Is it a red flag if a guy mostly gets along with females and has mostly female friends?

[Anonymous]

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

I have two sisters, both are older then me. I have enough male friends so to say that i mostly got female friends ain’t correct but got quite some female-friends aswell, though i only got 4 really close male friends and basically all of the females i do consider friends are fairly-close with me and definitely trust them more then i would with my male friends (apart from the 4 i mentioned) perhaps it’s my bias with my sisters, perhaps it’s because females put more effort in and care more for a friendship and perhaps it’s because i like having female-advice and validation from them god knows. 🤷‍♂️ All i know is that it’s a wrong notion to think that guys only have female-friends because they’re interested in them and want to bang them, it’s far from a red flag (Admittedly it depends on the guy and their past together obviously) but i really love & care for them in a friendship way and i would never put our friendship (s) at risk just because of feelings that might come-up and attraction i might have towards them. As my dad once said: Some things are better left alone, buried.

[Rangers]

Not as much a red flag, that's more of a dead giveaway that he's a player

[Spongebobssocks]

Depends, I have 2 very close male friends, one I met in Kindergarden 20 years ago and the other one 3 years ago.. both are bisexual and prefer to date men.. so is that a red flag too?

I think it depends on how they met and the nature of their friendship

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you for MHO!

[Asker]

Welcome

[whorable]

it depends if he’d introduce me to them. but i’d still feel iffy but wouldn’t be dramatic unless they gave me a reason to be. but if he’s a new thing i wouldn’t go risking it with him

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Some of us grew up with sisters and so are automatically easier-connected to females then we are males, just because we got mostly female-friends doesn’t mean we’re into them some of us simply believe that women make better friends and i myself do agree with that.

[whorable]

that i get. i just mean when you’re barely starting out in the relationship and he has an overwhelming amount of girlfriends who he doesn’t introduce me to. like okay they’ve been friends for years! or “wow they grew up together” or just knowing some type of back story is better than only seeing him hang out with females. womanizer player type

[FilmGuy93]

I would see that as a red flag, yes.

[strateguy632]

a warning for... what?

[FilmGuy93]

@strateguy632 Well... that's kind of the question. The situation makes you wonder something that isn't really any of your business to ask about.

People generally feel more comfortable/casual around their own gender than they do the opposite. When I hear that someone generally doesn't get along with people of their same gender, it always begs the question why. It could be that every guy the dude chilled with got the vibe that he wants to snake their girl, so they don't like chilling with him, or it could just be that he's a more sensitive dude. I can't know the answer and it's not really my business to ask; so I would just be cautious and keep my distance from the person until I knew more.

[strateguy632]

on a doubt keep distance? better to get to know the person than to accuse them if trying to snake.

[FilmGuy93]

@strateguy632 it’s not that you accuse them of anything, it’s that people have reputations for a reason

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily. The gender of a person's friends does not necessarily indicate anything about their character or personality. It's possible that a person simply happens to have more female friends because of shared interests, social circles, or other factors.

However, it's important to look at the context of the situation and the individual's behavior towards their female friends. If a person primarily surrounds themselves with women but consistently disrespects or objectifies them, that could be a red flag for problematic attitudes towards women.

It's also important to consider how a person interacts with people of all genders and how they treat others in general. If a person is respectful, kind, and empathetic towards all people, regardless of gender, that is a positive trait.

Ultimately, the gender of a person's friends should not be the sole factor in determining whether or not someone is trustworthy or compatible as a partner or friend. It's important to look at the whole picture and consider a range of factors when evaluating someone's character and compatibility.

[ohsheeT]

Nope most of the time it's a big green flag it's usually because the guy knows who he is he also gets along with females better than males because he probably doesn't like his male friends because they're a bunch of jackasses and jurks now one of the worst things that happens though is when he has all these girls that are friends and all of a sudden he meets somebody that none of these girls know and he wants to know why he's hanging out with these girls and she doesn't like that so now he has to tell his long time friends sorry we can't hang out anymore because my girlfriend thinks we're doing something and blah blah blah blah blah because in order to keep her happy he has to walk away from his friends that are girls and that just really sucks sometimes

[aoihewgf]

Maybe. Specifically, I think it's odd to be "friends" with many female. I may have acquaintances that I can contact whenever but i dont have friendships with them. Let me ask you a question, how many bfs have you heard of that absolutely love hearing about all the emotional details of how their gfs day went, and how every interaction wen? Right? I mean, most try to get out of having to listen to all that. So how the hell is some guy going to be willing to listen to a bunch of female freinds talking about how their boyfriend, or date, love life, or lack there of is going (times however many femail friends)

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Women aren’t emotional all the time and aren’t all talking and complaining 24/7, and it ain’t odd dude. They make great friends. They will put in effort because they care and will bother to ask how you’re doing, they’re goofy when time’s right and are real in comparison to a lot of dudes out there acting all macho and tough while we all know want they’re really like. There are some of those friends i find attractive, but finding someone attractive is different then actually seeking something romantic interest with them. With females you don’t have the same shame / oppressive mentality when it comes to emotions and thoughts then what males do, they’re more willing to be open and debate with you about what they think is best for you. Not just that but it obviously brings benefits such as getting to know more females who might actually fit in that romantic interest and if you got any problems with females or need advice it’s easy to get and it’ll work, unlike with guys who are terrible with advice. Just seeing them as friends, and not as females with asses and tits is part of growing up like a man. And i tell them about all my crap aswell, it’s fair i do the same with them. I do agree there’s conditions though, if you’re a dude with a desperation mentality and want to get laid you’ll fall for her sooner or later and there’s nothing you can do about it.

[aoihewgf]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer personally, the reciprocal value I would get versus that in which I would provide, just doesn't make a whole lot of sense for me. To be fair though, I don't talk to a whole lot of guys either. I'm on my path and If I wanted advice or to learn from others, I'd likely do better befriending 40yrs and older. Most younger still got they're thumb up they're ass

[BadApple69]

I have several female friends and my wife knows them. The best advise I get comes from those friends. Let’s be honest a male friend can give you some pretty stupid advise at times. I love my female friends and always will but I will never love them like I love my wife.

[strateguy632]

red flag can mean several things. if mean a warning for girls, no, "most girls" situation shows successful interaction with girls. since a girl is asking it is a green flag.

[loveslongnails]

It is for you if you're insecure. I have more female friends than male friends. I mostly do sports, play cards or have some drinks with guy friends, but only a few are really interesting to me. I find it easier to chill with women and the lack of macho bullshit flying around.

[Anonymous]

Very few are friends that don’t end up being or wanting to be more than friends. I have a few that I don’t see in person we text which is pretty good but those friends that I see in person I say few words to nothing more. I feel like she’d think I wanted more if I did talk more

[shades777]

Not sure how a man being good with women can be a red flag, I was under the impression thats what women wanted was a man that has the ability to not only attract quality women, but talk to them and has many options but only chooses them in spite of his massive selection.


Something I've learned is that when a woman is wrapped in her emotions anything a man does can be warped into a negative

[Nikki1989]

I wouldn't have a problem with it.

[imawfulatusernames]

Eh depends I find it a huge red flag if men don’t have any female friends it shows A LOT about how they view women. If they’re genuinely friends, have no history, and the dynamics seem normal then no I don’t think so.

[Yesdarlingmoon]

yep why do u need mostly female friends? i find that odd

[DarkWinterNights]

How are you going to feel if you’re dating him and he stays out late drinking with his friends… who happen to be attractive women.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I don't see it as a red flag when a guy is single, But being in a relationship, I see it red flags.

[AlexisDiani]

My girlfriends brother grew up with five sisters. He is very easy to talk to. I have no feelings for him at all. It's probably a good thing but I'd keep my eyes open.

[LiamJHayden]

Red flags are whatever the individual deems them to be. To me, no, having mostly opposite sex friends is not a red flag.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't think it is a red flag. I would think it should be a green flag. Shows that he relates to women.

[TacosRAwesome]

Depends on the situation and why he doesn't get along with other men that much.

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

You mean that by him maybe being gay? Or?

[TacosRAwesome]

@DamianTheSmikkelbeer I mean if he's gay it's obviously a deal breaker if I'm into dating him. But he could be the male equivalent of "I only hang out with boys because girls are so much drama".

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

@TacosRAwesome Totally makes sense, i probably wouldn’t be very romantically invested with a lesbian either unless i find her attractive to the point where i want to make it my life’s mission to confince her that being bisexual is a million times better. In my experience males genuinely make shitty friends especially compared to females ones, they can behave and be real assholes without realizing. As i said in my original post, i got 4 male friends who i genuinely trust and am close to but all of my female friends have genuine been more caring and invested in our friendships then any of those males ever would (apart from the 4), i trust them and am definitely more closer to them then i am with most of my male friends. Perhaps it’s my perception of females and view of women that makes it radically different, perhaps it’s me growing up with sisters and a caring mother i wouldn’t know.

[TrillXHippy]

Are girls that don’t get along with other girls but they get along with guys and have a majority of guy friends make girls freaking lesbian? See how STUPID that sounds

[Anonymous]

Possibly a red flag for gayness or bisexuality but other than that I don't see a problem.

[Anonymous]

For me it is a red flag. I dont trust men easily, i want the security and stability in my connection. So i dont feel secure if that guy is talking to so many girls.

[BadApple69]

If a man truly loves you than talking to another girl is no different than him talking with another guy. Have trust in your relationship. Hold on to your relationship like you would a young bird. Too loose and the bird will fly away, too tight and your crush young bird.

[Opinion Owner]

@BadApple69 sorry i dont agree with u

[BadApple69]

It’s good you disagree. That’s why we are here to have a discussion. I can only speak about my personal experiences. The best relationship I ever had was the one I let go. She didn’t go far before she realized what she was going to lose. If I would have held on tight I know today that she would have left me for good. Be confident in who you are and be that person that he doesn’t want to lose.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok thanks for this piece of advice.

[Grond21]

It entirely depends on what kind of relationship he has with them.

[AngryCarl2]

No, I don't see why it would be. Some men just prefer female company. I know I do.

[OddBeMe]

If it is I’m that red flag. Depends on what you want in a guy. That guy’s prob not a jock. Lol

[boggboss]

If thats something u would have a issue with

[DamianTheSmikkelbeer]

Males and females can be friends, dontcha think?

[boggboss]

This I know already have a few friends that are women that are completely platonic

[annabananna]

Not necessary as long as it genuinely just friends

[azbaeu]

Only if it's cause he's gay

[serious]

No, that is not a red flag.

[Anonymous]

Not necessarily, but he might be gay.

[ColHathi]

Red flag in what way?

[Twalli]

I think it depends on how they view friendships.

[Shy_Steve]

Of course it is, Why would it not be.

[Engin12]

no its a green flag

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nope.

[LavLavLuv]

Nope

[In_Trance]

Yes I think it is

[Chris2254]

Can be