Is it a red flag if guy have majority girl as his bestfriend?

[Anonymous]

Im mindblown with the amount girl bestfriend he had. Nearly all stories in his daily activity must be with a girl.. And he treat everyone ‘sweetly’ hence i wonder in what way he can differentiate between treating normal friends and his girlfriend. If every other girl actually being treated as such

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

Most of the best friends I've had were women, and I treat all my friends like family, the differentiation is sexual/romantic. Anything sexual/romantic is exclusive to a girlfriend/wife, the rest of them are all platonic interactions.

That said, the type of woman I want to marry is rare, and I need to be best friends before dating to avoid getting lied to about what kind of person anyone I date is, so one of those best friends (or a new one) at some point, would end up as my wife eventually.

Because it takes a few years for friendships to develop, I would need to have many female friends to have any real chance to marry a pefect match, as a perfect match for me are less than 0.01% of women in the US. So if i don't have lots of female friends, my odds of finding a match would be so bad that it might as well be zero, ad I would need to reset my efforts in looking every 3 years doing it one woman at a time, and that just isn't realistic.

[Asker]

You know what? I genuinely respect you. I love your view on how to find the one, and how you ain't simply playing around people feeling etc.. Good to know that

[TheSpaceGnome]

Thanks.

It's not often I get anything other than criticism for how I'm approaching dating and friendship. Everyone seems too lazy and jaded these days to even think finding a perfect match is possible.

[Asker]

Indeed, people nowadays are messed up and im sick of it

[TheSpaceGnome]

Same :/

[Uglycryer]

Many girls are fake so if he’s “friends” with many girls he may be a fake person too

[Asker]

Somehow this is funny hahaha

[Wise4myage]

Maybe he's just a natural flirt?

[Asker]

fair enough.. but its a pity to his partner tho

[Wise4myage]

I agree.