answer

There’s nothing wrong with men, or guys, any more so than women or girls. It’s what’s wrong with the people that lie, cheat, deceive and don’t care about the people they hurt when they commit infidelity. Sadly there’s just too many selfish people out there. Unfortunately it’s affecting everybody now. Yes men used to cheat far more. But today, statistics of people under 40 show that they’re cheating at the same rate by gender. People just don’t have the same commitment that they used to. I’m sorry for you, I’m a survivor myself

burlen · Answer

It would have been better to write your question and post without referring to the husband as "disgraceful" and "immature" and the 19-year old girl as "idiot".

Besides, buying a house before marriage doesn't make someone a good wife nor does it make them a bad wife.

I guess my point is to resist the urge to pass judgement on people.

Besides, your question is misleading. The husband didn't reject the wife who is of his age. He got married to her when she was at his age and he is purportedly falling out of love with her when the wife is at his age. Do you now see that your question doesn’t make sense?

Just as some women are attracted to only tall, white, or rich men, the husband is probably attracted to another woman who happens to be younger.

Lionman95 · Answer

It could be that some guys never come to a point where they are actually for a relationship. They are in for the sex and enjoyment of life but they can´t handle the hardship.
The reason guys like him go clubbing and drinking is that they have tendency to avoid situations could end messy so he chooses stuff to enjoy himself.
The only reason a married guy goes out with an immature woman is sex. Hence she´s still in a position where she´s unsure what´s normal in sex, she seems insecure and unexperienced so she seems like the best candidate for a guy that only wants to relieve himself and therefore she looks for sex that is cheap.

RavVid · Answer

It is wrong of him as he is in a long term relationship if he has a baby.

If the question is why a 30 yo goes for a 19 yo girl, then it is straight forward. Men like 18 to 25 yo women. And they are not so serious and therefore more fun.

In fact I was thinking about the later point this morning. Of all the mothers in the neighborhood only one is fun.

ThinkFitness23 · Answer

I’m not saying any of this is right but…

Younger women can be more playful.
Generally open to sex for fun.
May appear fresher.
Are young and dumb.
Make more mistakes.
Are generally easier.
Have more energy.
Are more attracted to the older man.

Some men just like the though t of fucking a younger woman…

I’m 38, if I was single my preference for a relationship would be 26-28.

I haven't fallen from the ugly tree and if I was single I would be a 20yr old, shoot me down but I’m just being honest. In fact I would prefer this to having someone who’s say 42-44.

Many won’t admit it but the truth is most men 35-40 want to fuck a 19-21 year old and will do a lot to get this including in some cases hurt their wife.

Anonymous · Answer

People cheat because they can and also they want to screw.

If you want a general answer.

Young women are highly valued in the dating market. They can have literally anyone, irrespective of their looks. Most women will not date a guy without many resources. As men get older and gather resources their value goes up. Older women can be less fun and put pressure on guys for family, and babies. Most men if not inherently rich or look awesome, get their chances in their thirties. Some of them take a chance to sleep with other people.

Staximus · Answer

Sounds like she just married a piece of shit. Women should be a lot more selective when it comes to what guy they have a kid with.

HaveNoName · Answer

Your question is actually in tangent to the story you gave. The person in your story is a pathetic person.

"Rejected" in your question is a wrong word because he never "rejected" her. He in fact married her. He is just a filthy loser douchbag.

genericname85 · Answer

younger girls are simply more attractive to men. don't shoot the messenger. i'm just telling you what it is.

so i guess the logic is, if you're gonna cheat your wife, you're not gonna cheat your wife with a girl who's less attractive than her... but most guys don't cheat their wifes luckily.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats the wrong way to look at the problem.

It's not that men reject or cheat on women their own age, it's that people have to mentally be a match, and if they aren't, they either breakup, never get together in the first place, or cheat, with the last option (and usually the first) being the result of stupidity.

BTCMoon · Answer

30 Year old men are at peak dating value in the same way that women in their early twenties are. They had their run in their early twenties. Men get theirs later. I also don't support or rationalizing cheating in anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

Reason why Im hesitant to ever settle down. Men just dont like grown women. They’ll always be way more attracted to teens than a 30 yr old so why bother. Im not gonna carey his baby just so he can't sleep with 19 yr old. And I can say frim first hand experience; I was inly soughter after by married men in their 30s when I was a teen. Couple months ago these two guys had interest but I bet they thiught I was like 19.

Adogdog · Answer

I have noticed this as well even with myself. Girls my age won't give me much attention. Younger girls seem more interested. it's crazy.

AmeerX · Answer

Umm, she bought a house before she married. Look it is her achievement and all but it doesn't matter to anyone. She made her life better which is good for her.

And her husband cheating doesn't automatically mean 30 years old women are rejected. In fact my class fellows whom I proposed went after men older then them because they naturally wanted stable lives even though I could afford it too but no there parents told them so was the excuse.

RealMarek · Answer

The trend of men desiring younger women is driven by the subconscious urge to have children. Younger women are more fertile than older women on average. This is no excuse for cheating or improper behavior, of course.

Anonymous · Answer

For the same reason 20 year old women reject men their own age. Because they can.

Women tend to be attracted to older men, and in their 20s they have most of the power in the dating game.

The tables turn around age 30 and it is men who begin to have the power.

That's why women cheat more than men in their 20s, and men cheat more than women after age 30. Again, because they can... in both cases.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

He is immature and needs to grow up and she is best to move on, it's sad cause there are men who would love to have a woman like her in their life but can't find one and/ or has bad luck finding one.

ConspiracyTheorist · Answer

Your friend needs to let that dooshbag go and go find herself a whatever age man she wants because it's not the age that is being rejected he is just a piece of shit and that most likely will never change.

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