Which is sexier: a financially stable man, or a big strong man?

[Anonymous]

From what I've seen, many women look for a financially stable man who can provide. But for me, I'm ultimately looking for a big strong man who can protect. A rich man is pointless if he is short, old and weak causing me to not feel protected by him. I only go for young tall men, and he must be stronger than me in order to not only make me feel safe but also sexually attracted to him. I just don't know why women only care about ability to provide but not ability to protect. Every time I am with a guy, I want to look at him and be able to trust him with my safety.

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I also understand that poor women need a financially stable man more than a financially stable woman. So we need to take that into consideration as well. I, myself, are financially stable so I don't put as much emphasis on his money.

[Anonymous]

BIG, STRONG, FIT MAN.

I can make my own Pennie’s. I want Brad Chad.

[Jersey2]

I think the primitive thinking will have women selecting strong men. I think for the modern age, which is very new in terms of evolution, will have smarter men as the better choice as that will insure the success if the offspring.

Financially stable protect women differently which is by having a better neighborhood, better healthcare options, better schooling for the children and better food and nutrition options. They can also weather political, national, or financial hardships better given that they have resources to extract themselves and their family to a better place.

As our species evolves, different mating traits will be bred into our society. Or they will be learned. Women who select the wrong mate will not have her genetic line fair too well which has always been the case and explains the desire for physically stronger men who were needed just 100 years ago and prior to that. Now is a new time of computers, intelligence, innovation and collaborative skills.

[Asker]

women have become financially stable themselves , they can afford to put less emphasis on a man's income, if she makes enough money on her own. I am financially stable, I don't need a rich man. I need a sexy man

[Jersey2]

Its a matter of intellectual power was the point as that will… oh, never mind, LMAO!

[Masterodd]

You do know that the look goes away right... the wrinkles show up, the teeth fall out, and muscles fade away. the "beer belly sticks out... then the smell starts.
Looks are way too overrated.

[GoodEnoughThen]

What are you needing protection from? Will your big strong boyfriend be with you 24/7, or will you need to go hang out withth him at the gym while he's maintaining hos stremgth amd fitness so he can keep an eye on your safety?
In what other ways are you providing protection for yourself?
A financially stable guy may be able to provide yould you with a security detail...
Sounds like ypu don't nwed protection so much as you simply like the aesthetic of a big strong man.
Either way, I hope you find both qualities. :)

[Asker]

women have a biological need to want to be protected. men have a biological desire to want to protect

[Masterodd]

Hello...

[GoodEnoughThen]

A biological need? I'm uncertain if that is still true as perhaps we have moved down from the caveman days, but I could be wrong. No woman that I've discussed this with of has ever said they wanted that or even felt that, or recognize this in their subconscious.

[Billlewis]

Why should a woman have to choose one or the other? You can have your cake and eat it, too. Get yourself a submissive, financially secure guy to spoil you rotten, pay your bills and buy you sexy shoes and outfits to wear when you're with the lucky guy who's enjoying sex with you.

[Asker]

i don't want a submissive man, i want a big strong dominant masculine man.

[Masterodd]

Yo... over here... Hello...(hands waving) PM me or follow me.

[Anonymous]

In the U. S... and I've lived in every state except 4...97 percent of the time it goes like this... the younger she is, she goes for the latter... years go by, she realizes she's stuck with 3 kids from multiple deadbeats who she thought were Suge Knight or 2Pac, not getting the attention she used to (it's going to the younger version of her), her body isn't quite what it used to be, the guys are yo yo on paying the child support, and Michael B Jordan or Drake didn't come kick down her door and kidnap her away on their Lear jets to a lifestyle of luxury, WHAT HAPPENED?😩😩😩So now she's 35 , is much nicer, less quick to stereotype on sight, appreciates niceties anywhere she can find them, and looks for the former. This applies to 97 percent that are non immigrant now. Doesn't matter if it's Phoenix or Harrisburg or Tallahassee.

[pass_the_celery98]

EXACTLY. I have 3 older sisters and they all realize their mistakes. I don't sit here saying ohhh man you know what I want great sex so I need to chase after a woman who looks like Pamela Anderson from her Baywatch mid-90s days because that will make my dick feel secure since she's hot. That might be a dumb example but that's how I look at it from a guys POV.

[Opinion Owner]

Any guy with half a brain avoids White and Black American females anyway. Go check the marriage histories of all the White and Black American men over 40... then try not to break your ribcage laughing. If you can't speak Spanish, Korean, Japanese or Russian... so as to get a female from a QUALITY culture... that's not my problem. 👏

[pass_the_celery98]

Well I can’t disagree with you

[Asker]

thats why we should all teach our women to develop careers of their own so they can date the hot guys that they want without relying on him for his money.

[Asker]

women have become financially stable themselves , they can afford to put less emphasis on a man's income, if she makes enough money on her own. I am financially stable, I don't need a rich man. I need a sexy man

[Honest-Matt]

Long game girls find men attractive that are strong providers. Whether broke or rich, they have the skill to never be without the ability to provide. A traditional blue collar man is always turning down jobs for example and they have the real world knowledge to fix, build, and earn anything in anyway.

[HippoDino]

Neither of those traits give enough insight into a mans personality. How a man treats others, and how he carries himself matters more than being rich or ripped. You can have the best looking body or a huge bank account and be lacking in so many other areas, which just makes you an awful person to be around.

[Asker]

why would you assume that all big strong men are awful? they're just people like me and you. They're way better than unattractive, scrawny tiny dudes who try to pretend to act nice in order to get a woman.

[HippoDino]

I never said all big strong men people are awful, I said it matters how they treat others not their looks. Then i said if you are a big strong man or a rich man but you are a piece of shit, then who the hell would want to date that? You shouldn't look at something as basic as does he have muscles or money when trying to date someone.

[Anonymous]

To the poster: please understand something, i've seen muscular dudes pass away in their 40s or 50s for steroid use. Making money is harder then being a strong guy. I'm 5'8, 155 pnds. Back in high school which was the early 2000s, I saw guys getting BIGGER and asked how are you guys so big when you were my size and I was skinnier back then. Those guys did steroids and lots of guys take steroids to get bigger and jacked because its an ego thing, it's an easy way out, so I disagree with you and your female POV. Just because a guy is bigger doesn't mean he's not immune to diseases and potentially dying. Being safe and protected is loyalty, trust, honour, respect, him keeping his promises and doing chores to make your life easier. It's fine if you have a preference so please don't get mad but you have to be realistic as well and know both sides of the coin.

[Asker]

i think everyone will die one day. It doesn't mean we shouldn't appreciate attractiveness.

[blueonblack22]

It’s always “what’s in it for me, what’s in if for me” when women ask these questions. It is always “how can I date up” for my own ends.

Ladies you deserve your equivalent. No more no less. You do not deserve a rich man if you are unable to get your financial needs met. You do not deserve a strong man (especially if you live in a western country) if do not want to take necessary steps to ensure your own personal safety.

[Asker]

men are the same way... men keep saying they won't date an older woman.

[blueonblack22]

We are not generally that way to the extent women are. Not even close.

Men don’t try to “date up” all the time. We don’t waste our time daydreaming about dating and marrying someone who is way out of our league.

Hypergamy is a mostly a female issue. Men are more realistic.

[Anonymous]

Physical attractiveness is important when you first meet, personality determines whether we’ll go out more than once or twice, stability is important when you’re settling down together especially to have children and need to work out your finances. Neither men nor women should lack work experience; if they decide one of them will stay home after they have children to look after the children then that is okay or if one of them is in school, but prior to having children they should both have spent time in the workplace and learnt how to take care of themselves.

[Asker]

women have become financially stable themselves , they can afford to put less emphasis on a man's income, if she makes enough money on her own. I am financially stable, I don't need a rich man. I need a sexy man

[Meropatrick]

I think women prefer to have both in one man. both are very irresistible. Strong man image tickles a woman primal instincts of wanting the physical protection of a cave man.. While a rich man is important for present era where nothing is achieved without money. A rich man is the alpha male of our century.

[Asker]

a rich man is hard to be with if he is unattractive. sex with a guy like that feels like a job.

[Anonymous]

Men should also know this of women as to avoid the ones who are focused upon selecting for a standard of strength that ceased to be relevant 100+ years ago in favor of a definitive one.

Marry her and your kids might fall for and marry the jock ending up as a loser for the rest of your life.
Good Judgement in Sex selection matters, women who can't make themselfs use actually relevant criteria of power are also poor judges in every other area.

[Asker]

women are designed by nature to pick the strongest, tallest, biggest male who can protect her and her children from harm.

[Opinion Owner]

The strongest, tallest, and biggest male was about power to protect, and provide for her and her children. For millions of years that power was on display in physical abilities today it is mensurable in money.

Many women get this fact, It is those women who are properly calibrated to a changing world who have the best genes going forward. The ones still suck in a world that cease to exist hundreds of years ago and likely never will again for humans, will be out competed by machines.

[smilelots]

Yes, a few times in my life once when we were in grade 6 a few of my buddies, and I got on our bikes naked and drove into town. Every time a car would come by we will dive into the ditch. When I was 29 my buddy was having a bachelor party and we went skinny dipping down to the pool next beside 7-Eleven from his house, which is about seven blocks we were naked all the way to the 7-Eleven and the swimming pool and all the way back his dad came and got us. I guess somebody must’ve phoned.

[virtualwasp]

good moral man, i dont need a strong man i can open my own jars and i dont need a guy for finances, i can waste my own money.

[Sunssong]

So you completely don't care about looks? I'm not talking about hygiene.

[Asker]

who says big strong men can't be moral men? why not have 2 in 1?

[Anonymous]

I mean both are useless if they don't care for you

Being super rich or super strong means nothing if they don't genuinely love you

[Asker]

who says all big strong men won't take care of me? haha plenty of great guys that are big and strong

[RingOfFire]

With a rich man you can hire your own bodyguards. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Asker]

i prob end up fucking one of the body guards instead of the rich man. body guards are hot.
rich old guys are hard to be with. fucking them feels like a job.

[RingOfFire]

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[goldenboybrady]

Were I a woman, I'd choose the financially stable man, though the poor brawn boy MIGHT get rich if he's smart, industrious and/or lucky.

[Asker]

only poor women need a financially stable man.

[Anonymous]

Hopefully the big and strong one. I'm still working on the financially secure part.

[Asker]

even if you made 65k a year, i will pick you. I have money, don't worry about it.

[Opinion Owner]

I wish I could.

[LiamJHayden]

Umm, the rich guys can afford multiple body guards.

[Asker]

rich old guys are hard to be with. fucking them feels like a job.

[Asker]

i prob end up fucking one of the body guards. body guards are hot.

[Minahh]

Since I'm not into big gorillas I'm going with financially stable one

[shades777]

both, both take discipline, but when the clothes come off who are you dropping ro your knees for is the question

[Sharkstealth]

Today's protection is about knowing how to handle a gun not boyish drunken stupor fights.

[Anonymous]

Neither is sexier. I don’t compare guys. They’re a hassle, exhausting, annoying, draining and a waste of time. It’s best to not even bother and to simply live your life without.

[pass_the_celery98]

See that's the thing women have so much expectations and wants in a guy. Guys/men honestly just want a loyal gal who also is willing to work hard, especially if he works hard, it shouldn't be a one-sided affair where she only works hard. But if you Google Chyna WWF -- she's a 5'11, muscular woman and I think she's beautiful. At the same time, I look at a young woman like Emma Stone, smaller build, dainty, witty and I love her as well. I like different women, I don't have one particular woman where she has to have big boobs, blonde hair, be 5'5, etc. because if I do that I am potentially eliminating great girls from the picture.

[Sunssong]

That's because you don't know how to get the right one.

[pass_the_celery98]

@Sunssong lol are you dumb? you're going to sit there and assume who I am behind a screen and know what I want? Since you're so smart? What's my religion? What's my university degree? What are my morals and ethics? Am I judging you, no because I don't know you. Tone down the abrasive, ignorant feminist behaviour and go check yourself.

[Sunssong]

@pass_the_celery98 I wasn't talking to you. But I should block you for the lack of self control.

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve got zero expectations and zero wants in a guy.

[Vickysplash_]

A mentally stable and mature big strong man. Rare find

[Sunssong]

So a robot or mentally stable most of the time?

[AVirgoMan]

Women want power in men. Men want beauty in women. This is the summary of the incident.

[msc545]

a big strong man can't protect you from a small weak person with a gun.

[Anonymous]

Strength fades especially when someone gets sick especially from a life altering disease like cancer...

[pass_the_celery98]

Exactly I know a guy who has MS, and unfortunately his strength has deteriorated, now his wife has to help him go to the washroom and he's only in his early 50s. It sucks but I do thank god that I am healthy and can do my own thing.

[Opinion Owner]

@pass_the_celery98 most people your age are to stupid to realize this. You're one of the few who does which is surprising and relieving

[Apple1996]

Strength is more attractive

[LīgaLakstīgala]

A financially stable man. Period.

[PrinceWalnut]

How much money are you looking for?

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut It depends on where we will live. By financially stable, I mean that he has a job.

[PrinceWalnut]

So you're into guys with a good income and some investments?

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut Of course. He doesn't have to be crazy rich. I just mean enough so that we can have kids.

[PrinceWalnut]

So you're much more likely to have sex if the guy seems put together with a good job?

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut Of course. There are many sexy men, but responsible men are so much better

[PrinceWalnut]

Would you like being taken care of financially in return for taking care of him sexually?

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut 100%. I grew up with my mom working, and I don't want my kids to suffer the same neglect.

[PrinceWalnut]

I'd love a woman like that tbh. And I'm sure you're wonderful in bed

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut I am, haha

[PrinceWalnut]

I'd love to be one of the lucky guys that gets to take you home haha

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut Maybe if you come to Riga ;)

[LīgaLakstīgala]

i followed you by the way, dms open

[PrinceWalnut]

If I ever do I'll hit you up for sure. Gotta get a couple of dates in

[LīgaLakstīgala]

@PrinceWalnut Alright, I'll be waiting for you

[Asker]

@ligalakstigala

your kids will also suffer from neglect if you have a man who can't afford to ADEQUATELY provide for the family. A simple job with moderate income won't do it in today's world. Thats why in america, most wives work along with their husbands.

[PrinceWalnut]

Luckily I make enough to support a household on my own

[Luckycharms12]

You take what you can get

[Anonymous]

Who ever has a handsome face

[balyai]

A mix of both

[DreamLife7]

Financially stable

[Slim57]

Neither

[Kristierose]

Both