Is it a red flag that a man has more female friends than guy friends?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's a red flag

No, it's normal

[Kaneki05]

No it's the opposite, guys are terrible friends so this just shows that this guy is smart enough to know that.

Guys use a lot of peer pressure on each other to say and do inappropriate things. Guys will cheat to gloat to other guys.

Maybe that changes as guys get older I don't know but young guys and my experience with guy friends is they are typically bad influences.

I have a couple guy friends that I wouldn't want girls friends to even meet. My bro who've I known for ages he's a good guy for sure would have no problems them meeting him, I trust him. But as to my other guy friends not a chance.

They are just assholes really.

[NicholasRedone]

Lack of friends is also a red flag.
And too many friends is also a red flag. After a while, we're gonna need a lot more flag holders or flagpoles because lady, there's so many out there who aren't gonna be - perfect -sighs - even me saying that.
And I'm the perfectionist 🤭

[IslaTheWitch]

people are different

most of my friends are men, so it would be totally normal for me :D

[Nikki1989]

Not at all. You should see how many females friends my husband has.

[Asker]

Would you set any boundaries for this? How close would you be comfortable with a guy being to his female friends?

Personally, if I were in a relationship, I wouldn’t feel comfortable with my partner texting his female friends every single day and hanging out with them every week. However, I wouldn’t have the same concerns if he were doing this with his male friends.

[RedThread]

A lot of my friends are women and I have no romantic feelings towards any of them. If I had feelings for any of them I would've pursued it earlier. I don't think there's anything suspicious about it. My ex had a lot of guy friends too and it was fine. I think people are just overly suspicious.

[Cormac995]

Not necessarily a red flag but definitely strange. Guys do have girls that are friends but it's not very common especially not multiple.

[NathanDavis]

why do you think it would be?

[Asker]

As a woman, although I have some male friends, I still prefer talking to people of my own gender. I feel that we share more similar experiences in society and often have common interests, which makes communication more natural and relatable. That’s why I find it a bit puzzling when a man constantly prefers talking to women—I wonder what makes them have so much to discuss with the opposite sex.

[Asker]

And he also make me curious that if they are so good at socialising, why don’t they have more guy friends?

[NathanDavis]

most of the friendships are not actually planned...

[NathanDavis]

for example... I have three friends from college, who are girls, they are women

I just happened to met them at the same time, because they were all friends with one another

so, I ended up with three friends at the same time, I did not plan that lol... it just happened by chance

[Asker]

But like... if you’re in a relationship, you would try to keep a distance with other girl friends, don’t you? So what I mean is not just normal friends who are girls, but the ones who are very very close (such as texting and hanging out with girls frequently, even though they have the option to invite guy friends to hang out instead of girls

[NathanDavis]

we were very close... we spent every day together, because of college, projects, and all that

[Asker]

But like have you ever tried to be romantically involved with any one of them? (not trying to doubt you. just out of curious.

[NathanDavis]

one of them was my girlfriend too, so...

[NathanDavis]

but no... I never cheated on any of my ex-girlfriends

and none of my girlfriends who are women, they never cheated on their boyfriends with me either

[Asker]

exactly so your girlfriend was aware of your interactions with other female friends. So let me put my question this way, if a guy has already romantically involved with a girl, he’s still interacting with other female friends frequently without that girl’s acknowledge, is this suspicious?

[NathanDavis]

WITHOUT his girl's knowledge, yes... that could be odd and suspicious

my girlfriend always knew about my friends, all of them, the background, history... and when and where I would be with them and all that, it was never secret, never behind her back or anything like that

[Asker]

So do you think the guy should actively tell his girlfriend that the person he’s gonna hang out with is a girl, before his girlfriend asked about it?
and do you think it is reasonable to for a girl to feel uncomfortable, if a guy tells her that he’s interested in her (a formal relationship haven’t been settled), but he is still interacting with other female friends frequently and doesn’t introduce them actively

[IslaTheWitch]

I love those leading questions :D

interacting doesn't mean spending time together :D

my partners had their friends... I was only requiring the info when and with whom (i didn't know some of those people and I didn't care)... it was a very early set boundary...

[NathanDavis]

this was a nice walk at the ballpark... lol