I love my boyfriend and he treats me so well yet I always have such dark and negative thoughts that pop into my head to sabotage the relationship?

[Anonymous]

Why is this? I don’t ever tell him about those thoughts but I just wish I could just enjoy the love that I receive instead of my brain wanting to sabotage it? Some help/ advice or tips?

[IslaTheWitch]

There is also such thing in psychology as a self-fulfilling prophecy, especially if you experienced a not-nice breakup or just have low self-esteem.

In this concept, you are afraid of something, so you do everything to make it happen faster and be over it (it's a very short version).

But I don't know what is really happening in your head, so I can only add my idea to others already presented here.

If it's really hard, look for a psychologist.

[petitedollbabee]

Just sounds like intrusive thoughts. If you have any mental illness, especially something like anxiety, then it’s very common and normal. I’m sure that google could educate you more than I can on it, and likely provide some coping mechanisms. Personally whenever I get intrusive thoughts, I just find a way to distract myself and shake the thought away.

[Anonymous]

I don't know, but this is something you figure out before getting into a relationship.

[Asker]

Trust me I have.. I just don’t know how to rid the thoughts

[serious_miss419]

You’re trying to protect yourself.

[jahaims]

Unresolved trauma. Go to therapy