Do men Require a girl to be a 10? or is average looks okay?

[Anonymous]

My Boyfriend is so Handsome like a 10 . I am a 5 or 6 at best yet he still chooses me over a 10 . It’s just weird

[Lliam]

Ratings are subjective. There is no template for a perfect looking person.

For instance, some guys believe that girls are only attracted to guys with gym bods and 6 pack abs who are over 6' tall and have 6 figure incomes. That's some shallow-minded bullshit. And those kind of guys project their values onto women and wind up dating shallow, high maintenance women.

Women in particular tend to obsess over any perceived flaw. "I have a mole on my tummy." "Are my boobs too small?" "How can I get a bigger butt?" "Is my nose ugly?"
They get ideas of perfection by looking at glamor commercials and comparing themselves to others.

Most guys don't critique women that way. A guy might think an average girl is adorably cute, but be mainly attracted by her mannerisms and personality.

Guys might notice women with big boobs or butts because... they are noticeable. But that doesn't mean that a guy demands those things in a girlfriend or even cares about those things. He might actually love your funny face, small boobs, and cute butt. And what he cares most about, again, are your mannerisms and personality.

So, you might think you are a 5 or 6, but your guy might absolutely adore you and think he is lucky that you adore him.

And some women might not think your guy is a 10. Everyone has different tastes and preferences.

[Effably]

I have seen two women that were clear tens in my entire life. Counting every celebrity, actor, so on. Two. I am getting on in years. One guy.

A perfect ten is very unrealistic to anyone. And no, guys don't ask for that. Of course you lay be that perfect ten to him even if you don't see it yourself in the mirror.

Now what I as a guy ask for is basically:
1. Is she attractive to me? This could be 6-10 really, if we add arbitrary numbers.
2. Personality, chemistry, all the important jazz.

Basically one you meet a baseline of attractive what I, and most guys, go for is no longer just looks. A 7 with humour is going to be much more appealing than a 9 without for anything more than a ONS. Might even prefer the 7 for that too.

So we don't ask for 10s. But also little lady. You do not ever get to decide what you are to him. To him you might be perfection incarnate and as long as you are together you just have to accept he thinks you're, kinda hot.

[MissBoogus]

People just want you to look normal. Basic is perfect.

[MrOracle]

Nearly every girl who is a 10 physically is a 3 (at best) in personality, morals, and values. Give me an average-looking girl with great personality, morals, and values every time.

[Lynx122]

An average girl who actually loves you is a million times better than a 10 who is never sure if you're really good enough for her or if she should dump you and chase after something better. The first one is a relationship the second one is just self inflicted emotional torture basically. Being comfortable is important. If you're not sure if this person really likes you or if they'll chnge their mind it's not gonna lead to a healthy relationship. One person is going to try and do more to recieve the affection from the other person but that person might withdraw even more etc. My girlfriend thinks I'm a 10 too and she doesn't understand why women are not all over me. But I'm just glad that she loves me very much and it makes me happy.

[NamerOfStars]

If they did, there'd be far fewer men in relationships, no? Good looks will catch a man's eye, no question. But they won't HOLD it, and they won't hold him. This is what many women fail to understand.

[Asker]

That’s deep

[NamerOfStars]

Just observational. The vast majority of the heartache between the sexes comes from failing to understand one another.

[Finchie40]

Because he values your heart and personality , in his eyes you are a 10 , because he is drawn to the way you carry yourself , if you are sweet and caring to him and loyal to him and value him and appreciate him he is more than likely going to do the same for you, Most girls tell themselves they are a 5 or 6 when really she is a 10 , so if your boyfriend wasn’t attracted bro you , he wouldn’t be with you period , Looks aren’t everything , it’s the persons heart that matters

[FunkyMonkee]

Average is fine! Sometimes, below average is good enough! My uncle married someone who could've been a fashion model and then divorced her after about 15 years and married this ugly little reputable dwarf that NOBODY liked and spent the rest of his life with her!
Then you have John Lennon, who married the beautiful Cindy and, 6 years later started fucking around with Yoko and spent the rest of his life with her!

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

I give the same advice to women as to men:

Don't try to punch above your SMV weight class and be surprised when the other person is an arse and / or dismisses you.

Average, well-adjusted people aren't as picky as the "beautiful ones".

[Ironic_Method]

If only "10s" were pursued, the vast majority of women wouldn't be in relationships. A little bit of common sense goes a long way.

[Asker]

Common sense isn’t too common around here

[Ironic_Method]

You're not wrong.

Also, to answer your question you must bring all kinds of things to your relationship. Looks get attention, everything else makes them stay.

[Anonymous]

Most guys do not want perfection. It's funny, I used to dislike Margot robbie at first because she was picture perfect. She's since (due to the roles she's played and interviews she's given) has grown on me. But I've always found Drew Barrymore because of her adorable chin.

A guy is always going to take an avg. Girl with a great personality over a 10 with a s*** personality. And if he doesn't? Trust me you don't want him! He's still very immature.

[DarkWinterNights]

This is a weird question. What kind of guys are you normally talking to? I would never wife up a 10, even if I could attract one. Way too much drama and high maintenance. Most guys are perfectly happy dating an average girl. As long as she’s cool, loyal and fun to be around. Average is not a bad thing. By it’s very definition, it’s most of the population.

[inhua]

many girls have been fooled into trying to become like a Victoria Secret Model, an Instagram Model, a Kardashian look-a-like when men are far more simple than this in terms of their visuals

[BoopBoopBeep]

I've never seen a 10 in real life to include the makeup model I dated. 5 being average, I'd tend to say I'd need at least a high 6 or a 7 to date.

[bolverk]

Its not weird at all, he's chosen you because he values something about you that goes beyond mere looks, also a lot of women who are '10's' bring a load of baggage in the morals, and values dept that put men off dating them.

[slatyb]

You are almost certainly more attractive than you believe, and he probably doesn't think he's all that much. Don't worry, be happy.

[ProbablyClueless]

Obviously we're cool with average looks. Humanity wouldn't have a population of 8 billion people if we were that picky.

[genericname85]

Men are generally way lower in their superficial expectations than women are. For the average man, the average woman is satisfactory. For the average woman however, the average male is relatively unattractive.

[es20490446e]

Physically I just need a woman that I like.

Mentally it's a different story.

[zagor]

No they don't. And 10's don't stay 10's forever.

[Chthou95]

Most men are perfectly fine with an average looking women. Men have wide range of what they find attractive

[LiamJHayden]

Well I have never even seen what I would consider to be a "10" and I myself am dead average, so average is fine for me.

[Jmmmfi4]

Definitely fine with average

[Snakeyes7]

Average looks are always good.

[barn_stormer]

he's probably a moron

[Anonymous]

One of the rare males that aren’t superficial

[MrOracle]

We're all superficial to a degree, but the majority of us (NOT a minority) are not nearly as superficial when we are looking for a relationship. Men are often MORE superficial, with higher beauty standards, when we are just looking for casual sex, because she's not going to be around long enough for anything else to matter.

So many girls don't realize this, because they focus SO MUCH on their visual appearance and SO LITTLE on their morals, values, and personalities, and it's the latter things that are FAR more often the reasons why guys dismiss them as relationship partners.

[riverrat3]

Nope, just a good attitude

[shortster]

Average is good