How ugly does a woman have to be to NEVER get approached?

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Its quite ironic really. I mean, for a girl who has actually been officially voted the prettiest woman in her high school I sure dont get the "prettiest womam" treatment. I mean, okay you dont always get approached I get it. By no means am I saying I should get approached at all. Its just that men believe that every woman has a chance at sleeping with any guy they want and that every woman has at least ten guys begging for dates and just take a look around this website. Guys have this belief that women get approached so much that we expect it to come to us. Yeah, well your talking to a girl who only gets messages on social media sites once ever couple months and who hasn't physically been approached by a guy in forever. Yes I know, "if you want a boyfriend you could try approaching guys too". I heard it all before. But this isn't about that. This is about the fact that not every woman gets approached by men and it isn't down to a science. Its not written in stone that girls just attract guys like monkeys to bananas. Because I'm living proof that a woman with AT LEAST decent looks (if my classmates lied), good hygiene and perfectly normal behavior doesn't always get approached by guys. And for a while I was just as confused about this whole thing. I kept hearing about how girls were practically rolling in options and here I was eating cup ramen in my pajamas and watching makeup tutorials on my laptop on a Saturday night. I thought, "man, how ugly do I have to be to NEVER get approached?" But it has nothing to do with me being ugly. Who knows why I dont get approached. The point is, guys, dont believe everything you hear and dont assume. The girl you like might just be eating ramen as we speak. So fear not, worry not. Dont doubt your ability to capture a girls interest. I promise you, I put thay on my soul, that every girl in the world isn't fishing through every guy. Some are, yeah. But not every last one. Thats all a bunch of hype. Okay, I'm done. Carry on.

john335 · Accepted Answer

I have a huge crush on a girl that's quiet and kinda reserved. She only talks to girls and is kinda shy of guys in general. Honestly, someone will love you for who you are and except just about everything about you. It doesn't matter if your fat, shy, quiet or considered a weirdo. Each guy has his own girl in mind that he'd love to have a loving relationship with. Deep down guys are worried about making a bad first move or being rejected by the one girl that he feels he really loves with all his heart. Please realise that if a guy really likes you, you're free to sit on the couch without makeup in your pyjamas as much as you want, we find you even more attractive because it's the real you and not makeup hiding your face. The reason these other girls get approached is because they are either easy to talk to or they are a part of the friend group that the guy is. You have to realise that in the end a lot of us are still after a good girl that is attractive and beautiful to us and I say screw the media for brainwashing women into thinking that they need to look like these fake stupid celebrities. Be yourself and don't worry about this dumb media bullshit, I'm 21 years old and I don't like half these fake women that think they are all it. Let any women on here know that you are beautiful in your own unique way. Just my opinion as a guy and the opinion of many of my friends.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

If you're attractive, then tons of men will WANT to approach you, and most will WISH they had the confidence to approach you, but if you don't have an open, friendly, outgoing personality and flirt a little, chances are that only the REALLY confident guys (who are relatively rare) will actually approach you.

Reason? Most guys are afraid of rejection - in fact, for most guys, it's the very worst thing that can happen to them, so they only ask out girls who give them signs of interest in return (friendly/outgoing/flirty).

The rare ultra-confident guy knows that getting girls is to some degree a numbers game - the more you ask, the better the chances you'll get a "yes." Obviously being attractive (to some degree) and having some skill also helps, but that confidence is the reason a few guys get a lot of girls and most guys get very, very few.

So, if you want guys to show interest in you, you have to return that interest. Give guys (in particular, guys you're attracted to) some signs of YOUR interest and you'll have a lot more of them asking you out.

Darkfairie17 · Accepted Answer

I like never get approached by men. I think I was approached last week and it was probably the 2nd time (maybe) in my whole 27 years of my life that I have been approached. I was leaving work to go for lunch, and as I went out the door, this guy was walking down the sidewalk, looked at me and said Hi. I smiled back and said hi back. But he never stopped walking and didn't ask for my number, sooo...

I was kind of caught off guard because that never happens. But he was super cute and I wish I had followed him down the side walk lol.

TBH I think as much as society tells us that women get approached. It's not that they don't, it's that men are human and are also afraid of rejection. So they don't approach as much as what the media makes it seem.

So I think you need to do more work. I've been told I'm attractive, and I've asked many random guys (on Whisper) if I am attractive or if my looks are a problem and they all said I was attractive. They can't believe I'm not getting approached. So if that's truly the case, then I'm sure there are plenty of women who are in the same boat as me.

I don't think it has anything to do with your looks. It's most likely that when guys see a girl they like, they freeze up. They want to approach you, but aren't sure how. Rejection is tough and for a lot of guys there is fear that the girl will reject them.

xCutesyLolitax · Accepted Answer

I agree with you. I get called pretty a lot, not only by my friends but also strangers. I think I look decent. I never get approached + get special treatment, so unless everyone is lying to me, guys who say girls with at least decent looks get special treatment are very wrong. in fact I've actually gotten bullied by a guy before in my high school,
I guess being approached has nothing to do with looks. I know tthis girl in my class, she is a genius, but no offense she is very ugly and she has a super cute boyfriend.

Brokenheartedx · Accepted Answer

Why should it be down to men to do the approachin? We did ask for equality and we got it lol

no men approach me either, but then again I'm butt ugly so have got used to it... if any guy did approach me it would be to ask for directions or the time... lol

lightbulb27 · Answer

true, sometimes the most attractive don't get approached as guys are intimidated. a lot of it is how you carry yourself, what you portray. some of it is how confident the guys are.

I know its frustrating, be social.

Lynx122 · Answer

I think it comes down to the kind of energy you give off too a lot of people today are going about their daily life worried about getting their things done so they can have a break and relax a bit and they don't want to be interrupted or distracted. If you live that kind of life and give off that kind of vibe you tend to kind of fade into the background a bit become almost invisible. But it's not necessarily a bad thing, you can try and meet people in other ways. Like online through common interests or things like that. If you try too hard to get approached you will probably attract guys you don't want to get involved with. You have to figure out who you are if you want to change your approach and what kind of guy you want to find. From the way you describe yourself I wouldn't go overboard and look for too much action just find a quiet guy that fits your lifestyle and cuddle with him.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

It might be because you look attractive, but something about you makes you seem unapproachable.

Maybe you have a really bad case of resting b**ch face. Or maybe you give of a strong "I have a boyfriend" vibe. Or maybe you just seem non-sexual for some reason?

It might even be possible that you're TOO pretty, and guys all assume you're out of their league.

Have you ever asked guy friends about the impression you make? Although it might be hard for guys to be honest about this.

ASEXY · Answer

She would have to be a 1/10 or 0/10. She would have to look like these...

Anonymous · Answer

stop hiding behind the computer. go out, participate in social events.
no one will apporach you. you can bitch here all you want. is has nothing to do with being pretty or not.
i m not pretty, i consider my self beautiful as i have a beautiful heart, mind and soul to lift those who needs help and thats how i meet others with smiliar goals.
i have a great boyfriend. i am average looking and very happy.

NyomiMcClinton · Answer

I think to some degree all women get approached, it doesn't take much for me to have some interest in you. But if you never get approached. You will start doubting the way you look and when a guy does approach you you will jump and lean on every work that he says because your not use to the attention And the guy may not be the right guy for you.

supernerd99 · Answer

if you have a resting bitch face or seem cold or unapproachable or an uberslut that might turn many men off. beauty on its own is intimidating. bos in your school are probably not alpha and confident enough yet, to hit on the "top tier". they probably believe you are taken or something.

mits777 · Answer

Listen, the prettier the less you are approached because guys fear rejection more then death (especially proud guys like <<). Also if you have the so called "resting bitch face" that is another problem, you show no sign of interest and still guys won't approach because no guy wants to be rejected NEVER. Still I would approach you because I am not a child anymore now and if you approach like a normal respectable person you lose nothing, but up to 19 years old would die instead of getting rejected

SteelerNation50 · Answer

The problem is the vast majority of women get approached regularly and the few exceptions are exceedingly rare and not really worth mentioning because the odds of finding one are slim and none.

Anonymous · Answer

most women get approach by men hideous cunt dont

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been approached to but it's because I'm unattractive so no one gives me a chance. I don't blame them, my looks just push people away which is why I don't have friends. Guys only make fun of the way I look, wish they didn't but I can't do anything about it. Right now, I'm almost housebound and its really hard for me to leave my house without getting anxiety.

Pohjolan · Answer

Firstly can we see some pics? You can blur your face.

Secondly you live in a post-MeToo society. Women have been loud about how men should not approach women for a while now.

So its not just fear of rejection but societal pressure as well.

Thirdly dating sites/APP:s exist.

Fourthly the environment or your behaviour may not make you seem very approachable.

PRETTYPRECY · Answer

i feel you, i get a lot of compliments from guys telling me that i am pretty, but they never ask me out, and when i try to ask them out, they ignored or they just say that they dont like me like that but as a friend only

Jamesol1 · Answer

The prettiest girls get approached less than average ones... why... because men don't think they stand a chance. And they have good reason to think that unless they look hot as fuck themselves.

fsu19 · Answer

It's not because you're ugly but possibly very attractive and therefore attractive. I don't approach every attractive woman, only the ones who've shown interest.

Because-I-Have-Too · Answer

Maybe you give of a 'dont approach me' persona, or your looks intimidate. But I'm sure every Gil has been approach at some point in their life

Autumn-Bunny · Answer

It really depends on how you carry yourself and how comfortable you are with the opposite sex. I wouldn't consider myself very attractive but I present myself in a way that stands out and that's helped me to get a really handsome boyfriend.

BeautifulPromisesx · Answer

I rarely get approached too 😕  I don't know I guess it just depends where you live and where you hangout and stuff too? Maybe try online dating?

phonetic_au · Answer

To quote the old saying any women with a pulse can get laid, there are hungry men will try to pick you up, but will you lower self worth to get that low?

GoldCobra · Answer

An unnattractive person in the eyes of the beholder can still be approached if the person looks and seems approachable. A friendly, happy, laughing individual sends out a positive energy that others may want.

Felinegirl · Answer

It's not completely about looks, it's way more about behavior and body language.

JustCallMeLeon · Answer

You got me confused. You are hot but guys dont approach you at all? There has to be something that repels them off of you. And i dont mean your looks.

Mesonfielde · Answer

Search for "ugly women" on Google, and then you will know

Stevan7 · Answer

Give us picture. I'll tell you whether I'd approach you or not.

handsomelad70 · Answer

I don't know any woman ugly enough to NEVER get approached, because a man's libido is such that, if he needed sex badly enough, he'd approach a woman most men would cross the street to avoid.

Anonymous · Answer

if you want a boyfriend you could try approaching guys, too.

cth96190 · Answer

Be a 300 pound hairy nose-pierced spiked-red-haired Feminist land whale.

PapaJedi · Answer

I don't know any woman too “ ugly ” to not get approached. All of them gets approached :)

deus_ex_sisyphus · Answer

Maybe mix up your routine - try meetup events, actually going to a friend's house party, or visiting an old pub for once

Anonymous · Answer

I've seen women who are hideous and obese get laid quicker than an above average male.

Anonymous · Answer

Fine, fine. I believe when you say that. Some of you girls are cursed with the male loneliness too. @cynicaldreamer and this Sugar100 girl.

sweetheaven · Answer

i hear you sister to me is totally the contrary i just attract losers or jerks !

Jandeboer137 · Answer

Ugly fat women always have a chance for a partner but fat ugly men can forget about that.

Anonymous · Answer

She would have to be EXTREMELY ugly to never be approached, and even most ugly women have men approaching them, if your gender is female then you could have every guy approach you despite if you're beautiful or not.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If you are a reasonably attractive woman and are alone, this is entirely your fault.

Uservane · Answer

Can happen to most women. For men that are intentional, the odds of any random women matching the men's desire is very low (<1%).

Anonymous · Answer

You'd hate it if I approached you and call me a creep. As simple as that.

Anonymous · Answer

If you're not getting approached then you probably look unapproachable.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

Go to a bar, don't have a BRF on and wait...

Jackblue · Answer

I guess men are shier then we used to be.

iceEverestere · Answer

Maybe You look angry?

dudeHR · Answer

women are ugly... are you serious?

Intraluminal · Answer

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How ugly does a woman have to be to NEVER get approached?

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