He’s 46 and I’m 27 and he seems hesitant to date me. Is it because of our age gap?

[Anonymous]

[Alwayreckles93]

there's nothing wrong ask him out. Men our age don't appreciate us they're all a bunch of mommas boys men childs. A 46 year old is a real men mature. A 46 year old will appreciate your food, cuddles enjoy family time while guys our age they still want to playboy games, Go to his mommas house.

[Alwayreckles93]

Plat vidoe games sorry.

[magiusX26]

high probability that it is a big factor. many guys would love a chance with a younger woman and its known to be common but not visible in a common way, add to that the nature of current hookup culture and the prevalence of cheating and gold diggers, and a younger woman actually seeming interested comes across as a part of "seems too good to be true" hesitation often will come up.

[Asker]

I actually like him for who he is though. He’s really sweet and humble.

[magiusX26]

that sweet and humble is a part of what makes him second guess it, especially the humble part. humble enough to question why him, what do you see in/of him, how was he physically attractive enough and other such questions.

[Asker]

He did ask me why I don’t date guys around my age.

[magiusX26]

there you go. its going to take time, patience, luck, and some leaps of faith to really get it off the ground so to speak. talk to him, you may be able to help, but dont push either.

[Avicenna]

It may be something else, but have you reassured him that his age isn't an issue?

[Asker]

Yeah I reassured him. Anyway I’m taking it personally cuz it seems like he just wants sex. I have rejected him in the past though so maybe I made him feel bad.

[Asker]

He’s kind of a loner. I have never seen him with a girlfriend or anything. He might be autistic, I am too.

[Avicenna]

Ah, OK. He probably doesn't think you're really interested if you've rejected him before.

[magiusX26]

yeah, rejecting him before 0lays a huge role in this

[OddBeMe]

Uhh yeah. He’ll be 66 when you’re 47. That’s social security years whilst you’re in hot cougar years.

[Asker]

Ok this is funny

[Drumlin2001]

Probably. He's probably waking up of you'll have the same life goals as you may well be in different stages of life. E. g. Do you want kids? It's highly likely he dosent

[Asker]

I want to have kids for sure.

[Drumlin2001]

Given it probably wouldn't be a good idea not to consider kids for a couple of years, make sure a relationship is solid, he'd be nearly 50 by time any child were born.
If you want a fling then see where it goes, but it maybe you won't be on same page on all things

[ProbablyClueless]

The age gap is probably part of it. The reality is that couples who have an age gap of that many years have an extra hurdle to overcome in terms of their life experiences and communication.

[ProbablyClueless]

This is something you really need to be asking him.

[Asker]

I think he’s just sexually attracted to me and probably likes me as a person, but he seems puzzled why I’d be interested given our age gap. And he’s worried he’s gonna be a “creepy old guy.”

[Alwayreckles93]

Listen the pount is your generation of men are a bunch of mommas boys in order. In my experience guys your agebhad been more toxic.

[ProbablyClueless]

All I can do is speak from my own personal experience. People my age (and it looks like "our" age, if your ages on this site are accurate), men and women, have been incredibly toxic to deal with. They've been toxic in general and especially romantically.

[slatyb]

Yes. What do you mean by "hesitant?" Have you asked him out? What do you hope for in a relationship with him?

[Asker]

He doesn’t seem comfortable taking things forward with me. In the past I think I might have actually made him feel like he was creepy. Anyway he doesn’t really make plans but we flirt.

[madhatters4]

it certainly could be the age gap that makes him hesitant. but you could just ask to find out

[Anonymous]

I should think so. Any gap larger than 9 years and the long term success rate generally falls way off. While you have surface chemistry but time typically starts to show the divide.

[Asker]

I like him as he seems like a nice guy. But I don’t think we’re super compatible romantically. Plus we’re both really quiet.

[Opinion Owner]

Well then there should be no pressure to call what's between you ANYTHING. Just enjoy eachothers company and cross that bridge if and when it ever arrives.

[Asker]

Makes sense. He seems really attracted to me - he flirts sexually over text but in person he’s awkward.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah probably you weirdo. Go date somebody closer to your age

[Alwayreckles93]

Maybe if guys your age werent such mommy boys and mistreat us. What ate you angry a 46 yea old men is better than you?

[Danny_dan92]

Ok..

[Alwayreckles93]

So you know a 46 year old is better than you. There more respectful.

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah I guess so

[baylua]

Men at that age are obsessed with girls in their 20s. He was sex from you.

[baylua]

Sorry I read it wrong

[Asker]

But not a relationship. I don't know he’s literally always single. I don’t think he has ever been married or has kids.

[Alwayreckles93]

Why? Are you jelous that a 46 year old is better then you?

[Mangospacho]

It’s either that or he’s married.

[Asker]

He’s definitely not married. He’s always alone like all the time. He lives in my apartment building.

[Mangospacho]

It’s probably the age difference. You can probably just ask him.

[Asker]

Well every time I have mentioned meeting up he kind of dodges it, and almost had me over once but it didn’t fall through. He only contacts me when he’s horny for the most part.

[Asker]

Oh, another thing, I told him I’m a virgin. I am. So maybe that’s also part of it 😂 shoot!

[Mangospacho]

Meh. I don’t know if that’d be an issue though.

[Asker]

Can’t figure it out then. He’s definitely attracted to me physically. Maybe he’s just immature or something then.

[Asker]

I have rejected him in the past though. He just never really made plans.

[shades777]

are you fat, thats a good reason to skip

[Asker]

No I’m a size 4-6 and 5’9”

[shades777]

maybe you two are incompatible. Whatever the reason, it takes two to tango

[In_Trance]

How would anyone know but him?

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

lol playboy games. You love age gaps too?

[Friendlybro79]

Ask him

[Alwayreckles93]

Guys yiur age are better mutre and smart.

[Friendlybro79]

@Alwayreckles93 people in general become wiser and learn from their past. If you want to know what a man is thinking you have to ask him. We can't tell you what someone else is thinking and we only know that there's an age gap. We don't know what your other interactions have been up until this point. Good luck.

[Alwayreckles93]

Yeah but my pount is your generation has always been mature because back when you were a kid at that time people knew how to parent thier kid. Now a days guys my age are alla bunch of immature mommas boy.

[Friendlybro79]

@Alwayreckles93 I can tell you for sure that isn't true haha. Kids growing up in the 80s 90s made lots of bad decisions and did stupid things. We just got away with stuff easier because of tech not being our Nanny's.

What specifically makes a person a momma's boy in your opinion and what are you looking for that you're not finding?

[Alwayreckles93]

Well me my age are very toxic. Its a shame how they're all living insidethere moms house. At age 30 that's ridiculous. I managed to be debt free with a paid off home mortgage and paid of car. Plus I know because I used to date men my age I even married one boy giys my age are way to spoiled. No back when you were inhigh school guys never goof of or clown around and they never laugh making fun of people.

[Friendlybro79]

@Alwayreckles93 You're speaking about a time you weren't there for. I'm telling you kids in highschool were mean, filled with bullies, many were using racial slurs left and right. I'd say it was ultimately clowning around and constantly picking on people and physical bullying. Getting assaulted in a school bus by older kids was normal for many a lot of people my age.

Not trying to argue with you because your experiences are your own but your painting a picture of people in my age group like we were all gentlemen and mature. That is not true at all. Immaturity is part of growing up for all generations. Some show it differently.

Wha

[Alwayreckles93]

Not trying to aurgue but you are making it seem like guys my age are saint. No they are horrible and toxic.

[Friendlybro79]

@Alwayreckles93 It's ok. Not taking it as an argument but I didn't say that at all. I spoke to the actual experience of growing up in my generation. We also had really nice people too but you seem to be generalizing for a generations experience to which you didn't witness. In reality, if you read back your replies to me, you're actually painting our generation as saints and generalized all men in your generation. Part of maturity is not generalizing.

I didn't even comment once on men in your generation. I never said they were saints or alluded it.

[Alwayreckles93]

At least men your generation are not womanizers. 30 year ols now a days are huge womanizers.

[Friendlybro79]

@Alwayreckles93 Wow. I'd like to stay nice but I don't think you should project perceptions of an entire generation for one that you didn't grow up in and two project all men in your age bracket. It's extremely immature. I'm sorry you see thing this way. Have a good day

[dudeinohio]

Probably

[BLP11520]

Probably yes