Is it fair for a man to ask how much a girl weighs or how well she cooks and cleans, if she asks about his height and income on a date?

[worldscolide]

I think it's completely fair, and the ones that get pissed about it, or really the ones that choose to ask about it in the first place aren't worthy of your time..

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And no I'm not trolling. I'm pointing out a double standard.

[Anonymous]

Sure but if she asks about your income/wealth it would be better if you play along and be nice, polite and chivalrous and tell her that you’re making millions every year etc and then after the date thank her for the date but say you’re not feeling a spark/connection but wishing her the best. Then she will for a very long time keep thinking of you as the nice millionaire gentleman who got away, she’ll be so upset over it, instead of thinking of you as just another butthurt jerk that she’ll stop caring about/forget immediately.

[Nifrayu]

Don't be sexist.

[worldscolide]

There is nothing sexist about what she said.

[Nifrayu]

Chivalry is.

[worldscolide]

No it's not. And nothing you say here will convince me otherwise feminist.

[Nifrayu]

Being stubborn is not a virtue.

[worldscolide]

Nor is being a male feminist. It makes you less than human and unworthy of my attention or respect.

[MzAsh]

How horrible is that whole chat. 😩Please tell me that’s not you. Good lord people need help. These aren’t questions nature adults are going to ask.

[worldscolide]

You got that right. None of this is me thank God. It's like something children would ask.

[Lionman95]

I would say yes if you can tell why it is important to you. Because otherwise it´s just checking boxes of prejudice in both ways. Like not only from a male but also from a female perspective. So if she asks how much money you make let her explain why. The same goes for asking a woman if she can clean and cook.

[Lionman95]

Thanks for the MHO by the way.

[LiamJHayden]

She can ask my height. I don't care. I also do not care about her weight within certain bounds. I've seen girls who are the same height where one weighs 20% more than the other but is fit while the slimmer one is flabby.

If she asks my income, unless I'm applying for a loan, I'm out.

[Bethany22]

Yes I think that that is very fair. A guy asked me that one time, and I didn't get mad at all.

[worldscolide]

That's because you're a rational thinking woman. Not an entitled brat, and for that I respect you.

[DizzyDesii]

I feel just ask the same in return. If i ask your height, ask mine? Only those who seem to hate their height find it to be a sensitive question and will backfire with something like “whats your weight?” As for income, no one should be asking anyone that unless they’re on the verge of living together or marrying. Asking if someone cooks is understandable but asking if they clean? I mean just go over to their place. Just cause i clean my place doesn't mean i’ll clean yours. I’ll clean up the mess I MADE but not the mess they made. Shit people better get it together and do their own chores

[1073sucks]

haha no. because you know very well why she asked for his height and then then immedate "okay good" as in there's a number what wouldn't be "good"? ... so just the same like guys get rejected for height, women get rejected over being fat so it's. a FAIR question to be replied with what is equal in return as most guys will not actually care how tall a girl is to be a big factor and such.

your answer shows you're the type that gets offended by it being returned to you eventhough you're likely to do that to someone. Gross. lol

[DizzyDesii]

@1073sucks nah You’re just likely a dude who got offended about his height so you created this pink account to TRY to make a point. Have a good day

[provokeesmokee]

I think it's fine. Maybe the weight and salary questions are too direct if the vibe isn't there for that, but getting to know who you're dating doesn't sound bad.

Especially if you're already looking to move in, it makes sense to know these things.

[midnightmoon05]

I think you are supposed to know/ask about these before becoming serious…

the greater issue I see is how people communicate nowadays and through text is terrible. I would never use text to get to know someone or as a form of communication. Especially a love interest.

I met my first hubby through match. com…I like that it had a lot of these questions that I was able to weed out candidates that were not a match. (That is if they were honest).

[shades777]

well thats making it conditional, which isn't bad as people claim, also there's no such thing as unconditional love, love by definition is conditioned-based.


Ultimately what a man prioritizes is looks then personalities,


for most women it's resources, and what her friends think of her selection, because they are more social than men and rely on what others think of them

[overthinkergirl]

once i guy asked me how much i weigh and iit was a big red flag and he started to be an ick. it ruined everything i think

[worldscolide]

It's also a huge red flag when she asks about his income and height.. Instant ghost.

[overthinkergirl]

i didn’t ask those questions🤦‍♀️

[worldscolide]

You did not, but most women on dating apps do

[IslaTheWitch]

Asking is OK.

And we should answer only the questions we feel comfortable with.

If the question about income or weight is too much, just don't answer.

[Yannae]

That is very fair actually. If they happen to find height so important, and you find weight important and you both want to know... good luck, happy clinching. It sucks that these people exist.

[madhatters4]

it's fair to ask. and it's fair for someone to get offended at the question.

[love_conquers_lust]

Judge not, lest ye be judged. I judge this a fair question to ask.

[Billlewis]

I believe that while a woman has every right to inquire about a guy's ability to provide the kind of lifestyle she desires, a man should refrain from asking her about her fondness for cooking and cleaning, at least initially.

[worldscolide]

Sorry if my income is important to her, than she damn well better be able to perform her domestic duties.. Otherwise she's unworthy of said lifestyle.

[VictorMachiavelli]

I don’t see the need to ask about weight, you can already see her pictures, you know whether she’s your physical type or not. You don’t know height without asking.

[worldscolide]

9 times out of 10, women enhance their images and photographs to hide that. You obviously haven't ever been on a dating app.

[VictorMachiavelli]

I have but I’ve only met one woman who didn’t look like her picture. It’s easy to tell when a picture has been edited.

[Anonymous]

I think it's perfectly fine for him to ask about her height and income, if she asks about his height and income.

Asking about weight, or domestic labour is a whole other thing. It's not even comparable.

[worldscolide]

It is actually. A woman asks about his height for the same reason a man would ask about her weight. I'm not into land whales, they aren't healthy.

[midnightmoon05]

Land whales 😂 damn!! that’s a good one. We had a guy at work like that last year…he didn’t come back this year…don’t know what happened to him…I still wonder how they shower … urrggggg

[Anonymous]

Why do you have to asked for his height? Can't you just look at him on the date?

[ShesRad80]

100 percent fair

[Drewtate]

Yes but it won't get you laid.

[sirderpsalot123]

It's a fair question.

[RedInnocent68]

No, but you can ask about her height and income.