What does "we'll see mean" when it comes to dating?

[Anonymous]

I'm going on a second date with this guy we talked about what we wanted to do and we decided on something and a time. Then I said maybe we can go to the mall after and he said "we'll see". Does that mean he's not interested? Because other than that we haven't really texted as much either we only talked about our date.

[DaveJord]

So I have been on 18 to 20 first dates in the last two years... and well see honestly means we will see. It depends on the vibe, the chemistry and if you actually back up the things you say in actions. Like people say all types of great things and act like they are these people they portray themselves to be, but no matter what she says... her actions will determine what type of person and relationship we have together.

So we'll see is actually him be in emotionaily mature and basically he trying to prevent himself from gettting to far out in front of the process. Only time will tell, who you and he really are and if that will work.

Mall dates are actually pretty fun, so that's a good choice... but some men take that to mean you want them to buy you something... so we'll see means... we will see. At end of the day it comes does not come down to what you as a woman bring to the table or have to offer... because you can bring a lot and have a lot to offer... but you if are not actually offering it to me then you have nothing to offer.

I am not talking just about sex, like how much time and energy are you willing it put into it. What's our vibe and chemistry, and yes were are you on sex. These things all matter equally. I have been on too many first dates to put too much stock into one... like yes first impressions matter, but its easy to fake it through a first date if you are practiced at it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, "we'll see" is kinda a cop out answer sometimes. Hard to say for sure what he's thinking without more context.

A couple possibilities though - he might be playing it chill so he doesn't seem too keen and scare you off. Guys are told not to come on too strong early on.

Or it could be he's not 100% sure about his schedule yet so didn't wanna fully commit. Maybe he wants to see how date #2 goes before planning more. Like what if it's awkward haha.

I wouldn't overthink the texting much - some dudes just aren't glued to their phones. As long as he's confirmed the date plans I wouldn't bail yet.

See how date 2 flows - does he seem engaged? Try chatting more too so you can read between the lines better. And maybe suggest a specific mall activity after so he has to give a real yes or no.

But for now I'd take it chill - one "we'll see" doesn't mean it's doomed. Play it cool too sis, don't freak. Hope it goes well! Keep me updated.

[normalice]

Sounds like he's saying if he can't find a girl who will jump into bed with him sooner then he will go on another date with you.

[Toylet20]

Good point lol

[Toylet20]

Honestly it sounds like he could take it or leave it but maybe question him more. He could just be busy?