So which one of these sentences said by men makes you more insecure
1) I will only date slim women. Chubby and fat women can't make me hard
2) I will only date women in their 20s as I don't find women in their 30 hot
3) I only want to date fit women with curves
4) If I ever date she should be beautiful in real life and without makeup
5) I only consider dating women with 0 or low body count
3 sounds the least unreasonable out of all these. I can understand wanting someone fit and healthy if you are also fit and healthy yourself, after all it is important that your lifestyle and values align. The rest are all garbage.
The thing about body count also sounds reasonable only if the dude is a virgin or low body count himself and has religious or other moral values which makes him value chastity.
The rest is all garbage. People get older. Weight can fluctuate/change depending on changes in various life factors. I am generally considered hot by most people and have a slim-thick figure but who is to tell that in the next few years I won't become too busy with school and work and not be as active+ the stress will affect my appetite and I won't get fat that way? What if I get married and have kids and have a hard time recovering so I can't "bounce back"? When I get myself a long-term partner I'll get someone who will love me for who I am as a person on the inside no matter how I change physically or lifestyle-wise.
This is why I find it so important that I have a partner who values me for factors other than my looks primarily and then also loves the way I look, ideally you should have both. I'm glad that I have a boyfriend who likes me for my personality and thinks I'm funny, smart, energetic etc etc. I'll continue to have those qualities even when I'm 10 years older or 100 pounds heavier.
This will be an unpopular opinion, but women would be better off without hormone based birth control.
Not that women should be stuck with unwanted pregnancy, but the psychological effects of it and the often associated promiscuity are deeply damaging. I know, because it put me on a self destructive spiral when I was younger.
If we had more at stake regarding our partners, we would make better choices and be better people. Hopeful this party girl phase passes.
I'm so glad I grew out of it while I was still young enough to experience a family. Frankly, I've never known the level of happiness I've known being off the psychotropic promiscuity drugs.
As for beauty. Why would a guy date a girl he didn't find beautiful? How could I fault him? I would be angry if I found out my husband didn't.
I like the way you framed this question. It shows a very good insight into the issue of why men often see many women in their 20s and 30s as angry and bitter.
All of the things you mentioned clearly do put a lot of pressure on women in that stage of life.
Unfortunately though this isn't about a conscious effort on the part of men to make women feel bad (usually that is, some men are jerks) but it is a law of nature. Nature programmed women to reproduce before they reach their mid 30s and men to be attracted to certain features in women that make them more desirable to men to reproduce with. And reproduction is nature's most important and high priority function of all species of things.
So while it is understandable that these things cause women a lot of stress and anxiety, you really can't blame men for it.
And it should also be mentioned that men have things that cause them stress and anxiety that are a function of natural design too.
I'm not a woman and can't really say, but I would imagine body count judgment hurts them more. When you really get down to it, women are just as insecure about that as the men are, they are just pretending that it doesn't or shouldn't matter.
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u So women are angry because men don't think exactly like women? Is that really what you expect. . . because that unrealistic expectation can be appplied to women, too!
Women are the only ones who think fat chicks are unattractive. I don't speak for myself, but most dudes aren't particularly picky as long as you don't look sickly.
As for body count, get used to it. Men are starting to become more conscientious about who they date. Women with a high body are known for being bad partners in the long run. It's all about social psychology. Sex with multiplicity partners negativity impacts their ability to pair bond. Heaven forbid she sleeps with a high value dude and doesn't win him over. She'll probably never get over him.
The body count thing has never made sense. It’s rooted in the old-fashioned religious notion that sex is dirty or evil and that it somehow translates to women (men tend to exempt themselves) who enjoy sex, which is nothing more than a basic human need. I can’t believe that still endures in this day and age. It’s complete nonsense. The beauty thing is much more understandable because attraction begins with what you see. You can’t help if you are attracted to curvy or slim. Talk or short. Blonde or brunette. The caveat to this is that looks won’t sustain a relationship, so sometimes you need to look past that to find attributes that are much more important.
Most the women on here are going to say body count. But that's just because most the women on here are failures in the relationship dept. And hate the fact the fact they are judged by thier bad choices.
Yes women worry about thier beauty but that's because society tells them how much of thier value is wrapped up in thier physical appearance. Most of the women on this site though have very little self worth beyond this.
I'd just say it's more body count overall. Because most women that use this site don't distinguish between good attention and bad attention. As long as a guy pays attention to her she's not real picky about which it is.
Either would be a major turnoff for me. Looks would probably be worse as that is out of your control. You’re either pretty or you are not and there is only so much you can do to make yourself appear as more attractive. When a guy has said stuff like that to me in the past it was extremely off putting regardless of if I fit what they wanted or not
Man, where does all of this circulate? Women start getting angry at the opposite sex over the most vocal ones acting like they represent almost all men.
The only thing from this list that i agree with is 1. No fat women for me. And no unattractive women goes without saying. That being said most women pass these for me.
I think body count makes them more bitter. Because they spend all of this time and effort and money to look pretty so that men will be attracted to them and fuck them, and then they get criticized for it. Lol.
The poor things are confused, though. They don't understand that they're not being criticized for being fucked. They're being criticized for being fucked by MULTIPLE MEN, as opposed to one man (their husband).
as long as a man they find attractive has standards they can't reach (not because they are impossible to achieve but because they are too lazy or made too many mistakes in their lifetime), they'll be upset and start shaming him regardless
I am not promiscuous so I don’t really care if he asks about my body count I have a clean record and as far as beauty is concerned, I am very sure of myself. I look pretty even without any effort - like literally get up and wash my face and I look pretty so I don’t care if he is into that.
If he is mean about other people because he doesn’t think they are attractive then he’s a bad man. I stay away from those.
how about if they treat you like a human being... i don't mind giving blowjobs and all that but when they don't treat you like a person than i'm bitter.
The guy would be an utter , utter , utter , idiot fool if he didn't care about those things , wholly sht , give me a break ! He'd be poking a carefree slt , of course he's going to care , not worth his salt if he doesn't.
If anything a MAN says MAKES a woman feel insecure, she's got a bigger problem to begin with than feeling bitter or angry. A woman should never base her security on a man's opinion. I thought women were getting smarter than that?
Why tf should any woman feel bitter when a stupid guy says stupid things? What is there to feel bitter about? Just laugh and ignore those MF's and move on.
Neither because I don't care what men think
if you are bitter about what men want, you should probably get some therapy. seriously.
Why should either make a woman or girl feel bitter? A female should be flattered a guy or man finds her beautiful. In terms of body count -- that was her choice, she let dude's insert their penis into her vagina, I have no sympathy for those women. If we flip the cards around, females don't like guys with a high body count and dudes are labelled with the term "fuck boy".
Let me ask you a question, would you rather date a Ron Jeremy who's slept with a thousand women or a Ryan Gosling who's sleeping with two?
None, since those were my requirements for men. Not the curves obviously. But young, fit and virgin.
The age one makes sense too because it's like geez I can't stop myself from aging. It's like the guy is punishing you in a way. Oh you are in your 30s? Ok you are too old for me. The guy is like almost 40.
I'm just looking around
Body count is the worst. For one, it is none of their business and 2, it gets real creepy real fast when they start obsessing over virgins.
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