How to Ensure I Go on a Date with a Woman Who Isn't Open to New Experiences?

[Shiningtempest]

I am asking this question because I wanted to learn how to only go on a first date with a woman who prefers familiarity & routine. Holding everything else equal, dating a woman who's open to new experiences is a recipe for disaster.

[Jbear27]

This is a very odd dating preference. It seems you’re looking for a partner of convenience rather than a partner to grow and mature with. Maybe look into mail order brides if you’re not willing to experience people and everything they bring to the table. I’m not saying you should seek to go out with an adrenaline junkie or a party girl but new experiences are what make like exciting. And by new they can still be of the mundane variety but they still open your mind to things you didn’t know you liked and didn’t see yourself trying. Like coffee at sunrise or stargazing on the roof. I dunno know how to respond to your post without a little bit of sadness on whomever you find that matches your description

[Shiningtempest]

@Jbear27 I don't crave excitement. I crave familiarity & routine. Thus, a woman who opens my mind to new things would be incompatible with my need for familiarity & routine.

[Jbear27]

I don’t think you’re looking for a partner then. You’re just lonely and looking for a one sided companion that requires no work or effort. Get a dog.

[Shiningtempest]

@Jbear27 I keep in touch with people I've known from my school years at least once a month. Thus, loneliness isn't an issue for me.

[Jbear27]

Answer this, it sounds like you already have a routine and familiarity in your life. If not for excitement or to fill a lonely void why do you even want a parter? You want someone to make life easier? To cook and clean for you? What are you looking to get out of it? What do you plan to provide for them to make it worth their time?

[Shiningtempest]

@Jbear27 That's an excellent question. I admit it will take a time to answer your questions.

[NathanDavis]

so you want try someone/something new and experience it... to find someone who is closed to new experiences

got it...

[Shiningtempest]

@NathanDavis I only want to date a woman who loves routine & familiarity.

[NathanDavis]

have you ever had an actual relationship before?

[Shiningtempest]

@NathanDavis No, I haven't been in an actual relationship before because I'm still looking for a woman who loves familiarity & routine.

[NathanDavis]

do you have some sort of OCD?

[Shiningtempest]

@NathanDavis I don't have OCD. I have high-functioning autism.

[NathanDavis]

I see

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Why not tell your potential dates that’s what you’re looking for?

[mandyfire98]

"holding everything else equal"