Do you think it is possible to fall in love with more than one person at the same time?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. But it is possible to fall in love with the attention and validation of having more than one person interested in you at the same time.

And that’s a YOU problem if you engage it because it swells your ego. Make up your mind and choose the guy who you know will be the best for you. Then politely break off communication with the other guy. You can still say hello and engage in small talk if you run into him. But never reach out to him or worse hang out with the number 2 guy just because the number one guy isn’t available or worse you want to make him jealous.

I was the number 2 guy with one girl I was crazy in love with in college. She kept on telling me that she “liked me” even though she was dating another guy (who later became her future husband and father of her children). This included her calling me on her own volition. She thought she could “piece meal” the perfect man by getting attention from both of us.

This was 1.5 years of absolute pure hell for me. I didn’t understand the friéndzone back then (it wasn’t common vernacular at the time). But have absolutely NO good memories of that. None. I abhorred her because she made me hate myself. She was a constant reminder that I didn’t get the number one slot because I lacked something. She was a constant reminder that I “almost” made it. Nothing funny about that.

Don’t don’t do that to men. Ever.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

The answer depends on how you define "love." For me, love me that I am so enamored with one woman that all I want is her, I am devoted to her, hopefully she is devoted to me, and we want to spend the rest of our lives together.

With that definition, it is not possible to love two people at the same time. If you think you love two people at the same time, what you are feeling for each one is not love.

YesterdaysChild · Accepted Answer

Guys sometimes haven't the faintest idea of what falling in love means. True love takes time to grow. It doesn't happen in an instant, or an hour, or even after a few dates. That is most likely infatuation or lust. It might make you ask yourself why most marriages/relationships end after a relatively short time. Well this is just one of the reasons. They weren't really in true love. You see this a lot with actors. They "fall in love|" with their co-star and get divorced. Then a year down the line the same thing happens and they are divorced again.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You can definitely have feelings for more than one person, but I wouldn’t call it love.

coachTanthony · Answer

No because if that’s the case then I think you aren’t in love with either of them.

kylee2437 · Answer

No. That means you use “falling in love” too loosely

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Many say no but I think you can. You can make it happen if you invest enough time with that other person. Falling in love is pretty big, so I don't know how much effort you need to put into that for it to actually happen. You probably need to be a person who easily catches feelings. They're out there.

Kayla45 · Answer

Depends, being romantically in love is very different than loving someone such as a very close friend or family member.

In regards to romantic love, a normal person would only consider one partner their love interest.

Those who cheat on their partners have some obvious issues that need addressing.

Chevy1_kb · Answer

No if you love someone it's only them it's not possible if I do then it's not true love u only love 1love if you do feel that you like two sit and think at alone time and make ure mind cause also sneaky secrets are not good in relationships cause it's not possible to love two at the one time one love and one love only if there's more than one u gotta think about what your choice is because more than one person is not a option if I want true love

abc3643 · Answer

No.
REAL LOVE is a form of insanity and, once you are in real love with someone, there are no others.
You can have a profound fondness for others that would blossom into real love IF the person wasn't already in real love. Real love blocks out all others.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

No. I think you can develop infatuation with someone else. Relationships can become boring and predictable and eventually someone different will come along that peaks your curiosity but I don't believe a person can feel romantic love for more than one person at a time. Just lust, infatuation, excitement, etc.

DannyUk2017 · Answer

No! Is not possible... what you feel is NOT LOVE, is just pure carnal desire! Love is a Total Different thing from what you "might think" it is "love".

RasmusAiken · Answer

Being loved by someone means having a partner who is all-in for you without reservations or conditions. So, no you can't be in love with more than one person. At some point you must choose one.

Billlewis · Answer

I don't know -- ask Mary McGregor --

Anonymous · Answer

ehhhhh, I mean, I definitely think you can love more than one person at a time, but maybe not "be in love" with more than one. If you're "in love" with someone, there shouldn't be room in your heart to be "in love" with someone else. Otherwise, I wouldn't say you're in love.

slatyb · Answer

To fall in love? Yes, but until you've been with someone for a while, it's pretty shallow. What do you want?

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Yes, I’m pretty sure that’s why polyamory is a thing

provokeesmokee · Answer

For some folks for sure! Polyamory is more common than people realize.

Nikki1989 · Answer

You can love many people, but it probably isn't a good idea.

SexyBrunetteNY · Answer

No, not for me. Love happens rarely and I can't imagine that.

sheikalana · Answer

That's not being in love that's being in lust.

gkhan · Answer

Of course it’s possible but thing is real question is  What would a person do about it

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. The people that think this is a thing do not understand they don't love EITHER person. What you're describing is not love. It's limmerance, Infatuation.

jb2622 · Answer

Depends on your definition of love, if it's just infatuation sure.

CaliAttorneyGuy · Answer

For me, no. I can find many people attractive, but I only fall for one person at a time.

Guardian45 · Answer

I have definitely liked more than one woman. I'm poly, but my partners tend not to be, so I've been monogamous relationships.

LiamJHayden · Answer

For me, no. I do not let emotions control me like that. But for others, probably.

aquamarine321 · Answer

No that’s not possible, you can only live one partner

SUMAIREBRAHIM · Answer

Not actually but guys can be attracted to multiple girls i would say it's more of lust

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Absolutely, why wouldn't it be?

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Nope…

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

Well, there are polyamorous people out there.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Yes of course it is possible

love_conquers_lust · Answer

I think that’s falling in lust.

collie22 · Answer

I don't think so but crushing two is doable

Nifrayu · Answer

Of course it is.

Kelly6 · Answer

yes it is possible

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes I think its possible.

msc545 · Answer

I think it is very possible.

BLP11520 · Answer

I don’t believe you can

strawberrybaby3 · Answer

No i don’t think so

overthinkergirl · Answer

nope

Anonymous · Answer

Yes i fall in love with many girls same time.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Sadly, yes 🥺😳

Akam93 · Answer

Yes it's possible.

The_Smart_Engineer · Answer

Yes it is possible

MissBoogus · Answer

I think so

jahaims · Answer

Definitely not

LavLavLuv · Answer

For me, no

Minahh · Answer

At one time no

cocoblah · Answer

Nope

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