How Do I Get Her Back?

[Anonymous]

I'm (22 almost 23), and my girl (20) broke up with me a month ago because she said she doesn't feel the same sparks and we are growing apart because I have not had a job for a year and she is very very goal oriented unlike me. She is my soulmate and we both know that the love between us was very real but we agreed on right one wrong time. I started to see a therapist to work on some issues I have which in hindsight were definitely messing up the relationship. I want to be good enough for her and prove to her that I can be everything she needs, what do I do?

[teamvic]

Have you ever considered that she only said right person wrong time just to lay the news on you softly?🤔 to not hurt your feelings?🤔 she said she doesn't feel the same sparks as she use to which no matter what you do you can't FORCE her to get them again. It's something she has to gain on her own. So I just don't know if you can do anything to get her back. It seems she's looking to achieve her goals and it may just not be with you. Perhaps you're a better friend to her than a significant other

Okay but since you asked how to get her back I say your best bet is to subtlety keep you on her mind, the goal isn't to message her or talk to her or anything because your best bet is to get HER to reach out to you. Because if you're doing the reaching out you're gonna look desperate and gonna push her away. So like for example post a picture of you lookin really good every so often on your story or something that way when she looks at you she HOPEFULLY is gonna think," oh hey she still looks attractive " maybe it makes her think about how you two were. But keep in mind it ain't gonna be like 1 picture and all of a sudden she's gonna wanna get back together. Honestly there's a good chance this won't even work because as she said she just doesn't feel the same about you and you might have to start getting use to that. But anyway, if you do talk to her every so often to your best to maximize the pros about you, now I dont mean try to show off and look cocky I mean like if she use to really like your personality or something be good at making her laugh try to get her to enjoy being around you again. But as I said. There's a good chance any of this will even work. But hey I'm trying over here.

Keep in mind this way could take a while to do die to the fact that it's up to her to initiate

[Anonymous]

Keep working on yourself, get counseling, find a job even part time, then if you're meant to be together, it'll happen.

[Asker]

thank you, she really stressed about me getting a job and working bc that was important to her. It's just really discouraging getting declined by a big percentage of the job applications I send out.

[veronicasue2]

Keep trying, a goal orientated woman will not settle for a man that can’t get/keep a job. It just won’t happen; and she won’t have to! It’s very important to most women, as we have a natural desire to be provided for- even if we work and have our own careers.

[MyOwnMan2]

@veronicasue2 which is why you get labeled misogynist names. Share your cash

[Monalisa77]

Sorry, seems a daft reason to bresk up especially if ur trying. I wouldn't want a boyfriend like that whos pressuring me when im applying for everything under the sun

[Asker]

@Monalisa77 yeah I don't blame her though, I have been unemployed for a year and she has asked multiple times how important it is to her that I get it together and try harder, because not gonna lie, the times I did say I was looking for a job in the past I just tried for a solid two weeks and then gave up

[Monalisa77]

I only got my first job at 34 last year. It can be soul destroying not to get replies, so sometimes u need to take a break mentally to be able to cope with rejection again. Have u tried doing voluntary to get experience

[Adaeva]

Forget her because you don't measure up and after a girl decided that she will never change her mind.

[Georgehopes66]

Let her go or let her come back.. concentrate your own job

[Anonymous]

You can't. She's already sucking a new man off.