Girls, How do I get her back?

[Anonymous]

So I recently matched with a girl on tinder and we really hit it off. Probably the best date I’ve been on in years. Everything came super naturally and both of us were really into it. The problem starts after the date. Unfortunately I have really terrible anxiety right now because I’m quitting nicotine, which makes me overthink things a lot. We kept texting after the date every day, but I convinced myself she wasn’t interested anymore because of the overthinking (definitely wasn’t true in the slightest). So about a week ago, I texted her asking if she wanted to go out again. I waited 2 hours, panicked, and sent a follow up text saying “if you don’t want to hang again let me know, I won’t be offended. I don’t want you to feel obligated to talk to me”. I know it’s bad… She didn’t end up responding. I feel like my anxiety due to quitting pushed me to this point and it’s really embarrassing and I’m not sure what to do, bc I know it comes across as needy. It’s been a week and I haven’t tried reaching out again, but I think this girl was a really good fit. Any thoughts?

[_Maya_]

Damn. “if you don’t want to hang again let me know, I won’t be offended. I don’t want you to feel obligated to talk to me” really was not a good move. I know that you realize it now. There is unfortunately very little you can do if she isn't going to respond. You already reached out and then unadvisably did so again with that message that screams insecure. Reaching out for a third time isn't going to change anything in my mind. I would just give it some time and hope that she was busy or changes her mind and responds. Sorry but there is no magic bullet to fix this.

[Asker]

Is it worth trying to explain my situation with quitting nicotine. It just sucks cuz I would’ve NEVER said that normally, I’ve just been like strung out with withdrawals

[_Maya_]

I think if she reaches out you can explain why you sent that message. I wouldn't just do that. You don't want to appear more pushy and desparate. I totally get that you are going through something and can appreciate that you recognize it is tough and causing anxiety. I am sure she would understand too but I would wait to see if maybe she was just busy. If that is the case and you have bombarded her with more messages it is going to make the case worse for you.