Am I a horrible person?

[hunnie-bunches]

I’ve been asked by my 24 year old son if he can stay with me for a couple months. When I told him I’m struggling and can barely afford my bills, he said he’ll just sleep in his car and freeze because he can’t help me and save up to get his own place at the same time. I told him he can stay because he told me it would just be him and that his baby and the mom would go to her moms place. Fast forward a week, all three of them are snuggled up on my couch in my living room, which means I’m confined to my bedroom don’t have a TV in there. It’s just me and my bed. So far he’s backed his car that I gave him last year into mine knocked my license plate off the front the baby dropped my TV remote in the mop bucket. The baby also broke my laptop, drawn on my couch with permanent marker and on my back door and my kitchen wall. They invited her mother over here for Thanksgiving. Still haven’t done the dishes from it. My house is a total wreck and I’m on the verge of committing suicide. I want my life by myself he’s got me to the point I don’t even want my 19 year old daughter or my 17 year olds they are anymore. I’m stuck in a 3 year lease. I have one year left and if I want to move out early, I have to pay $3000 to my landlord that I can’t afford I’m seriously thinking about doing it at tax time to get out and leave my 17-year-old with them. Motherhood has not been the joy to me that it has for others and I hate my life. By the way my son doesn’t even have a job and he told me he was going to get his old job back and has not made one attempt yet to do so.

[MementoMori777]

Suicide is never the answer, what you need are solutions and suicide is not a solution, I have done uber and it makes money on good nights/days, weekends are jackpots and you have to fix one problem at a time, not try to fix them all at once, that's why you are so pressured right now, start with the easily reachable problem, your house, clean it up, maybe a clean environment might help you think better, your house, your rules, let that be clear with all of them, keep in mind you can legally kick them out if it ever comes to it so they should help, if you have a house and a backyard, for like 3 dollars you can buy seeds for fruits and vegetables, you can plant them in your back yard and you'd save a ton of money and let's not mention it's by far the healthiest fruits and vegetables you'll eat considering you grew them yourself and you know you didn't add anything to them, keep in mind you can actually grow more plants from the seeds you pull out of the fruits and veggies, I've done it, they grow, I know you'll come up with solutions, you just need the time to think and you should give yourself that time.

[FunkyMonkee]

Oh, THE WORST!! I can't STAND you!! How can you even live with yourself or look at yourself in the mirror!! WORST person I've EVER met and I haven't even met you, yet!! Charlie Manson & Hitler were choir boys, compared to you!!
What'd you do that was so awful, anyway?
From what I'm hearing, the only thing I can come up with is that you didn't do such a great job parenting. But, kids DO have a tendency to go bad on you over the years!! My ex-sisters severely fucked over mom & I 3 years ago!! Nearest I can tell, they did a pretty good job of parenting. Maybe it's time to put your foot down!! If Sonny's adult enough to have a family, it's up to HIM to get a fucking job and take care of them!! AND, if YOU'RE in a financial bind, HE should at least TRY to do something to help you out!! same with the other two!! When dad was a kid, if he got a job, he'd give some of his money to his mother to help out!! When I had lots of money coming in, I had no qualms about paying for all the groceries in the house! The last 2 years that my aunt was alive, she was in a financial bind and, even though i was practically broke, I still paid her bills for her!! No reason your kids can't do the same for you!!

[Sparkie460]

I'm really sorry you're going through this. Your son seems like a freeloader to me. You need to tell them they have to leave. They can go to social services department Monday morning and ask for immediate housing assistance. They will not be turned down because they have a baby.

[JohnK123]

Omg that’s terrible I’m so sorry… I feel really bad… ur not a horrible person at all… u should’ve only allowed them to stay a bit not too long tho

[KrakenAttackin]

Doesn't seem like you instilled much of a work ethic. Where is your Sons father?

[hunnie-bunches]

I’ve worked my whole life. I work full time always have. His father lives a few states away and me raising him the way I did has nothing to do with him now, because I was raised by a drug addict and I work full-time and always having don’t do drugs at all so don’t blame this on me if you don’t have an answer to my question keep it moving.

[KrakenAttackin]

You need to make his getting a job a condition of them staying with you. Also, wrote up a list of chores and tell them you expect them to be done, again as a condition of their staying.

[jayhams]

Sounds like you raised a failure.

[hunnie-bunches]

Sounds like your mama raised a failure. Fuck you

[jayhams]

Your response is an insult because you know I am right. If you thought you were right you would have an intelligent rebuttal.

[OrhanKultigin]

Not really