Is “we can be friends” code word for being ugly?

[Anonymous]

[jennifer_bloom]

Everybody can be beautiful if they want to be beautiful because beauty is not just a physical or material quality but you have to find people who appreciate what you offer and not waste time on those who are seeking something beyond or different from your best quality and asset in the world.

[Anonymous]

It's code for being ugly TO THEM. Not necessarily being ugly.

I'm not going to lie. Women are just as visual as men (despite what some claim). A woman wants a guy they find attractive as much as a man. And just like men there are universal things women find attractive, muscles, nice hair, nice smile etc.

Now you might be ugly to her and even to most women. But that doesn't mean you can't be attractive on some level.

Believe me man this was a hard thing for me to learn to accept. I can't even say I still accept it completely. a lot of women become attracted to me. But NONE of them are initially attracted to me. Because they're not physically attracted to me. They get to know me, and then they become attracted to my personality.

[Asker]

Can a woman also say “we can be friends” if she has a boyfriend already. In that case can it mean that she finds you attractive but isn't available?

[OlderAndWiser]

It means, "For reasons which I will not state, I don't ever want to see your dick. But I want to think of myself as a nice girl, so I'll offer to remain friends, I'll expect you to then get pissed and tell me to go fuck myself, and finally I can be mad at you instead of feeling guilty about rejecting you."

[Fanfare690]

I told a guy I'd like to get to know you as friends because relationships mean a lot to me. Getting to know you is far better than an easy hookup. Plus, I didn't know how he felt about me

[Fireguy17]

no.
I think it means there is no chance in hell you will ever be having sex with me, but I'm trying to be polite and let you down easy even though I know that you know exactly what I mean when I say this.

[slatyb]

It means "I don't want to date you, you're scary, so I'm going to try to reject you without making you mad."

[Ms_Facesitter]

No, she just isn't attracted to you in a love kind of way. Many people who I'm not attracted to, aren't ugly.

[Asker]

You mean you aren't attracted guys that are good looking

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's not because they're good looking that you see them as boyfriend material.

[Asker]

You mean personality?

[Ms_Facesitter]

That or you're just not physically attracted to them.

[Anonymous]

It translates to 'I don't want to have sex with you, but I might be able to use you if I'm moving house one day, need someone to come pick me up, or I need emotional support.'

[Drumlin2001]

Not necessarily.
I did something similar to someone I was very interested in, I had some personal demons and an issue with intimacy.

[Chthou95]

Well if she doesn't want to be anything more because there's no attraction, chances are yeah. You are ugly

[Asker]

What if she has a boyfriend

[Chthou95]

If she has a boyfriend, why would you need to ask why she only wants to be your friend

[Asker]

Im asking if its possible that a girl has a boyfriend, but finds another guy attractive, but still tells they can be friends because she is loyal

[Chthou95]

Id be careful with women who do that shit. Women who give any kind of leeway for you to think there's possible interests is not a woman you want to associate yourself with

[Grovermint]

It's code word for, " I don't like you, here's a consolation prize".

[Huntingnfishin]

It means you're not about to bang her that's for sure

[inhua]

absolutely. let's not sugarcoat this

[In_Trance]

It's code for "never getting a piece of this ass"

[gothbxtch]

nope

[AngryCarl2]

haha yeah

[PrettyCrumblBb]

Nope