Men aren’t ready until their 30?

[Blue-love1]

Okay so this question will have other questions in it…. Sorry in advance.

I keep hearing this is true for the most part. I’ve also learned towards marriage and dating for marriage. Not dating just to date.

Everyone has been telling me to date older there's only exceptions to men being ready younger. Only if they had a lot of responsibilities put on them or the first born. Which sounds subjective but also like it has some truth to it.

My ex who I wrote about in the last post is 24 years old. He has a good home base (both parents are still married) and grew up with the examples of a happy home. First born.

Men were you ready before 30 ? Does it have anything to do with home base and birth order?

[Anonymous]

I was technically ready at 25 as i was first born so i knew my responsibilities at a young age and knew how to run my household. My parents were still together but still worked. Only thing was i was not financially set until 27-28 when i was earning a little more. My only difference was i was able to make something out of nothing to get by meaning I wouldn’t rely on other people for a lot of support. I found a women with good core values and played her role in the relationship as i play mine. I could easily get by single but i had the ability to marry at 25 and still make it work. (My partner isn't western by the way so we dont have to deal with all this bs most western do even though i am)

[UniquelyBasic]

Seems about right. Most people may have had 2 or 3 serious relationships by then and know what they want from a partner, as well as having a more stable career.

[LazerBean]

Some are, some aren't. Promiscuous men definitely take longer to be ready for anything significant though.

[KostasKouvalis]

I kind of think, yes. I turned 30 this year, and I still don't feel completely ready, but certainly a lot readier than I did in my 20s. 20s is too young I feel. For dating is fine, but marriage it's too young. People in their 20s still aren't sure what they want, and they have different priorities and don't want that kind of responsibilities yet. Almost all my friends and classmates who married young, ended up divorcing

[Blue-love1]

So women should date older is what I’m hearing? I don’t want to be promiscuous or date to date. Of course I’m still learning but I date with intentions.

[KostasKouvalis]

No, you don't have to if you don't want to, but a lot of women find it appealing

[Blue-love1]

Yeah but if men aren’t ready until their 30, sounds like you have to date older.

[AmeerX]

My parents are still married to each other. This is so weird to ask.
30 years rule is something made up on the internet.
Many guys are dumped by girls in my country for older stable guys 😤

[Blue-love1]

It sounds like the 30 year rule is true

[AmeerX]

How is that true?
And actually I knew a girl who is older than me but my father won't talk to her parents because as he put it, " they will say that we are after there money".
I mean I could say the same but a man saying this isn't valued the same as a rich girl's parents saying that. So I withhold even trying to talk to them 😒

[Blue-love1]

Oh sorry I sent that message off to soon. I meant it seems like the 30 year old rule is true if you’re looking at the other comments. Seems like men aren’t ready in their twenties.

[AmeerX]

May be but in general, gypsy people as you call them in Europe are descendants from Pakistan and India. They have adopted same culture even after a 1000 years age. Pretty impressive and they marry their children to each other at young age too. Sounds to me a pretty good decision by the parents.
I think if I was in Europe I did go live with a Gypsy family over other Europeans. They are poor or so it seems and discriminated but they are actually an example of cultural preservation throughout history.

30 years rule seems pretty offish to me.

[AmeerX]

Oh and I have a different explanation why the 30 year rule seems true but it isn't.

This rule possibly came from Europe and US because they have hook up culture. Though not everyone follows it but they do give a Signal. Hey everyone let's wait till we have used our energy partying to settle down with someone so that we are happy. I mean come on do you think it would be okay to sleep with another if you were in marriage? No of course that would not be possible if you were monogamous

[Blue-love1]

I see, I never brought into hook up culture. Neither do I want someone who isn’t connected with their sexual organs lmao. So dating in the US is trash is what I’m heaeinf

[Blue-love1]

Hearing*

[AmeerX]

Yeah I am told same. But I don't think American women are Trash, just misled at max.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

No, but many human beings in general are too immature.

[misogynistic_pig]

It is said that men are not ready before the age of 30 because young men still do not have that much money, so women look for old men to take their money.

[Blue-love1]

You lost me on the last part

[Anonymous]

For marraige I agree.