How can I convince my mother about my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Hi. I'm dating an Emirati Arab. But my mother doesn't want him to marry me just because he's Arab.
But not all Arab men are the same. My boyfriend is really different. And my boyfriend puts pressure on me to convince my mother bc he wants to plan the wedding this summer. What should I do? How can I convince her?

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you need for them to hang out more, so she can see what you see in him. If she see's him treating you well, then she'd more convinced that he has good intentions and is a good fit in your life.

Mothers and fathers are protective of their children, we only want for them to meet someone that treats them with respect and kindness. Show her that and she will be more amenable to your wedding plans.

[Asker]

The tragicomic part of the this topic is that my father is Arab. I ask her the reason and she says "I don't want you to do the same mistake" lol
But yeah thanks for your advice :)

[OfMiceandMen]

Did they break up?

[OfMiceandMen]

I think you need to remind her, you boyfriend is not your father.

[Asker]

No they are still married but she's worried about the different cultures. Bc she told me that she had hard times to keeping up with my father and his cultures when she was married him

[Asker]

Yes he's never like my father.

[OfMiceandMen]

I think it is just something that comes with time and you and he would have to prove to her (to a certain extent) through your day to day interactions, they they are not the same person.

[boggboss]

I dint thunk you can apart from telling her u will get married with her or not

[Asker]

Wdym?

[artgorgeous]

You ready to be his second or third wife?

[Asker]

Stop being ignorant. you sign a contract that you don't allow a second wife when you get married. So if he tries to marry a second one, we will automatically be divorced, stupid.

[Asker]

And yes I love him. I'm sure you think that I love him for money etc. But let me tell you something, I come from a wealthy family. so I don't need money ;)

[artgorgeous]

There is a high chance he would want a second wife. I think your mother is right. Two cultures are too different.

[Asker]

Dude, my father is arab and mother is Turkish. Its all about the family's education level. There's no one married a second one in my father's family even though they are arabs. And same thing in my boyfriend's family.

[artgorgeous]

So why would you then ask about convincing your mother? It your life, you shouldn't care about it.

[Asker]

I respect my family, I would like to get their approval on such an important matter.

[artgorgeous]

You can't get approval by forcing them. It will be just words. Your family should also respect your choice.

[Asker]

My mother is just worried about the cultural differences. She says she had a hard time to keeping up with my father and his culture at the beginning of her marriage.

[artgorgeous]

No one said life is easy. You mother wants everything good for you, but she can't realize that its impossible. If your parents keep you always secure and make you always rely only on them, your life will become even more difficult. Its about the time to make your own decisions and start going through all life difficulties by yourself. Only this way you can become more experienced and strong.

[Asker]

Yes you're right thanks :)

[In_Trance]

let them sleep together

[Asker]

So funny, clown

[Anonymous]

You can't! he has to.