Since being successful w/ women is just a numbers game. How many women did you go through to find the one you're with now?

[Vegasrunner]

[EricSummer]

I do not think the numbers matter most. I've been with 6 women before my current girlfriend, including one marriage.

However, with one of them I was only for a few months, while with one I raised our two children. So they had quite different importance.

In addition, living with these women was a purpose in itself. Already with the first one in highschool and college it was great while it lasted.

[Vegasrunner]

@ericsummer 6 women doesn't constitute "numbers" you should probably have times that by 10. Besides u already made the mistake of getting married once. in my opinion had you spent more time trying out different women you would have had more success.

[EricSummer]

I cannot complain. Despite the divorce I cannot make myself regret marriage as we would not have had our two teenagers. For having children it still provides a time-tested contractual framework.

If you stay with your women for long, and make them stay with you, then you do not need many in a lifetime. I used to think that you basically only needed one, but I was too optimistic there.

However, chances are that this is now really the final one.

For me, a difficulty with "trying" many women is that I get attached quickly - like every woman I have known, but unlike the majority of men. As a general difficulty you may find later that #19 was the optimal one, for example, but there is no going back.

[Vegasrunner]

@ericsummer I think your mistake is trying to "make them stay" if a woman really likes you she makes it easy for you. I'm glad you realized your optimism. in my opinion there's nothing wrong w/ wanting one, but too many men keep a scarcity mindset which in my opinion limits there ability to maximize their potential. For instances I've been able to "go back" to plenty of women because I never committ and unfortunately or fortunately women like men whose intentions are unclear.

[EricSummer]

It depends on what you want in life. There is no dignity in promiscuity and this is not something I want.
If you can go back to the "best" earlier ex it's already odd, but if you then leave her again it's insane.

[Vegasrunner]

@ericsummer Personally I want freedom and flexibility. I understand why you have that view, however the truth is there are plenty of women out there and if you keep your value high you can always go back. There's not only dignity but respect in male promiscuity which is why the most powerful men have always have a variety of women, and why other men have become rich and famous by having a variety of women.

[Anonymous]

It's not a numbers game. You have to be in the top 10-20% of men to be successful

[Vegasrunner]

@anonymous absolutely. However it's still a numbers game. You have try out a lot of women b4 deciding on one.

[Opinion Owner]

That's if you are the one deciding

[Vegasrunner]

@Opinion Owner you'll always be the one deciding. You should have more self esteem, don't allow others to make life decisions for you.