I keep getting rejected, ghosted or discarded in the dating world and it kills me inside. Is it because of my looks?

[Anonymous]

[BoobSlayer]

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[BoopBoopBeep]

People say I rate really low because I give nearly everyone a "5". That's what average means, but whatever. I'd say you're a strong 8. I dated a Maybeline model one time that looked a lot like you, and she made a great deal of money from being pretty, so it's not that. As I was reading below though, I came across this:

"I've noticed the problem might be me. I get called clingy and I attach myself to people I'm romantically interested in. It seems like being cold, distant and aloof is what works the best "

In reality a balancing act is best, because both of these extremes here are going to get you ghosted. The former before he sleeps with you and the latter afterwards. Proper pairing patterns can be productive (say that 5 times fast) but clinginess can be absolutely exhausting, and for a busy man who likely has stress at work, that's the last thing he'll be eager to add to his limited free time.

What makes you clingy? I mean that intentionally vague because I think both ways are useful information, to wit, WHY are you clingy, and HOW are you clingy?

[Sweetsurprize]

Wow you're beautiful. A lot of people have high standards for dating right now. Maybe it's a generational thing to be honest.

However, I also don't know your personality. Sometimes, it's just luck that we haven't found anyone that "gets us" and you "get them" if you know what I mean my dear.

Just relax and maybe try to ask your close family and friends as to maybe hints to why or what you could improve on or improve upon.

Good luck. I don't think it's your looks truly though, so you got that going for you.

[Anonymous]

It’s maybe because the sex with you is terrible. You need to use kegels and be tight.

I’ve done friends with benefits. And these losers literally keep around and literally say they love me after we fuck for years on end.

But honestly I rather have a partnership with a female in an open relationship. My sex drive is too high. I rather my female partner and I fuck handsome dicks. 😈

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

You’re beautiful. It’s definitely not about your looks.

[coachTanthony]

You could be a chatty kathy who knows. Nobody knows until they meet ya.

[lightbulb27]

no, I think it's how you feel, being reserved, or it's not filtering for good enough mature quality guys. If you are reserved, quiet, shy... then what are the reasons for that and address those so they can connect and you can pull them in.

in general, there's a lot of poor ettiquette out there now... and it can be painful.

Seeing how you project emotionally, I'd wonder how you feel. Did you take a traumatic event. If so, take some time and effort to get that behind you.

you are very brave, hope and pray for good days ahead...

[Truthatanycost]

You said 'I have an anxious attachment style, which tends to result in more clinginess/neediness than the average girl. I also require more reassurance'

She could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but what you just mentioned would mean I wouldn't go near her...

Anything I invite into my life, at the very minimum has to bring with it peace. If it does not, then it's not going to be a part of it.

[ohmyguy]

You could do your self a huge favor.. but taking your self off your pedestal.. go out on a few dates with type you usually reject.. so what if he makes.10 thousand less than u.. have fun with the contrast. .. if beard n burly you thing change do lean n clean.. or tattoos. If it's shirt n tie.. suit n tie do opposite..


Also could be that they misreprented them self to you... the dudes are fake.. n fall short.. of their own hype... you. could also post 3 pics as example what you had want or after.. model looks for model looks

[msc545]

Anxiety in a person tends to create anxiety and discomfort in others. If you have, as you say, an anxious attachment style, you may be creating a lot of anxiety and discomfort in the men you date, hence the rejection you experience.

Get professional help for your anxiety disorder please.

[WhereIsMyMind]

No, you look fine. It doesn't matter what a person looks like. Anyone can find a partner in my opinion, so it wouldn't be because of this.

It could be for a number of reasons; maybe the people you're speaking to aren't looking for anything serious, maybe they're dating other's as well, or perhaps you just don't click with these people.

[Levin]

You look quite intense but you're definitely good looking. You look classy and mature, and like you haven't been dicked by half the town. You have good facial proportions and like you're spiritually mature. I'd ask you out.

Obviously there is something deeper going on here.

[Lionman95]

No you're beautiful maybe it's your character that you expect too much from guys and date too quickly. I could imagine that you get problems with guys in a way that you consider going on dates as already being exclusive while they go on dates wanting to get to know you better while viewing the situation as two singles getting to know each other.

[overthinker85]

You‘re so very beautiful that I can‘t even begin to understand how you could doubt yourself.


Could it have something to do with your attachment style? For example that you are really longing to be in a relationship and therefore cling to this idea very hard? I think that if you focus on the confident, beautiful, determined and independent woman you are, you will have no trouble attracting a man who appreciates you.

[jshm2]

You look like a boy pretending to be a girl, but changed their mind half way through, and are now unsure which you were at the start.

Give yourself a makeover and stick with it.

As for the dating. It's more about your talk, not looks. Even ugly chicks can score a man from time to time. But I suspect you have a voice like a cowgirl brought up on a farm, and are as interesting.

[Miristheiss]

Ghosted? Are you sleeping with these guys?

Usually a ghost happens when a guy wants sex but not a relationship or he doesn't view you as marriage/long-term material but he'll try and hook up with you, act interested, get you to put out and then he'll leave.

If you are putting out too quickly you are more at risk of being used and ghosted.

[DarkWinterNights]

Too many women default to thinking it’s their looks and appearance when they have dating issues. If you’re getting dates- it’s probably not your looks. A lot of women are just boring, this is especially true in my experience with attractive women.
Do you have a fun personality? Do you have interesting hobbies? How do the dates go? Do you have sex on the first date? Where are you meeting these guys? Are you in a big city or a more rural environment?

[JesseP1nk]

You look great. So, its not about the looks. But we don´t know your personality... To me woman can look like a victoria secret model, but if she is rude to people and have toxic behaviour then she is 0 to me. Sure, it is fun to bang hot woman, but in relationship-wise or as mother to your kids... i dont think so.

Maybe talk about yourself and what you like/dislike, what kind of guys you like. We try to figure it out.

[Asker]

Rarely ever am I rude, unless someone has hurt me or been abusive in some way. I try to treat people with the same amount of respect they give me. The only issue is, I have an anxious attachment style, which tends to result in more clinginess/neediness than the average girl. I also require more reassurance, which I realize can be exhausting for some people.

[midnightmoon05]

You answered your own question.
It’s a good start understanding your attachment style.
Did they tell you that you are too clingy?

[Asker]

@midnightmoon05 He said that I'm clingy, yeah, but then also said he's not ready for a relationship, and he's not sure what he's looking for. Last month, he said otherwise. So I'm just confused

[midnightmoon05]

Guys are not that complicated. He told you he is not ready for a relationship. And not sure what is he looking for. Translation- you are not what he is looking for.

On your end, what would you like to do with this information?

[LiamJHayden]

Highly unlikely. It could be your personality - also unlikely, since your question would probably be worded differently if you were toxic. My guess if that you are just meeting guys with whom you do not click, including those who are only interested in sex.

[femalepretzelmaker]

If that is a pic of you, if so then your so insecure its scary.
If your looking for someone to get old and Grey with just loosen up and be yourself you don't want to try and be what he wants and then find out he wasn't even worth your time in the end.

[007kingifrit]

nope, lookin good.

perhaps you don't take criticism well or have extreme left wing politics? i see pretty girls i run away from all the time as they tell me wah wah the patriarchy or some shit

other issues could be immaturity which can stem from social media use, if you're on instagram consider how it affects your personality, tiktok too

[Finchie40]

Definitely not your looks , you look beautiful, it might be your personality or the way you come off ? Are you high maintenance? Do you come off as being stuck up like you are better than everyone? I am just taking a wild
guess?

[Apple1996]

You look beautiful so it's def not cuz of your looks

[Asker]

Thanks

[MementoMori777]

Nope it's most likely the type of guys you are chasing

[Asker]

I don't chase after looks or fuckboy types, so I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong.

[MementoMori777]

Or so you don't think you are, have you noticed a pattern?

[Asker]

I've noticed the problem might be me. I get called clingy and I attach myself to people I'm romantically interested in. It seems like being cold, distant and aloof is what works the best :(

[MementoMori777]

Specify cause clumsiness can come with red flags such as stalking, obsessive, controlling and possessive behavior, mostly in moments where there's confusion or uncertainty, it can trigger insecurity and form intrusive thoughts and people sometimes act and behave and make decisions with these intrusive thoughts so it depends if your clinginess pushes you to make rash decisions

[MementoMori777]

Clinginess*

[OfMiceandMen]

Are you kidding me, you're gorgeous? Not sure if guys just find you intimidating. Could possibly be the appearance and if your smart too, which would play on their insecurities.

[justabuddy]

Being attractive has its own problems. Being rejected or dumped by a very attractive girl hurts a lot more. Some leave before being left. Most girls don't approach either so you may be putting them a bit out of their comfort zone.


Ultimately though the dating world is rough, I don't think you are the only attractive girl having this issue.

[sheikalana]

I don't think it's because of your looks. You look great. Maybe there's something off with your personality or you haven't been lucky with the guys.

[Huntingnfishin]

Well that picture makes you look 10/10 so not your looks

[DarkLegacy]

Lol, she clearly isn't. Stop white knighting

[Asker]

You're too kind. Thanks

[midnightmoon05]

It’s confusing why you would post a picture of your look when guys have been telling you that you are too clingy and anxious about things. anxciosu personality can create lots of stress in relationships (not just romantic relationships).

[midnightmoon05]

Don’t beat yourself up when you meet those who are not compatible with you. It’s like playing a 500 piece puzzle. You will have to go through a lot to find all the pieces.
Our looks is one aspect what guys want.
They want love, low stress.
Work on your anxiety.
I have been helping my 16 yr old daughter with her anxiety for a few years. There were times I told her…there are other pleasant ways to communicate to not cause stress…the stress drives me away and not want to be with her. And that will also affect her friendships and romantic relationships.
I hope you have a counselor to work with you.
There are also books out there to help.
Good luck to you.

By the way…my daughter has a great look. I never said a word to her about her outer beauty people think I am mean… the years I work with her to build her inner beauty is paying off because now she knows she is pretty…she is also much better with her confidence and more kind HERSELF. So that she can do the same for others. She is planing to become a psychologist because she has worked through her anxiety.

[midnightmoon05]

5000 pieces… requires time, patience.

[Lady_Heart]

Believe me it isn't your looks. U r beautiful. It could be the types of guys u r with, ur personality or something else. Have u tried to ask one of the guys who dumped u why they did it?

[Nik1hil]

I am guessing

You are definitely too serious, you treat dating like interview or Exams to qualify..

Not your looks, it's something else

[Wise4myage]

Wow, your very pretty. Must be a lot of lame dudes where you live.

[Asker]

That's a valid point! Thank you

[Wise4myage]

You're very welcome. :)

[DextroShade]

It's not your looks, its something else: maybe you are coming across too bitchy, maybe you have a reputation for being a hoe or are giving hoe vibes, or maybe you are punching above your weight class.

[KrakenAttackin]

No, you are attractive. You are chasing the wrong men. Don't just give one word answers (this annoys TF out of men), show you have personality, don't give off an entitled air.

[artgorgeous]

Its because you're dating guys with the looks above yours.

[Nikki1989]

So you know the guys she is dating, huh?

[artgorgeous]

@Nikki1989 I assume. But it would be nice to check the profiles to prove/disprove the theory.

[artgorgeous]

@Nikki1989 I also like HR Giger art.

[DarkLegacy]

Most probably despite what other guys say. They are just white knighting

[Lisia]

I'm a woman, and I think she's pretty.

[DarkLegacy]

@Lisia It does not count if you are a woman

[Lisia]

Why?

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

@DarkLegacy op is a tranny

[Asker]

@RoοstеrBrеаst you couldn't be more correct! I was in fact born with an invisible penis

[DarkLegacy]

@RoοstеrBrеаst lol

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

@DarkLegacy he admitted it in a reply here Do Russian women have the best fashion sense? ↗

Then he deleted my thread.

The first pic there is his own and the next three are stolen from someone who looks similar.

[Lisia]

@RoοstеrBrеаst the opinion owner or?

[DarkLegacy]

@RoοstеrBrеаst Thanks

[DarkLegacy]

@Lisia Yes he is referring to you

[Lisia]

Uhm.. I'm a cis woman but okay

[DarkLegacy]

@Lisia It is the same nonsense

[Lisia]

I'm so confused

[DarkLegacy]

@Lisia You must be, you are calling yourself by a gender that does not exist.

[Lisia]

Whot cis woman just means born as a woman.

[Lisia]

It's not my fault you don't know that term

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

I'm too lazy to log in as @рerverted_creeр but here is just one another Are we equally attractive? ↗

Previous post of his.

Ar some point he was posting himself in a sports bra with a ripped six pack which is too ripped even for men, let alone women.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

I'm too lazy to log in as @рerverted_creeр but here is just one another Are we equally attractive? ↗

Previous post of his.

Ar some point he was posting himself in a sports bra with a ripped six pack which is too ripped even for men, let alone women.

[DarkLegacy]

@Lisia You are either a woman or a man

[Lisia]

It's the same fucking THING. It just means the gender you're born as. Don't be dumb

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

@Lisia he well understood where you're coming from.. no shit.

The problem is that it's a delusional idea that one can change from man to woman. You cannot. You can change you social gender so to say, that is, you can be occupied with feminine work as a men or do masculine labor while being a genetic woman. Mining, drilling, construction... all these are manly jobs, and if you do them as a genetic woman then that's the extent where I would agree with you on "gender fluidity" because while you are still a woman, your job is manly. You're male in occupation.

See, gender labels correspond to functions.

Let me repeat, gender labels correspond to functions.

A plug is male because it can be inserted into a socket. That's an example of how the gender female is universally given to the sockets in electrical terms.

Or how about this example, male frogs exposed to atrazine turn into reproductively functional females, but they're chromosomal males. In chicken terms, they would be called "egg laying rooster" despite laying eggs, it is still a rooster due to the male chromosomes.

So, a man is defined as a chromosomal male human. I will forever remain a man because that is my biological function. Nobody asks what my personality is when I sign legal documents. Look at the passport.. many passports say "sex m/f" and many say "gender m/f" to show that when it comes to man or woman, these two terms always, always, always imply the one you "were born with."

Ok? Male and female can apply to many fields, bit "man" and "woman" only define the biological function. In a sense, you can transition from "male to female" such as changing your masculine appearance to a feminine appearance, but you can never transition from "man to woman" because chromosome changing technology does not exist.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

@Lisia Let me recap this if you got confused.

Gender is not a social construct. Gender is not sex. But sex is a form of gender. Gender is where functions divide into two, such as man and woman, plug and socket, cathode and anode.

Yes, female and male are terms in electronics connectors, and plumbing fittings. One can not simply "identify" as the other, because its function still won't change. The function of the male involves sperm. The function of the female involves eggs. You can never change it, so your body's gender forever remains.

That argument pro-trannifiers use is backfiring on them right now: if there are animals who naturally switch their genders, they do so BECAUSE THEIR FUNCTION CHANGES. But as a human, you will never acquire male parts as a woman amd vice versa. Men can't even breastfeed, quoting a "scientific source" here, "The production of breast milk is biologically exclusive to women." Taking drugs doesn't help men, it doesn't work.

Also if you are changing your supposed "gender identity", is it implying that men and women are not equal in rights and opportunities? Why should someone "transition" if men and women are equal? That's sexist as hell...

See, back to the main point. Gender labels define function. To be a woman in label you have to be a woman in function. And that has always meant producing eggs and milk.

[Lisia]

@RoοstеrBrеаst I'm confused I never said my opinion on any of this. I just said I'm a woman, I have a vagina and I was birthed this way.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

@Lisia I don't argue about that. It was meant to explain why many of us say the use of "cis gender" is delusional.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

The OP is a feminized man to be as technical as possible. Not a woman.

[Asker]

@RoοstеrBrеаst You're brainwashed.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

By whom? What I wrote is what I myself completely made up. Made up using logic.

Let's repeat.

Gender labels describe functions that are split in two.

Such as rooster and hens. Androgens and estrogens. Plugs and sockets.

And so, man means genetic male human. Woman means genetic female human.

Now, a man can have feminine hormone profile if he takes exogenous estrogen, he can be female in his occupation and his appearance, but the term "man" still applies because it refers to the chromosomal gender.

Let's emphasize that in many countries legal documents such as passports, say "gender" with two following options. Male or female. By default the word "gender" always referred to what you're born with, and is synonymous with man/woman.

The better question is, why are trannies afraid of being "the most feminine man alive" or "the most masculine women alive"?

Why? I may know what I think one reason is for it, because it implies disease since males are born to produce testosterone and women are born to produce estrogen and prolactin at higher levels, and when it is swapped, it makes you think of disease, therefore you pretend to be a woman when you're truly a man with no testosterone.

But if disease became normalized, would trannies be fine identifying with "extremely feminized man"? I think they already exist. I heard they call them "ladyboys" and they have no problem keeping womanhood unbothered and not claiming to be women as well.

[DarkLegacy]

@Asker i think you will find that you and the OP are the ones that have been brainwashed.

[Lisia]

@DarkLegacy bruh I think he's saying you are the ladyboy

[DarkLegacy]

@Lisia No he is saying you are

[Lisia]

Bruh those pics don't even look remotely like me

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

@Lisia @DarkLegacy I was saying the asker is a man who used to post half naked pics with a more shredded six pack and shoulders to hip width than most men have.

[RoοstеrBrеаst]

By the way, it is impossible for male birds to lay eggs, no matter how much atrazine they absorb, unlike frogs. They simply get sick.

[kakaling]

Bad boys, fuck boys, those are the easy guys. They ditch you, you ditch them easily.

Those difficult ones are the one who wants much more than sex and looks.

[OddBeMe]

Nope. Quite lovely. I would imagine it’s a combo. Lack of confidence perceived by others as rudeness (common), looking in the wrong places for the wrong types….

[Anonymous]

Your face is beautiful. It’s just guy’s these days want butt cheeks pics and not beautiful faces.

[Sharkstealth]

Your really pretty. I have the same issue lately and I think it's strange. Why would a gal volunteer their number and then 0 response?

[Staximus]

It's not your looks. Maybe you just don't know how to pick the right guys, which seems to be an ongoing problem for many women.

[Anonymous]

Either you have met really cheap men or you have some really bad red flag

Cause you look amazing and I am sure it's not about looks

[Date_a_Snob]

your very pretty. Im actually jealous of how nice your hair looks.

[Jdodkfndosn]

Attractive but your eyes reveal you likely a little crazy

[RedInnocent68]

😮 definitely not. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise.

[Pacquet]

You’re very cute, I doubt it’s your looks. How are you meeting people to date?

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't think that you have anything wrong in your looks, maybe from something else...

[dolemite58]

ghosted is usually more based on the way you behave than your looks.

[clampfan101]

No idea. You look lovely.
Personally I don’t even get noticed…

[Snakeyes7]

No I think you look fine. If it has to do with looks, it might be due to them thinking you are out of their league.

[Starrrboy]

No it's definitely not... but you seem too nice maybe that's why

[WhiteBoyChill]

Maybe its just a bad photo you took. Or maybe its just me being me. But you do look trans ngl.

[Anonymous]

Definitely not your looks. You have great hair, crazy eyes and fantastic boobs. Any man would by dying to get a date with you!

[LimitedBenefits101]

Its probably because you look old for your age range

[TallAnon]

Definitely not your looks, more likely the people you pick

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's because you're married to Sacha Baron Cohen.😆😆😆

[Lisia]

What? You're gorgeous!

[Asker]

Aw thank you!

[Lisia]

No problem girl! You might be too nice

[whistlingwh0res]

You are meeting losers and drunk bar patrons. That’s why. Google millionaire dating.

[FYI345]

Definitely not. I think you may have a confidence issue though.

[MaxUsefull]

I think it's your appearance, maybe your way of being?

[Anonymous]

You have zero emotion in your eyes. It's creepy.

[Anonymous]

You look great! It is not your looks. Have you ever had a boyfriend or romantic bond with a guy before?

[Nikki1989]

It can't be your looks. You are beautiful.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Hun, you are gorgeous

[Ironic_Method]

You look fine to me. It's probably not your looks.