How to deal with someone who is approaching me?

[Anonymous]

But I'm not interested in dating? This guy sees me more as friends... how to deal with this? Dating drains me and makes me uncomfortable, plus I'm tired of dating / the issues with dating... I like my peace of mind and freedom

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I'm not interested in dating anymore

[Cynicaldreamer]

Politely, yet candidly tell them just that: you're not interested in a relationship right now.

That's it. You don't have to lie, play games, or even humor them. Nowadays it's common... and believable to say you rather stay single than date, and you don't have to feel bad about it.

If he still persists about it, THEN you can be a bit more blunt in saying he needs to understand you're not ready for a relationship and he needs to leave you alone. Pressuring you will not make you change your mind (if anything, it's probably making you not like him more).

[Asker]

He's understanding the ideal of dating tires me

[solitarysoul]

It is always better to be straightforward, let him know that if you are not moving forward, pretend that you have a boyfriend and pretend that you love him very much, you are the solution.

[Asker]

He knows I've been single 12 years yet I can't control how he feels or what he wants.. sick of dating

[Asker]

I'm tired of relationships and dating

[solitarysoul]

It seems that if this person knows that you have been alone for 12 years, they must be someone very close to you. They might have an obsession with you, so it would be best for them to create some distance. If you work together, consider finding a different job or getting involved in a romantic relationship so that this person can distance themselves. The reason you may feel tired of relationships could be because you don't like the character of the person you are in a relationship with.

[Asker]

No he's not I met him a few months ago through my tik tok account nothing mire nothing less

[Asker]

This guy lives in a different state from me and no he's not obsessed were just friends- I don't have anything to do with men from here

[Asker]

No I'm tired of men and dating all together hence why I'm single by choice has nothing to do with his "character "

[Asker]

Too much drama and stress to date until now I'm tired of it all together

[solitarysoul]

Understood. If you don't want to be in any kind of relationship, tell this person clearly. If they don't show understanding, block them and let them go, because you shouldn't respect someone who doesn't respect you. As for the other issue, if you don't want to have relationships with people, question the reasons behind it and find solutions. From what I understand, the man you want to have a relationship with should always be happy and free from any problems, worries, or stress in his life, which is a valid desire. However, in our world, every person will go through difficulties, pains, and hardships at certain stages of life.

[Asker]

I'm not looking or interested in solutions he knows where I stand with dating because I told him that. He understands- women who ate interested in dating those men should pursue those relationships instead of questioning why some women are choosing to opt out of relationships; having children, and marriage - I'm not interested in either anymore. I've had enough of men and enjoy my single life with freedom and independence not dealing with someone hence submission.. I'm not asking men of anything

[solitarysoul]

"Hahahaahaha, you're tired of men, but I'm tired of life. I'm tired of people's arrogance, their pride, and everything else. I'm tired of the injustice of life. I'm tired of being unhappy while others are happy. I'm tired of God not giving me any opportunities while offering opportunities to others. I'm tired of failure. I'm tired of always being good to people. I'm tired of striving for solutions every day, only to realize that I won't find any. I'm tired of wasting my life playing games to avoid thinking. Your problem is small and not worth worrying about. If you don't want to be in a relationship, live your life happily without one. Don't dwell on small problems in your mind."

[Asker]

Not dwelling on anything actually have men approach me occasionally

[solitarysoul]

I told you, if you don't want men to approach you, act as if you're in a relationship. Wear a ring or something so they won't come near.

[Asker]

I do men will be men

[solitarysoul]

I can't say for sure since I'm not a woman, maybe you're right. Live your life the way that makes you happy. Until we meet again, I would like to offer this advice: stay away from feminist groups and seek therapy for your hostility towards men. May God protect us from people like you.

[solitarysoul]

Bye 😀

[Asker]

I'm not hostile towards men, just happier single and don't want anymore relationships. I've had enough dating and found peace being single- it's less work and drama when you can be single. I'm a feminist 😌 and wish men the best from here because I dont recall a time where I had a positive relationship with a man ever or felt safe.

[Asker]

May God send you men overseas or to women who want you! So far I've been good 11 years never mistreated men or etc

[solitarysoul]

It's evident that you are a feminist. I am an enemy to both bad men and bad women, and I advise you to be a lesbian. Furthermore, when Elon Musk establishes a living space on Mars, I recommend that you move there with feminists. Start creating plans and projects for that. I am praying to God for this. 😀 Bye 😀

[Asker]

I am lesiban by the way but don't hate men

[Asker]

Men can go to Mars or to women who want them. 45%-60% of women are choosing singledom and healing

[Asker]

Men like you are the reason why women are opting out

[Asker]

There are women who want peace rather than drama and mistreatment

[solitarysoul]

Madam, you constantly claim that you are not constantly against men, but you want to convince yourself that you are not. There can be many reasons for the choice of 45-60% of modern women to remain single. For example, having multiple relationships, not wanting to have children, or modern men cheating on their partners, etc. It could also be influenced by wrong ideas of feminists like yourself or watching lesbian content and choosing to be a lesbian. However, these are not results that necessitate being against men.

[Asker]

I'm not modern by the way I'm traditional and have experiences with men many of them are opting out because they're tired of men collectively and low tier behavior.. men have to do better simple.. it will stay this way. My sexuality swings both ways but I will not deal with toxic people.. I stay to myself now

[Asker]

I'm lesiban because I'm attracted to women and have no positive experiences with men outside of what I've experienced with men that led me here.. even as a lesiban

[solitarysoul]

You are an enemy of men, and I will pray to God every day for you to move to Mars.

[Asker]

I don't hate men - men have made it clear together hate women lack of protection and respect.. is this all no , but many of you hate women.. I would have to say decent men are far few in between and it's too hard to weed though any of you now to now.

[Asker]

It's best men leave women alone who want to be left alone

[Asker]

Just leave women alone ' get your passports and leave us alone all we ask ( women globally need to heal )

[solitarysoul]

You are an enemy of men, and people like you should be sent to Mars immediately for the sake of humanity. In my entire life, I have been in two relationships and I have never been an enemy of women. In my first relationship, when I was still in middle school, I fell in love with a girl who also liked me. We flirted, but when I found out she had a boyfriend, I thought it was inappropriate and distanced myself from her. I loved her without seeing or talking to her for 6 years. People around me say I have a tough character, but despite that, I shed tears for this girl. If she had come to me, I would have done anything for her, but it didn't happen. God helped me and I moved on. My second relationship lasted only a week. In high school, she was a beautiful girl, and we got into a relationship because I admired her moral values. However, she flirted with another guy in a sexually suggestive manner in front of me, so we broke up. She later asked me to forgive her for months, but I didn't because she had hurt me deeply. After that, I didn't have the right environment to enter into a relationship with the opposite sex, and throughout any period of my life, I have never been an enemy to women. But you are an enemy of men, and please move to Mars.

[Asker]

Blocked 🚫 either you're slow 🐌 or poor comprehension. Women want you men to leave us alone especially the women who are single and want to be left alone.. women are getting prepared to do what is necessary atp for rheur safety

[solitarysoul]

You're disgusting. I doubt the sanity of any man or woman who wants to be in a relationship with you. I swear, I'm deeply saddened that I wasted my time dealing with an ignorant person like you. Just go away.

[Asker]

God you're retarded it's clear idgaf what men want if I'm not dating then or around them

[Asker]

Their ^

[Asker]

Get from under my post, or I'll have to block you - heard enough men whiny and harassing women

[Asker]

Especially online and in these movements

[Asker]

You're just upset because I'm lesiban not once did I attack if and if you're not these men I'm talking about why are you upset 🤔 good day sir

[solitarysoul]

Madam, if I have upset you, I apologize. I bear no ill will towards you, and I understand that you are tired of men constantly asking you out, as their main intention is often to engage in sexual activities. You are right, men should not behave this way. By expressing that I understand you, I suggested that you could act as if you were married by wearing a ring, etc., to deal with this situation. If I have caused you distress, I apologize. Have a good day, and may God always bring happiness to you.

[Wonderingguyy]

Just tell him that straight up. Just say that you are not the slightest bit interested in dating anyone, and you like your freedom

[Asker]

I did

[Wonderingguyy]

Then ignore him.

[Asker]

I'm cool with friends with men but beyond that nope aslong as there's that understanding were cool- he's understanding

[Anonymous]

Peace of mind and freedom.. for now.
Be sure that's all you'll ever need.

[Asker]

Yes it is no stds , no sti , no mind games , no manipulation, no broken hearts, no drama, no cheating, no lies , no abuse , no disrespect, no commitment issues , no mixed feelings or signals , no 3rd party , and no man saying I'm nagging. Yes, my life has been at peace 11 1/2 years plus celibate!

[Opinion Owner]

If that's your thing, good luck, sounds peaceful.

[Asker]

It is peaceful and I wish men the best from here