What are y’all’s green/red flags?

Question

I’m just curious, do you think you’re self aware

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

My red flags: My mental illnesses can become unmanageable at times and I accidentally take out my frustrations on those closest to me (though I always apologise after), im not a super clean person and I struggle with depression so my room is usually a mess and I struggle with house work like dishes and vacuuming, I’m terrible with cooking or baking, I have memory issues so I often forget things that people have told me, which results in people feeling that I just don’t care, I’m addicted to my phone and can’t spend more than a few hours without it, I’m disabled so I’m not an extremely active person - though I do go to the gym a few times a week.

My green flags: I’m very loving and physically affectionate to those that I care about, I will always drop things and rush to help when someone needs me, I’m loyal and don’t gossip, I’m very empathetic but know my boundaries and don’t let people push me over, I keep calm and collected in stressful situations, I have a lot of life experience and am often the person that friends turn to for advice, I’m an open book and non judgmental - always happy to talk about anything, I enjoy working and feeling accomplished in my job.

JosyJosy · Accepted Answer

Some reds: He's rude. He's got anger issues. He's got attachment issues. He's bitter. He's controlling. He's very jealous. He has different relationship goals. He wants to force his views and beliefs upon me. He's sensitive meaning he can't take honesty. He wants sex right away. He wants a relationship right away.

Some greens: He's polite, kind, respectful. He takes care of himself. He's confident. He doesn't rush. He's easy to talk to. We have the same opinion on a lot of things. My best friends like him. When I catch myself being worried about him or missing him, which is the big one.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Green Flags: I basically have a personality similar to a God. Like think of every possible positive trait ever & I probably have it.

Red Flags: I legit view life in a vastly different way than most do. This allows me to not want to be in relationships, not want to have kids, socialize with a lot of people, etc. I'm a cynic & a nihilist. I legitimately disagree with many fundamentals of life itself which doesn't allow me to embody meaning in as many things as an average person would.

I also have an ear condition that makes me isolate myself from the world. Hyperacusis. For instance, I went to the store today & I was in pain at many points from people talking loudly, to the workers doing things loudly, to carts squeaking, etc. I have to constantly wear hearing protection in order to not be in a form of agony.

Drewtate · Accepted Answer

If she claims her ex was abusive

Anonymous · Answer

Red flags: I’m not good at communicating (about how I feel, my likes&dislikes, sentences building, my intonations sometimes are not proper like I sound upset/angry, dialect) There are days where I really don’t feel like talking AT ALL but I’m not in a bad mood or something. Just not talking. Silent, not talking, just calmness. BUT I’d still respond to everybody nicely. This is misleading for some people so that’s why I consider this as my red flag I don’t eat anything from pigs and turkeys I have anxiety and borderline personality disorder, still manageable, I can function normally like 100% mentally healthy people I don’t have that much friends, I’m not that good at socializing, I DON’T hate socializing, I still like crowds and parties, even though I’m an introvert Green flags I’m not insecure, I’m not a psyho, I’m considerate, reliable, understanding, and knows how to read people’s feelings

Berethor · Answer

Red flag she if she ho, green flag if she virgin, woman's virginity tells me all I need to know.

Al_Musafir · Answer

A devout Muslimah  No contact with 'male friends' Prioritises religion  Mentally strong  Good in communication  Feminine  Caring Knows her worth Loving

Anonymous · Answer

Green flag: I'm 100% loyal I'm helpful with cleaning, cooking, being there for someone etc I listen Red flags: I can get really angry  I lie when im nervous