How can I not be jealous?

[Anonymous]

So I broke up with my girl a few weeks ago and I found out she got another man. When I found out I got extremely jealous and angry. I don’t like those hurt feeling every time I hear about them and it makes me feel awful. I don’t want to be jealous I want to let go and move on. I keep telling myself “I don’t care I don’t care” but I really do care. It’s like a sick feeling in my gut. I wish I didn’t feel this way. How can I truly not care and let go?

[Mamaliv]

Give it time, don’t go looking to see what she is doing it’ll just add fuel to the fire. Avoid discussing it if you can, if people bring it up just say you don’t wanna hear about it. If you need to block her on social media that way your not tempted to see what she is doing then do it.

[overthinker85]

Well, I think it‘s only human to feel hurt after a break up. It shows that you care about her. When I care about someone, I want them to be happy and I want what‘s best for them, even if this means I have to put her happines first and my hurt feelings second. Break ups can be seen as opportunities to grow, to focus on our goals and get better, so that we will also attract happiness again.

[slatyb]

You broke up with her; you didn't want her. Grow the F up and move on.

[Asker]

Well it was more of a mutual decision. We’re not on bad terms. I want to get over her and move on, it’s just hard.

[slatyb]

That's life. Start by ignoring her activities.