Can people (romantically) like multiple people at once?

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meh_l0 · Accepted Answer

NO. I liked this guy while I “liked” my boyfriend. I started liking the guy before I met my boyfriend, When I met him, i thought i stopped liking the other dude, I realized not a long time ago I never loved my boyfriend. I'd always feel butterflies when the other guy would be near me or anything, thing I never felt with my boyfriend, I just needed someone to love me and give me attention. This has happened me many times (not with bfs) but I don't remember other examples, for which I think "pol¡am0rous" people are pointless, they just want two bodies or are surely confused, someone in love can't think about two people at once, definitely some people would think "oh but I sometimes think about X and sometimes about Y" Yeah that's what happened to me. I loved how he treat me, not him, eventually he started being a jerk and I stopped loving him and even if the other guy was a jerk sometimes I never stopped liking him.

Conclusion of my life (u can skip if u don't care):

Right now, I'm still with my boyfriend faking to love him because he has developed something called anxious attachment I think and well, everytime I'd tell him I wanted to leave the relationship he'd be extremely sad and would stop crying like a little baby, he's had su¡c¡dal past and sometimes I left him (we broke up multiple times) he tried k¡ll¡g himself

Lisia · Accepted Answer

Well maybe slightly.. but it comes with so many problems and usually there's a favorite.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don't know why people think it's okay to like multiple people at once. It's wrong in my opinion. It's different if you're in a dating stage where you are weeding out potential suitors then I understand. But if you like multiple people and think it's okay to do that, it's giving a mixed message, it is mixed signals. Eventually, and I see more modern day girls do this far too often where a girl will care only about herself and she won't care if she showed attraction, flirting tactics and then act cold with that guy and show the other guy more interest when the guy she acted cold with didn't do anything wrong. Girls, it's simple, why hurt guys emotionally. If you like one particular guy then flirt with him.

But the problem is, girls want to have options 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, etc. for just in case purposes. Because women don't want to be hurt but they don't care if they dish out the hurt. To any female reading this don't pull that ish. Y'all gloat how you are soo smart with your emotions then pursue that ONE guy and if he breaks your heart because he was a player and didn't care about you or he bad mouthed your family or whomever or whatever, then take responsibility, own up to it and realize to go after a genuine guy.

Married_mature · Accepted Answer

When you are romantically linked to someone, you think about them all day. You talk to them all the time, text them all the time. Going by this, you literally don't have time to get romantically linked with a different person. Now if you are attached to 2 people, you should know the feelings are different than romance.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Can you "romantically like" more than one person at the same time. Are you talking about love?

Some people put a very casual definition on "love" so that they can justify being in an open or "polyamorous" relationship. For me - and I don't really GAF what other people think - being in love with my fiancee means that I want to spend EVERY day and night (not half of all the days and nights) for the rest of my life with her. I want her to be the center of my universe, and I want to be the center of her universe. There is only room for one person in the center.

In my opinion, if someone says they love two people at the same time, then they don't really love either one.

Avicenna · Answer

No, and if they think they do, they're deceiving themselves

Saif92 · Answer

ITBP jawan dies in Naxal blast; sluggish polling in Chhattisgarh

An ITBP jawan was killed in a moist IED blast in chhattisgarh during the second phase of voting. The blast targeted a turnout of 68% till 5pm, with expectations of it rising. The incident occurred when the polling team was returning from the booth. The injured jawan was taken to hospital but Couldn’t be saved. Reinforcements were sent to rescue the polling officials. The highest turnout was in Kurud constituency at 82.6%.

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An ITBP jawan was killed in a Maoist IED blast while escorting a polling party in Gariaband district of Chhattisgarh on the second and final phase of voting in Chhattisgarh on Friday. The state reported a modest turnout of 68% till 5pm, but it was expected to rise.

Police say Maoists triggered an IED explosion in Bade Gobra village of Gariaband, around 100km from Raipur, to target a polling party of 50 officials and security personnel.

An area covering nine police stations in Gariaband is the only Maoist-affected area to go to the polls in the second round. Voting got over at 3pm in these parts and the incident took place when the team was returning from the booth after voting was over in Bindranawagarh (ST) constituency.

The polling party had walked 3km from the booth when head constable Joginder Singh stepped on a camouflaged mine and took the full brunt of the blast. No one else got injured, said ASP DS Patel. He was taken to hospital but couldn't be saved. Singh was a native of Jammu & Kashmir.

Reinforcements were rushed to rescue the terror-struck polling officials, who had taken refuge in Mainpur police station, a short distance from the attack site.

Polling started slow in most parts of the 70 constituencies but picked up in the afternoon. Around noon, it stood at 40%. Kurud constituency had the highest turnout of 82.6% at 5p, followed by Kharsia at 81.4% and Sanjari Balod and Pali Tanakhar at 79.3% each. Urban areas had lower turnouts, with Raipur City South at the bottom with 52.1% polling.

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Chief minister Bhupesh Baghel cast his vote in Patan, while his deputy T S Singhdeo voted in Ambikapur. State BJP president Arun Sao voted in Lormi constituency, and JCC (1) president Amit Jogi and his mother Renu Jogi, who are contesting from Patan and Kota, voted in Gorela in Marwahi (ST) constituency. Four MPs are among the 958 candidates in the fray.

Title: Tragedy Strikes as 50 ITBP Jawans Lose Lives in Naxal Blast Amid Sluggish Polling in Chhattisgarh

In a devastating turn of events, Chhattisgarh witnessed a tragic incident as 50 Indo-Tibetan Border Police (ITBP) jawans lost their lives in a Naxalite insurgency-related blast. The incident has not only claimed the lives of brave security personnel but has also raised concerns about the security situation in the region, casting a shadow over the ongoing polling process.

The Naxal Attack:

The Naxalite attack took place in a remote area of Chhattisgarh, underscoring the persistent challenges faced by security forces in combating insurgency. The ITBP personnel were reportedly conducting routine patrols in the area, aiming to ensure a safe and secure environment for the ongoing elections. However, the insurgents targeted the convoy, resulting in a tragic loss of lives.

davnerLeL · Answer

yes. sucks, but yes.

its just a personal observation but this seems to be the case for women more than it is for men.

men in general could find other girls attractive, but still have that one girl in their mind they would ditch everything for. that one girl they think about before going to sleep. and if he gets that girl. the other attractive girls he shalt not touch or speak to.
if he does tho, he's not really a man now is he.

for women though, even if they are in a relationship, there is always this one guy she knows she can rely on. this one guy that she knows that if she gave him a chance, he would most likely take it. a backup of sorts. its ugly, its disgusting. but it is what it is.

again, just an observation

NathanDavis · Answer

some people can get romantically involved... and into, more than one people at once, yes

I've seen something like that happen, not to me though, I've always felt drawn to one and that is it...

but there can also be some levels of intensity involved... maybe they start to feel a bit more strongly with two people they are starting to get close with, so at that moment, they might be feeling a bit unclear or undecided, or sometimes... genuinely into both of them

how strong these romance feelings can get? well, that could go very different for different people and their specific situations

modeunae · Answer

Of course, they can,  especially  if they're a man.  To make it simple , men's  natural  inclination is to deal with/have multiple women. I'm not trying to be funny or anything, I'm just being honest, while  women  on the  other hand  are naturally disposed to wanting one man because their biology dictates it to be so for their desires. This is what makes it strange for women to be all over the place, but  biologically  normal  for  men .  while it takes 9 months for  one  woman to have ( usually )  one  baby. Nature speaks for itself.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Yes you can like multiple people and possibly love more than one. But you can’t be IN LOVE with more than one. I can love more than one and want better for them. But the person I’m in love with is where I want to be, who I want to be with, and who I choose.

Screenwriter · Answer

You can certainly like and date more than one person at the same time, especially while very young and forming your own personality, needs, and desires.

But, what usually happens is, along the way, and with time, you decide who suits you better, and who you like more. It also depends on whether that person chooses you over others too!

The flip side of this is, you're older and someone who doesn't want to commit to one person, so you PREFER being in relationships with several people, who, we hope, know and accept this.

Remember, we're talking about LIKING several people romantically. This isn't a crime and it's reasonable, especially in early stages of relationships. And for those who prefer it, again, as long as people are honest, no harm, no foul.

Yyyyp789 · Answer

Yes, if you are emotionally numb or aren't looking for something serious with any of those partners. Or perhaps you are into monogamous relationship and don't get attached to one person. This is actually a recipe for disaster for someone who is sensitive and prefers to love and give their care/ attention to only one person. Realistically it's impossible to be romantically linked to multiple partners as I think they are only options, and it's gets exhausting after some time to give equal amount of attention to all of them. In the end, the person would eventually chose someone who they feel connected with as its not a matter of only "liking" someone it's about loving them romantically.

JacobJordan · Answer

I have not ever seen it. people focus on 1 thing at a time. mentally and emotionally. oh sure you can switch between multiple things focusing on each for a few seconds at a time repeatedly but when it comes to emotions towards people I have seen zero evidence to suggest that it happens. you love 1 person deeply or you like several people for differing reasons. you may claim you love them but the depth will not be present if several people are involved. that is why relationships that have several people have among the highest failure rate.

wolfcat87 · Answer

Of course! Whether a person is monogamous or polyamorous is really genetic. Most humans are not monogamous by definition. They may choose to behave as if they were for periods of time, but they still have an interest in others even if it's stifled for whatever reason. I have two husbands who I love equally. I've been with one 16 years and the other 9 years. I love them both more than I love myself. I've also dated other guys and had strong feelings and considered taking on a third.

BigAssB1tch · Answer

Oh hell naw! You can't be lovin' on more than one person at a time. That's some straight up bullshit! Love ain't no goddamn pie that you can slice up and share with everyone. It's like trying to divide by zero in your case, coz if you think you're in love with multiple people, then newsflash: you ain't really in love with none of them. You just confused as fuck and need to sort your shit out.

Anonymous · Answer

No. They just THINK they love multiple people at the same time. Love is not selfish, love is not just about the person who "loves". So to love more than one person at the same time only proves you love neither. What you're talking about is called "limmerance". It's what precedes love. It gives you all the feelings of being in love, but ISN'T love.

m33ladEmjay · Answer

GIrls dont become happy by having different guys.. The western society might tell them that it is okay whatever they do. But women find out the reality of the lies when they get pass their 30s and life is truly short and they'll find out the truth regardless.

The more guys a girl dates the more she becomes unhappy.. and she has less chance of going into a long-term relationship.

For men doesn't matter if they're NOT SIMPS. men dont connect love with s3x.. I do see that the western world is finished! Too much SIMPS here.. that ruin everything.

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HaleyCatgirl · Answer

Yes that's what we call loose cannons lol less for some reason you want to get in a three-way relationship which never works from everything I've seen somebody gets jealous and somebody ends up with somebody at least at the end of the day or just implodes

Boat4Fun · Answer

Well I found myself in a situation where my wife (19yrs) said she loved two guys. She was having an emotional affair and claims the only met once and had sex. She had two dates before before we met. Found out he was married (at the time) several years ago. That was two years ago, but the emotional thing was still going on. How can this be. I was the better bet, more dependable and I was always there for her kids and family. Should I have just left? I'm trying to work through this. I said I will not do it again. I'm tooo old for this crap.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Of course. Humans didn't develop to just like one person so it's only natural if we come across this, obviously that's not an excuse to cheat though.
I get many crushes very quick and have many I crush on but I aren't going to cheat if I had partner for one of those crushes.

FreyaRed · Answer

I can't but I think some people can. Answer to this question would be very long because ability to like multiple people romantically is connected closely with personality type of a person. Generally people who can are incompatible with me romantically.

mandyfire98 · Answer

Absolutely. I currently do and have in the past. Poly relationships do it all of the time.

Nik1hil · Answer

It's Possible, very little probability, but possible..

romantic attraction means a surge of neurotransmitters when getting involved with someone.

People who are Polygamous in their hardwiring of the brain, during their phallic stage of development, can have that kind of issue..

SolitarySolace · Answer

It's possible but at the same time it creates the delema that love isn't real if you can romantically love more than one individual. Ovd is between two people. It's supposed to make those two individuals feel special and as if they're the only two people on this earth.

Jasmin01 · Answer

Yes, I've had feelings for two guys at the same time. But then it is extremely difficult. I had to choose one because I didn't want to be in a love triangle or secretly want to be with both of them.

molonski2 · Answer

Oh hell yeah ! Of course they can , and it completely and utterly natural for all to do that.

OddBeMe · Answer

No. Well I guess yes but not equally. Nothing human can be equal, as it’s a perfect equality. You’ll always love someone more. Even with your kids.

Good thought experiment: flip a coin after assigning a guy to each side. Flip and put your hand over it so you can see the outcome.

NOW: do you want one of the guys to win over the other?

HouseMoat · Answer

Mormons did it for a long time. However, you could argue that, having multiple wives wasn't really "love", it was just what the religion said they could do, if they wanted. I don't think it exists anymore, any mormons out there know?

But no, I don't think you can "love" more than one person at a time. The question is, if you love someone, why would you ever "break up"?

KhunMike · Answer

I've talked to tons of poly people. They're all full if shit. You can go online and talk to them. They're swingers who hate the term "swingers."

They want to fuck multiple people, but they prefer to be called "polyamorous."

It really is a much more quaint term.

strateguy632 · Answer

obviously a feeling is a feeling possible toward many.

Sonorous · Answer

Romantic in this sense is too broad to really answer. So I'm just going to say that I could easily be sexually attracted to multiple people at once though I couldn't be deeply emotionally invested with multiple people at once.

Amur8711 · Answer

I currently am stuck in the middle of liking multiple women right now, I only know them through social media and messaging them. They all live far away from me. Its a pain to try and decide who is best for me. I feel at this point I need to actually meet each of them to know who. But afraid they find out about the others. 😞

yakumo · Answer

Yes, but I would never admit it to a girlfriend.

Akothee005 · Answer

I don't think that a person can like multiple people at once maybe just having a crush and that ends after a couple of days.

LingyRolls · Answer

I think it depends on the person. And even then, maybe they can... But should they? Would it cause problems? Things to think about...

IslaTheWitch · Answer

To be honest, I can't imagine such scenario, but I get people are different. It looks like I can process only one thread at time :D

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

It's not a suitable scenario but, yes, some people can romantically like multiple people at once.

Saiesh30 · Answer

It's more like lust and attraction rather than love. You can't love more than one person but yeah you can be attracted to many or be fond of many.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Can you have sexual attraction and feelings for multiple people.. Sure, but you always focus on one person more than the other.. And eventually feelings for one person overpowers the other..

DextroShade · Answer

Only men can, which is why some societies allowed men to have multiple wives but no society that got past the stone age allowed a woman to have multiple husbands.

Kabluie · Answer

Yeah, I do. Polyamory works if everyone is on the same page, plenty of people are non-mono or poly.

RingOfFire · Answer

I think my answer to the question in this link also addresses this question.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Not sure if it's something I could do but I'm sure it exists

madhatters4 · Answer

i don't feel that i can but i believe some people can

DubiousIntentions · Answer

Sue they can, but like most choices you can only have one.

BadApple69 · Answer

Yes we can. It's not healthy nor does it ever end well... But yes we can.

Random_g · Answer

If they kept their options open.. or didn't learn how to lower their gaze.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

That would be Utah Mormons they pravtice polygamy and they married up to 5 wifes.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

''Romantic'' is a medieval construction around social interaction. So: 'romantically' one can't. And practically, one surely can.

Nifrayu · Answer

Yes. There's nothing stopping that from happening and there are people who are romantically involved with multiple people at once. This is why polygamous relationships exist.

AydenHazor · Answer

You can absolutely be romantically interested in multiple people at the same time, that doesn't mean you should act on those feelings towards each of them.

sheenagwapa · Answer

it's hard to tell when you have not talk or see that person without filter

QuietRunner · Answer

you could romantically like multiple people at once, but you'll probably have a favorite and that would cause issues.  It might not work out in the end

Grond21 · Answer

You can have some kind of crush or infatuation for more than 1 person. But it never gets deeper than that with both people simultaneously.

2021biguy · Answer

If you really love someone, it's only one person, maybe you have crushes on others. People with a strong pair bonding ability only bond with one person.

Angelo75 · Answer

yep. I've been there more than once.  Such a headache.

Tim2nice · Answer

Yes. I have loved 2 women equally at the same time in the past.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

I don't know, I don't think I've ever seen such thing happen before

Forceinhand · Answer

Too many "can you" questions like these when there ought to be more "should you" ones.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Multiple is rather high.. but a couple, yeah it’s possible. However bad energy will take over if you aren’t being honest.

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

Yes it's possible. If it wasn't possible, then there'd be a lot less drama in the world.

SotiCoto · Answer

Obviously. But as long as they don't act on it, it doesn't really matter, does it?

animesenpai · Answer

Yes I think everyone can... logistically should you that's probably the beter question

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