Should I kiss a guy on the Cheek?

[cmlina3]

I've been dating this guy for 3 months. Within the 3 months we've seen each other 5/6 times so 1-2 times a month. When we went on our 4th date he asked if he could kiss me and I immediately laughed because I was cut off guard that he asked and because the thought of a guy wanting to show me affection makes me feel uncomfortable. We've talked about attachment styles and he knows I'm hesitant to show affection because of my childhood trauma. He's been really patient and understanding with me but I could tell I hurt his feelings when I rejected his ask to kiss me. I would love to be more affectionate with him but it makes my skin crawl when someone tries to show their affection for me. Part of me thinks I'm unworthy of love maybe? Sooo should I kiss him on the cheek next time I see him? Would he appreciate it? Or is it weird to kiss a guy on the cheek? Thxxxx

[_Maya_]

So yeah you can do that. It has been enough time and dates for that to be totally appropritate. Thing is only do it if you are feeling comfortable. I see in the description that you have some past trauma and you are apprehesive. So only do it if you feel like it. Don't force yourself to do it just to please him. Sounds like he has waited this long without a problem so just make sure the moment is right and you are comfortable is all I am saying. I do think he would appreciate it and shows you are taking a step towards being a bit more physical with him. Good luck!

[cmlina3]

Tysm! I appreciate your answer! It made me feel not so about myself.. haha! I will attempt!

[_Maya_]

Aww you are welcome sweetie. Just don't feel like if the time comes and all of a sudden you don't feel comfortable like you have to do it. There is always another day but I think he would really like if you did. Good luck to you. 💜

[cmlina3]

Thanks again angel!😇🫶

[RavVid]

After 3 months a guy would like to get some physical affection if only because it indicates you do have affection for him.

I am used to social pretend cheek kiss where you just touch cheeks only. He might turn his head so lip contact doesn't happen especially after what you informed him of. Don't be surprised.

At times what i thought was going to be a pretend check kiss has been an actual kiss on the cheek. It is always a pleasant 'oh she does like me' surprise. Never thought it weird.

Some of the sexiest kisses have just been a peck on the lips from the girl.

Maybe I'm weird because I don't like French kissing that much but I do get off talking with our lips touching. Lot of good sensations with the later.

Yeah kiss on the cheek or peck him on the lips.

Perhaps you could work up to being more demonstrable in affection? Your skin crawls if they are initiating. But if you do? It is not clear if that is still a problem for you.

[cmlina3]

Tysm for your insightful response! I believe I’d feel more comfortable initiating it but I’m unsure😅 definitely will try this weekend!

[RavVid]

Let us know if it does work :)

[Avicenna]

It doesn't sound like the two of you will be able to give each other the affection each of you wants. He clearly wants more than a kiss on the cheek.

[SueShe]

A peck on the cheek is fine but nothing more. Dates are meetings to get to know each other and not places to become intimate after 4 dates.

If you feel uncomfortable kissing that guy, you should let him know beforehand and simply tell him that you abhor kisses and other marks of affection until you know the person inside out.

To know someone is to do a thorough background check on him/her before you let anything more intimate happen. People are being dishonest about themselves and will never tell you beforehand or during the dates whether they have a criminal record, whether they have addictions of are the parent of a number of children at home.

Do not let yourself be stressed next time and a peck on each cheek before separating is perfectly okay.

[riverrat3]

If you want, go for it

[In_Trance]

Absolutely