Am I a terrible person?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been with my long distance boyfriend for 4 years. Things were good in the beginning, but we barely do things with each other anymore. He’s always to busy gaming with friends and also tends to get annoyed at me a lot. He can be nice but I just feel like things have changed.
I recently made a new friend who is also female and I have this new random attraction that I’ve never experienced before. It’s left me confused because iv only been with my boyfriend and it makes me feel terrible because I never saw this coming. Please any advice would be great🥺

[Anonymous]

It's true that feelings change with time. It's also fact that new things always seems more attractive. But it's the general rule. It could differ according to situation and we have to choose ourselves that where do we would liketo invest pur energy upon. Would you like to spend your energy more on rejuvenating the lost love between you and your boyfriend. Is it worth of that? Does he deserves that? Or he is not so interested in this relationship and this relationship has already died? Would you like to water the growing feelings with your new friend? is it more worthy of your time and emotion's investment?

You choose you decide.

And you need not to feel guilty about anything. Whatever happening it happens and it's natural. It's we who takes decision and decide our paths. And you have all rights to choose whatever you feel good for yourself.

[alatyr]

I dont understand, do you love your friend now? I'm confused because my English is not good

[Asker]

Well that’s the thing, I’m not really sure if I love her. I mean I have feelings for her I can’t explain. It’s like I want her but yet I’m scared and I feel bad for having a boyfriend and realizing these feelings. It’s so hard

[alatyr]

if you really love your boyfriend and dont love your female friend, get away from her. But if you have feeling to her like love, you should break with your boyfriend.

[Rich371ca]

I think you are ready to move on from your boyfriend and start something real with your female friend