Girls, Embarrassed after surgery I won't find my person?

[BamAlaM]

Im a good looking guy and got shot now I have a slight bladder problem I just slightly leak sometimes but everything works great and am blessed (size) and try my best to have a good personality i used to be very confident would you look past my issue?

[Anonymous]

Yes I would look past the issue since I only ever do LDR for long term romantic partners. But I may be unusual in that. The average girl? I don't think there is such a thing as average but many might even get turned on by it. I honestly see how that can be a hot thing. ﾠ

[Anonymous]

I would pray for you to heal, not judge and bully you. 🙂 ﾠ

[_Maya_]

Yeah because there are solutions to that issue as you are sure aware of. I am not going to reject a great guy or girl because of something like what you describe. It just shouldn't be an issue. Plus you have likely learned how to deal with it unless it just happened yesterday. Your personality is way more important. The size you mention... not so much but congrats on that I guess? As long as you were upfront about it with me and anything I had to be aware of then I'd be cool if we hit it off.

[BamAlaM]

I just mention size just to add to the pros I guess cause I feel like the issue is such a con 😂 I can control it but like after sex gotta go straight to the bathroom and empty before. Kinda reluctant to any "oral" stuff cause what if... ya know lol I'm only worried I just won't be what I was before in the bedroom. I'm a pretty chill person otherwise

[_Maya_]

Yeah so it sounds like you know what your limitations are. That is what I was referring to. I see no issues.

[SueShe]

Bladder weaknesses can be remedied with various methods, starting with incontinence pads and/or disposable incontinence underwear. That is the simplest solution to overcome your incontinence. Now, if this problem really bothers you, you may look into a small surgical intervention in the form of a so-called sling procedure or artificial urinary sphincter. You can search both procedures online.

Now, as for the "blessed" part, this is really absolutely not relevant to this question. The personality and character as well as the intellect are important but certainly not the "blessed" part.

If I were interested in dating and provided that the 3 most important factors were available, then of course I would look past this incontinence issue. This is not a major deterrent for a healthy relationship.

[BamAlaM]

Thanks 🙂 I've been healing for a year and I'm just trying to build confidence back before I start dating again.

[VanityFair888]

I wouldn't mind, tbh, I don't think it's that important issue. It can be fixed with plenty of methods so I wouldn't even pay attention to it.