My boyfriend is a nice guy and we've been dating for about a year, but I've noticed some annoying patterns. He sometimes only thinks of himself. For example, he went to play tennis & we were supposed to get coffee after this morning, but I didn't hear from him all day then he texted me he was getting lunch by himself at a place. He didn't invite me.
He does similar things like this a lot and doesn't think to include others or take them into consideration. For example he'll make food for himself and eat it in front of me, but not offer me any. If a friend is running late/can't make it to an event, he'll go, "we'll, that's his problem" and leave him instead of waiting a few mins. He also won't update his friends on things and will keep them hanging. They'll text me instead.
He'll just sometimes not consider me or others, and run off & do his own thing. For example, I'm his girlfriend, but it's annoying that sometimes he won't even include me in any activities and update me for hours, when I'm waiting for him to respond.
Sometimes he doesn't really consider me in things, like playing in game or sport tournaments & not inviting me to watch, activities on weekends, or activities on weeknights. He does this to his friends too. He just does his own thing.
Other than this he's a nice guy. His family is very cold & I think he sometimes is just clueless or lacks empathy. I have noticed this behavior a lot, time after time. If I have a problem, he will sometimes just say "oh, that's life" and walk away.
Outside of this, he can be sweet and he'll spend time with me, get movie tickets, etc. It's just his personal space etc. and lack of awareness for others that's a huge issue. Sometimes I'll be waiting for his plans for hours with his friends and he's just been doing his own this the whole time. He doesn't care to update us. What do I do? thanks y'all.
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