Have you stopped using dating apps because they all suck?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I used dating apps 2007-2008, when I met my future ex. We married in 2011 and divorced in 2015. Went back on dating apps then, met a retired judge, dated for two years, then I broke up with her. 2017-2018, on dating apps again, met some nice ladies, met one who seemed like a nice lady, dated her a few years. Broke up in 2020, back online, dated a few more ladies, met the woman who is now my fiancee.

Good results for online dating does not mean you meet someone and live happily ever after because that doesn't necessarily happen IRL either. It means that you meet women who are reasonable candidates, not scams or gold diggers, women who are at least worthy of two or three dates. By that standard, I had good results.

Why? I paid great attention to my profile and photos, including getting feedback from women who I trusted to be honest with me. I messaged each woman with something more than just "Hello, I'm OAW!" And I was very mindful that women are much more cautious about online dating because they don't want to have a first date with Ted Bundy.

I've stopped using dating apps because I found The One. If my relationship fell apart and I needed to return to dating apps, I would use Bumble, zoosk, and POF. There may be better sites available now, but those are the ones I have used with good results.

Staximus · Accepted Answer

A few years back this super hot college girl messaged me first on tinder. I thought to myself "what the hell is she thinking?" I literally asked her "aren't I too old and fat for you?" Hahaha. She said no and that she was 21 and can do whatever she wants. She said that I was really attractive in a rugged kind of way and that she liked my beard. I thought she was catfishing me, but she said she might want to meet up with me soon and gave me her real name. It was a very unusual first name, she came up right away on Instagram. She was like 19 and had a bunch of pictures with her boyfriend. I thought to myself that this girl is going to keep lying to me and get me into drama or trouble. I flat out asked her "are you really 21 and don't you have a boyfriend?" She didn't answer and deleted her tinder profile like 5 minutes later. I don't like dating apps because a lot of the women lie on there. Women should beware of online dating because I'm sure even more guys lie on there. People can lie much easier online than they can to your face. The way she looked, most guys would have not cared about the lying; but being trustworthy is the first thing I look for in a woman. She was too young and too shady for me, already trying to live a double life.

beautyjoyfover200 · Accepted Answer

I stop using them because I felt like they were a waste of energy. I kept seeing a constant pattern of where theses dude are coming from, so some apps are clearly for guys to hook up with and then there are the guys that are fresh out of a relationship and your the test run to see if they made a mistake or not and go back to their girlfriend without telling you or you found a total loser want to play around your feelings. Theses days it’s just too much when you just want to have fun and meet someone to shared love with but sometimes dating apps are fun when your bored lol.

Now I don’t have dating on my mind other then making money. I hope to find a guy out and about minding my business like the normal people do, let’s see how far that goes lol.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Hi... you called?
Yeah I gave up YEARS ago when there was only PoF, Okcupid, and... geez mainly those two.

Back in the stone ages [early 2000s], it was either them, or meet potential dates on Facebook and other social media.

I had no luck. I was even active messaging guys and STILL had no luck. I mean I know I'm not the most attractive person but damn...
So for the sake of my sanity and self esteem, I took a step back from dating platforms. It seems they made me feel worse and more lonely.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Nope because never started using them 😁🤣…

love_conquers_lust · Answer

They’re unhealthy because of a market imbalance. Too many guys on there, not enough girls. Shitty behavior from both sides. Developers nickle and dime. Girls ending feeling like shit because they’re flooded with a bunch of pissed off, thirsty dudes. Guys are trying to dangle their hooks in a dried out pond. The analogy I heard was:

For men, it’s like being thirsty in a desert, no water to drink. For women, it’s being thirsty on a boat in the ocean, can’t drink any of the water around you.

Extend the analogy further, what usually happens is women end up beating guys back with an oar when thirsty guys try to come aboard.

They need to balance out the M:F ratio. More girls need to join, and/or guys need to touch grass.

AlbantheGreat · Answer

I didn't really use a dating app, but a social app, Facebook, during 3 years, from 2016 to 2019. How to sum up my experience? I spent many hours on that app, but it didn't really feed my social needs.

I flirted once on Facebook, in 2016, but the beauty present on the pictures couldn't be her. So, I felt scammed. Since then, I asked like... 1 to 3 times? I was really straightforward, because I didn't want to waste my time, so I asked if we could go out.

And they hesitated, so I gave up. I don't like dating on Internet. It's like looking for a needle in a haystack.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Face to face interaction from the first time you set eyes on each other is the only way to go.

Nothing beats body language to know how an individual perceives you. If it is bad and you recognize it, you can move on with little time invested vs someone online misrepresenting themselves.

Nothing beats getting the invite from a woman to up the interaction to physical contact. Again, very little time invested.

Why hide behind a devices screen.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

I stopped using them even though I’m averaging at least 10 matches a month

but that’s not why I stopped I stopped because 10 a month is really good for an average guy

I use dating apps like women do “ Validation “ and after further review on the play I’m a lot better looking than I thought

Minahh · Answer

I get on there when I feel like going on a date and meeting someone new because obviously guys don't ask me out and I'm introverted. 6 months ago I went on like 4 dates and this summer went on 4 dates too. Honestly if you're at least a semi attractive girl there is a chance for you to find who you're looking for on there as you're able to do a huge selection rather than relaying solely on luck as you would in meeting guys at the clubs, school, work etc. But you have to get through a lot of dirt to find that diamond you're looking for. Recently I've heard a success story of a girl who found her love like that. I came to conclusion that at this time I simply don't have the time nor energy to go through such a extensive process as this girl went. It might not be the most romantic meet up story but yeah if you're not patient to wait for the mister right to just magically show up I guess it's worth it.

Unit1 · Answer

Yes. They don't work for me.

There needs to be a Discord equivalent for Online Dating.

Bumble - Can't talk or respond to women

Hinge - very limited daily swipes and it shows me weird humans, that have undergone heavy body transformations in ugly ways 9/10 times

Tinder - Shows me the same profiles every day!

Parship - All photos blurred unless you pay. Plus setting up a profile takes as much time as filling your tax income statement

Someone can put them all out of business very easily.

provokeesmokee · Answer

I haven't actually been using them. I'm thinking of starting but the sheer number of horror stories has me hesitating.

There's a newer app just for climbers I'm more interested in, but I'm not done making my profile.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

They sucked back in 2016 when I tried them. I’ve only heard that they’ve somehow gotten worse. And that’s just the quality of people on them, not including the spam, scam messages and catfish that inundate them.

electromagnetic · Answer

I’ve never used one before.  My friend has and she said all it did was give her stress and shitty people.

worldscolide · Answer

i stopped using them when i met my wife. If i werent married im pretty sure i would not use them because the women on them are just shit. 2's thinking they are 10's and the like lol.

artgorgeous · Answer

They don't work as they are supposed to (from users perspective).

Nikki1989 · Answer

If I ever get so desperate I need a dating app, just shoot me, please.

lilBigPotato · Answer

No but you need to go in with the right expectations

catarecute · Answer

dating apps are a scam. i am gonna code a dating app to make me rich as i am fed up with others being rich and putting people at risk as they are so many predators on them and women getting raped. and even men getting raped as well.

Shark_61695 · Answer

Nope but I just can't be bothered with them. I keep my profile alive just in case. Who knows, a miracle might happen...

LiLee77E · Answer

No. The apps have good and bad features, but that doesn’t make a massive difference. In my experience it’s easy to find good men on all the apps. Just need to use the app the best way to make it more efficient to find good people.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I stopped using them because they sucked  for me . The seem to work for others.

Sharkstealth · Answer

The only place on the internet that I have ever met anybody from was backpage and they made it illegal.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends what you mean by "using". I don't try to find a date on them anymore. They're largely just entertainment to me. I mean I'll still give women on them a chance if they shelve thier pride and contact me. But if a woman just "likes" my profile I just ignore her. I'm worthwhile and nothing worthwhile comes easy. Sorry, that's just the way it is.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Tried it once for a few months and canned it. Just a bunch of lying BS. People saying they like to get outdoors when they're really couch potatoes, etc.

bolverk · Answer

I've never used 'dating' apps, never seen the appeal of them.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Never used in the first place. So impersonal. Where's the connection, what makes that dating thing so special?

Anonymous · Answer

Blew through them between 18 and 19, no dates and only a few brief conversations/likes, glad I didn't spend any money

devilish-cutie · Answer

no, i see no point in giving up, yes it s hard but its some possibility to meet someone

Thumperthump · Answer

After my divorce i used dating sites. i went off because i was tired of random dating. let things come naturally>

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I stopped using them before the pandemic because I just found the experience emotionally draining.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes. Most of my matches on OKCupid are African girls and Asian girls. But I'm not really attracted to either. So I don't know why they keep messaging me.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely. Tinder is a joke. All these dating apps are full of ghost profiles. There's too much work needed to get 1 actual date

Jazzy54 · Answer

Nope. Too many catfish on them. I prefer meeting someone in person anyway. 🤷🏽‍♀️

sheikalana · Answer

I've stopped using dating apps when I met my husband.

genericname85 · Answer

they do all suck but i'm technically still registred. tho not actively using.

MysticDevice · Answer

I still use them but I stopped expecting anything. Cause, well, they all suck.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I have never used one or had the need for one fortunately

MikeInHawaii · Answer

The apps aren’t the problem. The problem is people lie so much.

zagor · Answer

Yeah pretty much. I probably had about 20 first dates from dating apps. None worked out.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

You mean hookup apps that lead nowhere? Yes, I did back in 2015.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I never started using dating apps

katiesmuff · Answer

I've never used one, but I totally agree with you.

justabuddy · Answer

They all seem like a scam to me.

silentz1 · Answer

Yes... they all suck..

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Not on them to begin with

msc545 · Answer

Yes I have.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

so many gay/lesbians in the closet

jimmy2 · Answer

Nothing but scammers

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