How do I approach her?

[rambo2507]

I am working in a company and a month back there is a girl joined that company in starting i was not talking with her just busy in my work and other things but once a day when i was leaving the company in evening she came in lift and we walked together and from that day I don’t know what happened but i started attracting towards her she seems a very nice girl and it feels she is same like me in thinking and in some other things. Now i am going with her everyday after finishing work but i am very introvert guy I don’t talk much always stays silent and just 2-3 days ago i started talking with her on whatsapp just normal talking but it feels good and she reply too whenever she come online but i feel scared to send her message, I don’t know what she will think if i send her message. And I don’t know she is already committed or not. Lots of things happening in mind. Can someone please tell how to approach her and ask her for a date and if she got boyfriend already what to do in that situation. After talking with her I realised she is very nice and special and her smile is so beautiful in goggles. Please give some suggestions what should i do for next step?

[Alli39]

I mean first consider if you actually want to get involved with a co-worker, because if you guys don't work out and you can't distance yourselves that would very much suck (but if you really never see each other and likely never will based on your roles in the company it matters less.) Definitely a decision you should actively make though.

That said, if you really want to reach out, just go for it. I wouldn't suggest cheesy pick-up lines or anything since that'd be uncomfortable for her if she really only considers you as a co-worker. Instead, I'd start by checking to see if she even wants to carry your relationship to a non-work space. Maybe invite her to a movie, lunch/dinner, etc. She might interpret this as a date, and if she's going to reject you will probably make herself clear, or she might interpret it as hanging out and that will at least clarify that she wants to have more than just a co-worker relationship. If you do go this route, don't let the friendship stage drag on too long if you intend to move forward because that can be really sucky for her if she's mentally established you as a platonic relation and you try to change the status quo later on.

You can also just choose to be direct and just compliment her/engage in polite flirting (compliment physical appearance, tell her you're attracted to her, etc), or explicitly ask her on a date. It kind of depends on your personal comfort level.

[rambo2507]

Makes sense

[artemisiaa]

Approach her and outright compliment her (not just 'i think you're pretty' or 'i think you're nice' but like 'i think you're gorgeous and you brighten my day everytime i see you') then she will smile, then compliment her on her smile. Then get a conversation going, like if she says thanks then say something like 'no problem i just had to tell you the truth', and go on like ask her how her day was etc. Eventually get to the question of whether she is single or not and if you can, ask her out. If you outright compliment her like this, she will be a lot more open to you and willing to talk to you brcause you have taken her by surprise. It works. Trust me. It will make you feel so much better if you just go for it, and it will make her day whether something comes out of it or not. You will be in her mind because of it.

[rambo2507]

The problem is I don’t know what she thinks about me maybe its just she is doing it casually because we work in same company and we just started talking so will it be a good idea to compliment her like this?

[artemisiaa]

I think it would be a good idea. At least way you will feel better. I do this to some strangers sometimes and end up chatting with them so I just say give it a go!

[rambo2507]

Okay thank you will try that

[artemisiaa]

No problem :)

[SnowedIn]

Don't.

Back up and don't try to do anything with people at work.

[rambo2507]

Well said

[SnowedIn]

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

ask her for her number, plan a time to hangout one on one/// date.

[rambo2507]

I have her number just started talking on whatsapp 2-3 days ago

[Nikki1989]

You should never try to date anyone you work with. It never ends well.

[rambo2507]

I never dated anyone yet