Do I have to give away expensive gifts from my ex when I'm dating someone else?

[Anonymous]

My ex gave me expensive gifts. Cute lululemon leggings, branded purses, and like $200 preserved flowers. Do I have to give them away? I use them so often. Dont think about him much when I wear them, but very occasionally i do remember oh yeah my ex got me this. Ex was 8 years long relationship by the way.

[charrissanextdoor]

It definitely depends on what the gift is. Like for instance I have a MacBook Pro and Louis Vuitton Bag I got from my Ex. I will not be getting rid of these because that’s outrageously stupid/ crazy. Will my boyfriend replace them with an equally or better gift? If so, maybe we can discuss. It is your belongings so he does not have the right to tell you to get rid of it. It’s not like I think about them every time I use my laptop or wear my purse for instance. It’s childish and insecure if he feels that way and should work through it.

However on the other hand, if it was a personalized gift like a watch engraved box or anything sentimental. I think it’s justifiable to get rid of this because your partner may feel like you have lingering feels and think about them when using it.

[Rei13]

I think it depends what the gift was. If it was underwear, bed sheets, or anything of that nature then yes you should get rid of them. It can be the nicest bra but the association that goes with it would probably make your partner uncomfortable (rightfully so). Wallets and watches are gray territory, where if it is a game controller, tv, computer, purse etc that shouldn’t be a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Reverse the situation. If you were dating a man and he was wearing the silky boxer briefs that his ex purchased for him... the tracksuit trousers she got him, the watches, the leather wallets.. but he didn't think about her much when he wore them... would you be perfectly fine with that? Or would you rather be with a man that wanted a fresh new start with nothing from his past. Also bear in mind that all items hold energy no matter what we tell ourselves. I

Note that I'm talking more about a serious relationship rather than dating, but keeping hold of the past in any way will create barriers with that too.

[Asker]

i see what you're saying. yeah expensive watch NO. I would be like sirr I'll buy it for you.

[OfMiceandMen]

They are gifts and yours, that is where it ends. You don't have to offer any story about your ex giving it to you.

TBH some guys may be bothered by it, but I would not care if the girl I was with had gifts from an ex. It's to be expected and it's not something to sweat about.

No different than me having gifts from my ex.

[AviatorTom]

No, they belong to you and you can do whatever you want with them.

[Bilboes]

In my opinion, it depends on what it is and how it affects you. If you have something that brings you back into the relationship when you’re trying to move on, get rid of it ASAP.. But if this gift doesn't have the slightest sentimental value, there's no point throwing it away just because you started dating someone else.

[Nikki1989]

No, why give the stuff away. Keep it, enjoy it.

[Miristheiss]

Maybe. If he becomes your husband then you have to give some weight to you keeping these things around. If you've only been dating him 3 months then keep the stuff for now.

[Billlewis]

No, not at all. I often buy gifts for women whom I have no romantic connection with, as well as their boyfriends.

[BoopBoopBeep]

No that'd be silly. Anyone who demands that is being an insecure control freak.

[slatyb]

No, you don't. If someone insists that you do, dump them. They are insanely insecure and will be impossible to live with.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

It depends on person who wears it. I see clothes no different than keeping a powertool that you were handed in a previous job and allowed to keep. I will keep using it of course. Clothes are for protection and I don't assign any fucking meaning to them. Some people assign meanings to everything, they wouldn't write a pen that someone they dislike brought. And they are obsessed with clothing, and if she is then it's a problem. All the difference is in her mind.

One suggestion is, if it bothers you then swap it for the same kind. Sell it and buy the same thing... but that's fucking stupid in my opinion, just don't be so sensitive.

[artgorgeous]

Do divorced women need to give back house of their ex husband they've got from a divorce?

[REX_JSWL]

My ex didn't gave me anything back
Didn't game my Bitcoin too
DAMN!

[sheikalana]

No, those gifts were meant to be yours and given to you you don't need to return anything.

[TallAnon]

Why would you even assume you would have to?

[Nominal]

Hump them.

[shianne3]

Throw them out

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

Coom on them first