I 27F have been dating my boyfriend 30M for nearly 4 months. My mom is never mean persay, and doesn’t tell me I should break up with him, but I know she doesn’t favor the relationship and in many ways thinks I’m being played the fool.
Her biggest thing is that he’s recently divorced. No kids, but he’s known his ex over 10 years and they are good friends, even now they will sometimes run an errand together or bc of her struggle with living arrangement since the divorce, he will let her cook or shower when he’s not home. Ex doesn’t like me but knows about me and all. I can’t say I’m a huge fan of them still being in contact, but he assures me although he’ll always have love/respect for her due to their long friendship, that he’s in love with me and wants a future together.
My mom thinks that I’m a side piece and the best thing for everyone including spiritually is for them to get back together and that I should try to help them do that.
It doesn’t help that we have opposite work schedules and don’t spend a lot of time together. Maybe once a week or every other week but talk everyday. Sometimes he also cancels on me last minute which looks even worse, but he said it will change when he switches to days in 2 wks.
In addition he got in some trouble 7 years ago although he wasn’t imprisoned but it’s out there. He’s been straight since.
lastly, my mom simply doesn’t find him attractive (although quite a few girls around my age do still try to show interest in him and find him attractive) and he’s gained a few pounds since we met. It’s an interracial relationship as well if that has anything to do with it. He’s from a large city states away and I’m from a small rural town.
in general she just doesn’t understand why I picked him and thinks I’m being played. That’s I’m settling bc I don’t believe I deserve better after my ho phase. But I think he just has stuff to work through and that our love is real. What should I do
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