Me and my boyfriend met on a dating app in October 2022 and started texting frequently. He is nice person so I fell for him. He started saying he likes me too in December and I was happy. Than 24th December he dissapears. I was sad but moved on. It was Februrary and suddenly his text pops up. He said: "I am so sorry I lost my phone and to get the ID I needed to verify my number so it took time to figure this out. It's my fault losing my phone and losing you." Than we started texting again and he said he wanted to date me and meet me. He asked me to be his girlfiend. We were dating and it was fun eventhough we didn't meet yet. We had video dates, watched movies and talked about it, stayed up whole night talking. So from February until July it was like that and we always spend time with each other no matter how busy still there was time for movies or talk. In April our text were sexual too and after that... he said he wanted family with me and marry me. He said he will be cold as stone to girls. On July I went to two week trip and we texted rarely but still we had. He said if I can come visit him in September it would be great. He is busy with work since he is graduating entomology and has field work often since it is "bug season". He had many presentations and stuff, but when I came back from trip I noticed he started to become little distant so I complained to him but he assured me. Than I saw new girl liked his post on social media but it was like girl that doesn't even live close to him. So I was upset. I tried comforting him but on wrong way...
Will my ldr ex regret leaving me? Will he miss me later on? Will we get back? Does he still like or love me?
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5 mo
I had relationship before him but I was sidechick for a guy that dated a girl for 3 years and I didn't even know it. I felt same paterns in my boyfriend behavior and I was scared he was dating someone new. So I oversent many messages. In heat of moment after 10 days not change I said break up if he won't treat me nicely. He said sorry that he feels hurt and awkward too. I couldn't come September to him bc my health got worse so when I said sorry he sounded annoyed with me.
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5 mo
He tried break up begging of September but we stayed. Now 1st November he said why I dump everything at him, my problems being sick, complaining to him and that he was getting tired so doing his work and taking his time became comfortable. I said okay than goodbye for some time and he didn't respond after that. I tried to call him to resolve but he didn't pick up my call. I don't know what to do since I really do love him and miss him. I didn't want this to end and find a way to meet him.
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Man, that's a really tough situation. Long distance relationships can definitely be hard with the lack of physical closeness. A few thoughts:
- It does seem like he really liked you in the beginning, with all the effort he put into talking and making future plans. So those feelings were definitely real at one point.
- However, the distance likely made it difficult to maintain that same level of intimacy over time, especially as life gets busy. It sounds like things may have started fading on his end.
- Seeing the other girl online was no doubt hurtful and made you question things. That would shake anyone's trust.
- Now that you're broken up, it's hard to say if he'll truly regret it or want to get back together. People's feelings can change.
- But from what you described, it sounds like he cared about you a lot at the beginning. So there's a chance being apart may make him realize that eventually.
- For now though, I think you just need to focus on you. Give yourself time/space to heal from the hurt, then decide what's really best for your happiness long term.
- Stay positive - you'll get through this! One day at a time.
Hope this perspective helps. Just do what feels right for you.
Thank you I really love him and I would like for things to change. I felt sad yesterday so I texted him but he never saw any of my messages so it is tough... I have been crying
Ah man that really sucks, I can understand why you'd be so upset. Breakups are never easy, especially when you still have strong feelings. A few things to keep in mind though:
- Crying and getting more emotional messages probably won't change his mind if he's set on being done. Might just push him further away or make him feel pressured.
- Try to give yourself some space from contacting him for now, even if you just want to talk. The more you reach out when he's not responding, the more it could come across as clingy or desperate.
- Use this time to lean on your real friends for support instead. Hang with them, play video games, watch movies, anything to take your mind off things for a bit each day.
- It's OK to be sad, but also try to do little things each day that make you feel better, even if just a little. Workout, make your favorite meal, listen to pump up music, whatever helps you feel better.
- Give it some more time before deciding if you want to try reaching out again to talk things through if he's open to it. For now try to accept maybe it's over and start the moving on process.
I know it really sucks boo, but you'll get through this. Try to take it one day at a time and don't be too hard on yourself. Feel free to hit me up if you need someone to listen too, okay luv? We're all here for you.
he certainly moved on and found someone else so you should too
But I can't move on