I know a girl that is too similar to my 1st love, I am so confused, is it a bad idea wanting to be with someone that is too similar to my 1st love?

[Anonymous]

[OlderAndWiser]

Is it fair to this girl to try to develop a relationship with her because she looks like someone else?

[Asker]

I've learned from the experience of losing my 1st love, I'm a different person now. So, this will be different, I'm different, any advice?

[OlderAndWiser]

I accept that you learned some lessons from your experience. However, you will still be thinking about your ex, won't you.

[Asker]

No matter what happen, I'll always be thinking of my 1st love, whether I'm single/attached.

[OlderAndWiser]

Doesn’t that mean that you are emotionally unavailable?

[Asker]

So, I'm suppose not to love again?
My 1st love is special, we were both love in 1st sight, childhood sweetheart. Can you ever forget a special someone?

[OlderAndWiser]

Live at first sight. What did you love about her before you knew anything about her?

[Asker]

We were 12-16.

[OlderAndWiser]

And was it a mature, adult love?

[Asker]

We are similar in character, we don't open up to anyone ever.

[Asker]

We see that in each other, we don't question each other.

[Asker]

Lol, don't know what it is, more like psychic love.

[Asker]

Both her and me are very unique, we are great observers. We prefer to stay quiet and observes others. We end up observing each other.

[boggboss]

No if u are using them to replace what u lost

[Asker]

I've learned from the experience of losing my 1st love, I'm a different person now. So, this will be different, I'm different, any advice?

[boggboss]

What I mean by this is the second women is not your first love if u treat her like she is that u will fuck things up

[Asker]

My 1st love and me, had a sad story, there was a misunderstanding that both of us was not mature enough to discuss about, it was a misunderstanding, we love each other. Now I'm mature, I know to communicate.

[boggboss]

Again that's irrelevant this is not your first love this is a new women if u treat this situation like she is the first girl then u are trolling

[Asker]

My 1st love was 12-16 years old, this will be a lot different.

[boggboss]

So then why are u talking about your first treat it differently

[Asker]

I don't get your question.

[boggboss]

That if this is differnt because u are mature why are u referencing or talking about your 1st relationship when it's irrelevant here

[Asker]

Because every person experience is different, I need someone else to share his experience?

[boggboss]

So u think your partner will be happy knowing that u are with her because she reminds u of your 1st relationship

[Asker]

She is similar but not totally, there will always be differences, people grow up and changes, even my 1st love will be completely a different person right now. After some time passes every person changes, you and me.

[boggboss]

Again if u know this why do u keep referencing your first love when she has nothing to do with this situation

[Asker]

But this girl that I know now, I'm struggling to give a 2nd look at other girls.

[Asker]

The power of attraction of similarity is too strong, others girl not getting a fair chance.

[boggboss]

OK so...

[Asker]

I have some interest in a few girls, this has the upper hand, wonder is this bad, like I'm higher reluctant to give this girl up for the other girls.

[In_Trance]

I think you lied about your age

[Asker]

The chance to be able to find someone similar to your 1st love, is very low.

[In_Trance]

Why would you want to?
It didn't last for a reason!