How do I prevent men from asking me out?

[Anonymous]

No one has done anything yet but I need tips in case someone does. I want men to leave me alone.

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How do I make myself unapproachable?

[Anonymous]

Wear a rubber bulge.

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[Suckmydry]

It’s 2023

[Still-alive]

If you have kids have them around you. Don’t wear any make up, dress down as much as possible and don’t make any eye contact with any guys. If you have a guy friend or relative going with them may help too.

Or alternatively try dressing up like a guy and hide your hair and then try to not talk. They’ll just assume you are a dude lol.

unfortunately there’s really no fool proof way to guarantee what other people will or will not do though.

[Still-alive]

@Suckmydry hi troll. I already reported your account. See ya.

[Adaeva]

The problem is not how to prevent guys from approaching. A far greater problem is how can you get them to approach. Unless you are in a high-risk location, if you are public, men are not dangerous and unless you give an indication, it is rare for man to approach other than to say "Hi" and most men won't even do that. You really should make and effort to get over your paranoia.

[Asker]

I have other reasons.

[SueShe]

The question is justified and has nothing to do with paranoia. A great number of girls are harassed by men, regardless of their looks, age and location. It is the gangrene of our society that women cannot be left alone by some men that are not in control of their testosterone.

[Adaeva]

@SueShe Except in high-risk areas such as Yeonmi Park recently encountered in Manhattan where people were selling drugs, girls being harassed by men almost never happens unless the girls are giving out the wrong signals. Sure, a guy may say "HI" to see if a girl with respond, but in my experience that is about it and, unlike you, I don't see that as a problem.

[Suckmydry]

Ultimate pick me right here. Just go tell your mom and dad all you’re saying on here.

[Asker]

@Suckmydry She’s a pick me because she stands up for men? 🤔 Is she suppose to hate all men?

[Adaeva]

Thank you! Since I said, "You really should make an effort to get over your paranoia," which, is mild admonishment, your reply to her, in my opinion, is most amazing. It seems so far outside of the norm that I am very astonished. I need to take this as a learning experience because being able to separate one without being unduly influenced by the other is logical.

[Asad1ONE1]

And I'm sure your reason is that men don't approach you ever. And so you're pretending to like the opposite, a form of reverse psychology.

🤡🤡

[lilyanony1]

If they're not approaching you now, then in all honesty it may just be that you're giving off a vibe. So stick with that. Otherwise when they head your way. Walk the opposite way.

[Asker]

I think they do sense there’s something off about me. It’s been working pretty well.

[madhatters4]

short of wearing a sign saying "do not approach me" i don't think you can prevent people from asking you out. i think the most you can do is flatly but kindly tell people you aren't interested.

[thegreenyogi]

It's a skill and it takes a lot of practice. Probably the most important rule is to never look at guy if you don't want him to think you're interested.

[Suckmydry]

They are so thirsty 🤣 but yeah. Avoid eye contact. It’s cool to do that anyway cause why connect with men. Ugh gross.

[Paris13]

Eyes Straight Ahead... Keep Your Distance. xxoo

[love_conquers_lust]

https://vimeo.com/62347041

[Paris13]

@love_conquers_lust I see. xx

[Suckmydry]

Don’t change yourself and act like someone you’re not. But I found that I have a female pal at work. A guy who constantly hits on me and acts stupid around me tried to say something dumb to her once. She just turned to him, have him a look, and he walked away. He might have even been embarrassed.

wish I had it in me but I don’t lmfao. I just let these idiots act a fool.

[overthinkergirl]

be a bit weird or don’t look at man, don’t have eye contact. don’t smile all the time, wear headphones or read book so they will now they can’t bother you

[Fireguy17]

I don't think it's possible, but if you are pretty stand offish that will help a lot.
A lot of time your body language will help, and with some others good luck.

[Monalisa77]

😂😂Wow its not even happened yet u expect it too. Arrogant much

[Asker]

Sure, why not? 🤷‍♀️

[BoobMan]

If no one has done anything yet, then it sounds like you're looking for a solution in search of a problem!

[Asker]

I just want to be prepared in case it happens in the future.

[BoobMan]

Always good to be prepared! You could try wearing a wedding ring.

[Asker]

What’s funny someone in comments mentioned that too 😂

[BoobMan]

Great minds think alike!

[DaySpring]

I don't think you can control another human being but you can always say no @sasha0426 I hope you're doing well

[slatyb]

You can make yourself less attractive. Wear genderless shapeless clothes

[Asker]

I already do that 😂

[exitseven]

Gat a fake engagement ring and wear it when you want guys to leave you alone.

[Asker]

I heard that doesn’t work because men like women who are taken.

[exitseven]

I know somebody that did this. She said it worked

[Asker]

I guess she’s one of the lucky ones.

[exitseven]

I had not seen this girl for 2 or 3 years. I ran into her at a restaurant and we talked for a while I noticed that she was wearing the ring so I asked her who she was marrying and she laughed and told me that she wore it to keep guys away. She said it worked.

[Grognard]

You're backwards, women like men that are taken, it isn't typically the other way around.

[exitseven]

@Grognard I think you are right. Girls never really looked twice at me until I got married. Then I got hit on by 3 women and one of them was pretty hot.

[Asker]

@exitseven Why didn’t you get her number?

[Grognard]

@sasha0426 Probably because he is married? Not gonna lie, that was a dumb question.

[Asker]

Sure, but he said she was hot. He had an opportunity.

[Asker]

If you find someone hot, why not go for it? Taken or not.

[exitseven]

@sasha0426. She actually tracked me down from a credit card recipr and called me at work to invite me to a party she was having. I am very married.

[Asker]

So you don’t want to sleep her?

[exitseven]

I was married. I took the whole "forsake all others" pretty literally.

[love_conquers_lust]

Make yourself look like a guy. Or this:

https://vimeo.com/62347041

[Drumlin2001]

Seems you've been doing a good job if you're 31 and not been approached.
Though is it just men you want to steer clear of or are you asexual?

[Nirmroth]

Be yourself, wear baggy clothes, dont use makeup and dont groom yourself.

[Tim2nice]

You could wear a big placard around your neck saying I’m not interested in men.

[Asker]

Then that’ll have women hitting on me 😅

[Unit1]

Oh, that's easy. Just be ugly and don't use make up.

[Asker]

That’s already covered.

[Unit1]

Great! Then you should have no problems with that.

[Anonymous]

If they really want to ask a girl out they will, no matter how unapproachable she looks, but the quickest way to end it is tell them you’re seeing someone or have a boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

This time has a very "yiu can't fire me, I quit" tone. You clearly want to find a partner.

[Asker]

I’m too toxic for one

[Nifrayu]

You can't. It's impossible. There will always be someone who is into you.

[Asker]

That’s not what I wanted to hear 😩

[Nifrayu]

I'm sorry. How come you want to be alone though? Don't you ever crave human connection?

[Asker]

I can go without it. I enjoy my alone time more than being around people.

[Nifrayu]

That sounds kinda sad, but if you can be happy that way, then I guess that's all that matters.

[LiamJHayden]

No idea. You could get a tattoo of "I HATE MEN" across your forehead and some guys would still try.

[Masterodd]

Just be yourself, it seems to be working so far. :)

[Asker]

I need it to work in real life, too.

[Masterodd]

What has happened to you that you "want to be left alone?"
Care to share?

[Asker]

I’m just super toxic

[Masterodd]

Oh PLEASE... why do you even think that?

[Asker]

I’ve got a list of reasons on why I’m toxic. I wouldn’t know where to begin.

[Masterodd]

Well, I have ears just as big as my shoulders... so if you want to talk I'm all ears. :)
You don't need to keep posting for everyone to read... you can always PM me. :)

[Asker]

I’ll have to send you follow since I can’t message you.

[Masterodd]

Humm... Im following you I think?

[Asker]

You are. I just forgot to message you.

[Suckmydry]

Hi sorry to butt in but would you like to hear my toxic traits as well?

[Masterodd]

@Suckmydry Sure... MasterOdd Ph. D. Mental health theripist. at your service. :)

[Asker]

I love the sarcasm 😂

[Masterodd]

No!!! really I like to help if I can... Sarcasm is not intended, I really want to hear and hopefully help if I can. :)

[Asker]

Oh, ok.

[Masterodd]

But if you like sarcasm... Im full of it. :)

[Suckmydry]

🥰❤️ thank you Dr. MasterOdd you’re a gentleman

[5starubrt]

Then don't go out be flattered tha t guys are asking g u out there are girls that never get asked out and woukd die for a guy to ask the out

[Asker]

That’s really not my problem 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Dress like a tramp and don't bother washing yourself.

[Starrrboy]

Well, considering that no one has done anything yet.. Just be yourself? 💀💀..

[Blueeyes81]

Sounds like you've already figured that out. Just keep doing what you've been doing.

[Grognard]

Where a burka, or never go in public.

Otherwise you can just politely turn them down.

[Anonymous]

Don't talk to them and don't let them talk to you unless you're interested to get asked out

[Anonymous]

Wear headphones and spend all your time focused on your phone

[tomgrosse77]

Give them your best RBF. That’ll chase them away in a heartbeat.

[Kingofkings1992]

I don’t think you have anything to worry about

[Asker]

I hope not.

[Anonymous]

Gain about 50 pounds and dress in loose dumpy clothes with no makeup, that should work.

[Asker]

I think I got that covered.

[Anonymous]

where a lesbian flag on your shirt or wear a i love my boyfriend sweatshirt even when you dont have a boyfriend

[Anonymous]

You can't. You have no control over another's actions and don't determine who they find attractive.

[Asker]

Not if I make myself look unattractive.

[Opinion Owner]

And if someone still finds you attractive? Again, you can't control what people find attractive.

[Monalisa77]

Thats not gonna happen, im probably the most ever but guys still flirt with me😂i dont get it lol

[Asker]

@Opinion Owner Then something is wrong with them.

[Opinion Owner]

There's nothing wrong with them lol just be a big girl and tell them you aren't interested

[Opinion Owner]

THEN if they keep going, there's something wrong with them.

[Anonymous]

I would say just do nothing. You've got nothing to worry about.

[kaxeka56577]

Just don't cover your face, that will be enough.

[Jennz6]

Get a girlfriend

[Asker]

Absolutely not. I want nothing to do with women. Plus, I don’t roll like that either.

[Jennz6]

@sasha0426 sorry

[Kayla45]

Become bitchy and unapproachable, works great!

[marish01]

Show them what you look like

[Asker]

They already see what I look like.

[marish01]

That seems to be working so far

[Asker]

It actually is.

[RedInnocent68]

Don’t be around men. Ever.

[Asker]

I got that down. I mostly stay home and don’t go out. Except for work.

[RedInnocent68]

Well, there’s your problem then 😂

[Asker]

What? Work? You’re totally right! I totally should quit.

[Robertjo16]

Become a troll

[gorydetails]

you can’t help you’re irresistible

[Asker]

You sure about that? 😂

[gorydetails]

Yup. You've got everything. A stellar personality, beauty, and stable mental outlook on life.

[Asker]

Again, are you sure about that? 😂

[gorydetails]

of course.

[DextroShade]

Get fat and shave your head.

[Asker]

I’m already fat but I’m not shaving 😂 Hell no!

[front2back]

Dye your hair blue or green.

[OddBeMe]

Sounds like your personality has you covered.

[Asker]

But, men in real life don’t know how I truly am.

[OddBeMe]

I do. And we’re just exchanging text. If I can feel it, people in real life around you definitely can.

Why don’t you want attention?

[Asker]

What do I need it for?

[OddBeMe]

We all need attention. It’s a basic human need. And I’m introverted and know that.

But we all need romantic partnership. That’s the purest relationship you’d ever find. I feel sorry for anyone who doesn’t have that. I’d be lost without my wife.

[Asker]

Well, if there’s any man who can put up with my toxic ass, then let the universe send him my way. If not, I’ll continue living my life single until my final day on Earth.

[OddBeMe]

Don’t wait for the universe to “send” you anyone. You have to find it. Meaning get out and meet people. Many many will disappoint you. Then one day you find the guy. Could be ten years from now.

But people skills you learn today will help it come sooner.

[Asker]

Here’s the thing about me: I’m programmed differently. I don’t like people very much nor do I like going out. Except for if it was with friends or family. But, people in general, they exhaust me. So me going out to look for someone sounds really tiring. Also, I go by if I click with them. If I don’t click with them, then there’s no need to proceed.

[Asker]

It worked well with some of my friends. Our friendship wasn’t planned, it just happened. It wasn’t forced nor did we go out and look for each other.

[OddBeMe]

Totally the same. And I found someone who is just like me.

We both sit in different rooms sometimes relaxing. Or in bed together on separate iPads.

But the thing is how would you find someone if you don’t put yourself out there?

So I guess you just weigh your desire of romance and intimacy, with your hatred of people.

And believe me, I hate people too. But I love the intimacy with my wife. And not just sex. It’s talking and supporting and living together.

All your best memories your with someone right?

[Asker]

Because I don’t feel like going out and meeting people. It’s too much work and I much rather stay home away from public.

[Asker]

I’m not an extrovert. I can’t socialize 24/7.

[Asker]

If I don’t find someone, then that’s fine. To be honest, I rather just have someone show up randomly without me searching.

[Asker]

Meeting people takes too much energy.

[Suckmydry]

She feels like a nice calm person.

[OddBeMe]

@Suckmydry totally get it. I’m just like you. And now that I have a woman I stay indoors like 24/7. It’s been two weeks since I’ve moved my car. I’ve saved bundles on going per mile insurance. Lol.

[Pohjolan]

Get fat.

/Sarcasm.

[Asker]

Eh, I’m already there.

[Anonymous]

They're not asking you because you're hideous.

[Juxtapose]

Stop showering and using deodorant.

[zagor]

I think you've got that covered.

[Anonymous]

You wre too gorgeous for that Sasha

[BLP11520]

I don't think you can. Sorry

[Asker]

There are ways

[BLP11520]

Ok I just couldn’t think of any

[krin_m]

Why do you want to do that?

[Asker]

I’m toxic

[Grognard]

Clearly

[krin_m]

You can't stop them from asking but since you are toxic, they will go away.

[Asker]

You think I should go for toxic men?

[krin_m]

If that works for you, why not!

[Asker]

I do attract toxic men more than good men. And I feel like that would work better for me.

[whistlingwh0res]

Dress down and no makeups

[Asker]

I do that everyday.

[Tyler273]

You could get fat I guess

[Asker]

I’m already fat

[Tyler273]

I am joking, don't get fat. I mean fat is okay, obese isn't. Try dressing like a lesbian? Or a manly girl?

[Asker]

I dress in men’s clothing the most.

[Anonymous]

You don’t have that problem. Quit the lying girl

[Asker]

Sometimes I wonder if there’s a way for you to stop being a cunt.

[Anonymous]

But you said they aren't bothering you now.

[Asker]

They’re not but I want to be prepared in case it happens in the future.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't worry. It's not going to happen

[Asker]

That’s what I’m hoping for.

[Jerre]

Just say no!

[Asker]

I want to make myself unapproachable.

[jjj101010]

Become a nun?

[Suckmydry]

Do you think they don’t get asked out?

[jjj101010]

@Suckmydry not met many nuns but I’d guess less than most

[Suckmydry]

Lmao. Hmm.

[jjj101010]

@Suckmydry the clue is in the name, what are his chances? Nun!

[Suckmydry]

Wel he shouldn’t be trying to use women for nookie anyway

[jjj101010]

@Suckmydry who should he be trying to have nookie with then?

[Suckmydry]

Wife only. Get married if you want nookie.

[Asker]

I don’t know why but I lol’d at the word nookie 😂😂

[jjj101010]

@Suckmydry the only nookie I get at the moment is with my hand

[Suckmydry]

Lol. You like the word nookie?

[Asker]

It’s hilarious 😂

[Suckmydry]

🤭🤣🤣

[riverrat3]

Be unfriendly

[Asker]

I already got that down. So I guess that’s a good start.

[riverrat3]

Yess

[Tstrbrainer]

Invisibility cloak

[Cheerfull009]

Uncomfortable